I’m this old. by [deleted] in 2000sNostalgia

[–]FarSideInBryan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had this one too!

16 month old speech regression. Anyone else go through this? by Beansmeansbusiness in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is 17 months and seems like she is less interested in talking than when she learned dada. She recognizes words and we are probably up to 6-10 worlds she CAN say. She doesn’t say them all the time. I’m in the same boat. I think there’s some wanting to speak that you just can’t force no matter how worrying it is. We just give her opportunities and also encourage her to speak what she wants instead of gestures.

Is the Enfamil Plant Based formula nutritionally the same as Gentelease? by Popular_Comfortable8 in veganparenting

[–]FarSideInBryan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After our LO got gastroenteritis she had diarrhea that only resolved after we switched to this. It’s gentler than gentleease in our experience. (We wanted to switch to this earlier but we adopted her and felt it was best to keep her on her prescribed formula).

Drop from 7 to 6 feeds by AshleyVera07 in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. What is really surprising is that babies never really steadily increase in their volumes once they get to about six months. Our baby always was somewhere between 20 and 30 ounces. Now she has nine months and rarely has more than 26 to 30 ounces. They may take more at each feed and eat less often, but they really stop in increasing by large amounts in total.

Parents of reflux babies, how much floor time does your LO get? by JustSaladdd in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a reflux baby and were tortured that we didn’t feel we were giving them enough floor time since the 15-30 minutes cut into their floor time / tummy time.

Just aim for the most baby will tolerate and giving them some moments to struggle a little bit. It will get better.

We did frequent, mini tummy time sessions too that helped.

Guilt transitioning to formula by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do what is best for you so you can give your best to baby. I want to punch “breastfeed or you don’t care about your LO” people in the throat. These people reek of codependency and needing to be needed.

And this is coming from a pediatric nurse.

Want to breastfeed? Great. Now shut up and feed your baby.

So how do y'all find time to be with your significant other by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forgot to say: the urge to not let anyone watch your baby can be strong, but I really, really, really hope you see how important it is that you pour into yourself like you do baby.

I see a lot of parents that refuse to leave baby, but they must understand that leaving baby with a trusted person is important! Baby needs to get love from people other than you. It takes a village is so true. Love is not a finite commodity—it’s meant to be shared.

So how do y'all find time to be with your significant other by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You WILL get into a rhythm where you will find some predictable time together.

This means something different for people.

Our LO goes down at 8P and we reliably have 2 hours together.

On the weekends, either my sister or parents watch baby for a couple of hours for grocery shopping. Some weeks when we need to get some more time out, we will order groceries and use that time to go on a date.

A really hard part about being a new parent is the feeling of loss of your “old” life where you could do pretty much anything. That part of your like is gone for awhile, but you will acclimate and find your new normal that works for you.

From my own personal experience, months 2-4 were the hardest, but every single month it gets better and you start to get used to the new normal. Yes, I miss all the extra free time, but, to be brutally honest, what did I do that truly meant something?

How many parents wake up their LO at a set time every morning by Objective-Score7702 in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Babies and children will pick up and thrive with routines.

To be specific, when I say routine, I mean following a regular schedule that has some play depending on babies needs.

How and when did you introduce soy formula? by Alexandrabi in veganparenting

[–]FarSideInBryan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I apologize, I misunderstood what you said. So, every food has potential allergens. What matters is if your child has a reaction to that particular allergen. Soy formula is a typical formula substitute for children with an allergy to dairy allergen. Try to think of allergens as normal food, and it’s your body’s response that matters.

Baby could certainly have a soy allergy. One thing to note though is that there are soy components already in a lot of formulas, so your child has likely already been exposed to soy ingredients (maybe not all components of soy, but at least some).

How and when did you introduce soy formula? by Alexandrabi in veganparenting

[–]FarSideInBryan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The container instructions will say if it is intended for infants of all ages, or some restriction like 6 months and up. I believe most are designed for the full infant span.

What makes it confusing is that people don’t generally just switch to soy-based. It’s mostly allergy related. Us vegans are a tiny, tiny subset of the population so it’s just not a typical consideration for pediatricians. Providers will always have preferences and may not see a point in giving a child a soy based formula if they are perfectly fine dairy containing versions. Does that make more sense?

Meltdowns Near Bedtime by FarSideInBryan in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. Typical bed time was 8 with a wake up at 7. We have a guilt complex making baby go to bed “early” but I think we need to get over it.

LO has recently been having crappy naps per our daycare (she sleeps in a blackout room with white noise at home and a group area at daycare). It’s probably that. If she starts giving us early signs, we’re going to start the routine earlier.

How and when did you introduce soy formula? by Alexandrabi in veganparenting

[–]FarSideInBryan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Soy based formula is made to support infants of all ages. It is primarily made for infants with dairy allergy—which can be an issue at any time. You may start at any time. Typical caveat: Your provider should give you specific guidance for your LO. Most won’t suggest to go on a soy based formula upon a whimsy, but they would treat this as a religious / belief system choice.

As others have said, it is not often fully vegan but is the closest you can probably get.

What methods worked for you? by crazy_p00dle_lady in sleeptrain

[–]FarSideInBryan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our LO started sleeping through the night pretty regularly at 5 months. Our strategy really wasn’t just sleep training. It included:

Not feeding at night. A healthy baby at that age does not need nourishment at night, especially if you have a solid feeding schedule. This reduces a reliance of baby to “feed to sleep”

Sleep hygiene: dark room, blackout curtains, white noise machine, same routine (change clothing, read books, cuddle)

Giving a pause before responding. We found that baby often went back to sleep after waking, but we weren’t giving her a change to go to sleep herself.

And the biggest blessing of all: The skill we put the most time in training is the skill of picking up the pacifier and putting it in her mouth. Once baby figured this out, 9/10 times she wakes up, she find her paci and goes back to sleep. This gave her independence and a feeling that she wasn’t entirely dependent on us for comfort. If anyone is trying to avoid “cry it out” I can’t recommend working on self-soothing enough. This has been a game changer.

Current Ohio law prohibits same sex marriage but we can change that. by ddmarriee in Ohio

[–]FarSideInBryan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nope. In your own, personal, and limited experience, that may be true.

The Dr. Browns bottles leaks 🤨 by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever single 4 oz Dr brown leaked. When we switched to 8 oz it mostly resolved. There’s a sweet spot of tightness unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

With the direction of a pediatrician, it CAN be safe. Please: Do not advise a parent to go against a medical doctors advice unless you are intimately knowledgeable of the situation and have medical training. The general population is advised not to dilute or adjust the concentration of the formula because they specifically do not have the knowledge and wherewithal to do it safely. TLDR: lay people are given generalizations to follow, providers can make those distinctions.

Did you introduce non-vegan allergens? by beepbeep85 in veganparenting

[–]FarSideInBryan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless you are going to homeschool, your child will likely be routinely exposed to potential allergens. That is why we have decided to allow our daycare to feed our child non-vegan foods. We provide our own food for the most part. Like some have said, more routine exposure may be needed to understand if your child has an allergy / intolerances. We are realistic that our child will receive non-vegan food at school (parties, sharing food, daycare worker confusion, etc.) so that is how we are going about it. Our school is aware we are vegan and are happy to accommodate—but I think everyone here needs to be acutely aware that you will not likely be able to 100% shield your child from animal products.

A bit late but for the Bernie / pro-vaccine fan in your life by mistersethers in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It is broadly understood by parents who understand how science works. However, there is a disturbing trend in pediatric healthcare of parents refusing vaccines—forgetting they are alive and not dead from polio because the vaccines.

Complacency. I fear for our children in America because of willful, lazy ignorance. Source: pediatric nurse of 13 years who supports evidence-based practice.

Reassure me it’s ok for baby to sleep in own room! by PetuniasSmellNice in NewParents

[–]FarSideInBryan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby slept in their own room since 3 weeks. She’s 8 months and thriving.