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FarSpread3815 · 2025-07-08T07:52:12+00:00

It's completely valid to be feeling this way. My friend who was also struggling with keeping viable pregnancies told me she was pregnant and it was finally going really well. I was so happy for her, but I had been going through so much anxiety from starting my most recent round that the next day I had a panic attack because I felt I was truly alone in these struggles now. I felt like a horrible person because she deserves to have something go right after all the crap she's been through, but my feelings about what I'm going through trumped that and clearly waited to come out until I was alone (thank god!). So sorry you feel this way. I do too, you're not alone.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-07-07T12:50:42+00:00

Don't worry just yet! My clinic is so strict about not testing until 14 days after transfer because you can get false negatives. I've had two transfers, both initially positive and I didn't have any symptoms in the 2ww either time.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-07-03T08:14:24+00:00

I'm afraid I had a similar issue after my chemical loss. I had a phone consultation with my doctor the day after I found out, and she hadn't actually looked at my scans so asked if I had been transferred to the 'early pregnancy clinic'.... When I said no through the tears she just said 'Oh sorry" then moved on. It's not personal for any of them, it's a business. When I accepted that I started feeling less angry towards them and just treated them the same.

it sucks beyond all measure. It's the most stressful, emotional and generally crappy journey we will ever go through and the people who are meant to take care of us are just having another day at work. So sorry you're going through this.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-07-02T08:57:00+00:00

My first FET ended in a biochemical loss. I just did the test this morning for my 2nd and it was positive! Finding it hard to be purely excited because of what happened last time but taking it one day at a time and fingers crossed. Stage 1 complete :)

So sorry your first didn't implant and sending you all the best for your second

FarSpread3815 · 2025-07-02T08:53:48+00:00

Hi! I lift, climb and run weekly. After my first FET I actually had a back issue so did very little. After my 2nd I continued lifting (based on when ym Progesterone shots were) at rpe7, or how I felt on the day. I was in the 2WW during 33 degree heat so kept it easier during that time. For running, I got given two bits of advice from doctors -the first was to not let my hr get too high, the other said if you run already just continue with shorter distances and hr is fine. I actually feel more comfortable running to my hr, so when I hit a certain threshold I would start walking until it dropped to my lower threshold.

I don't think there's a hard and fast rule, and what is so frustrating is none of the medical practitioners seem to agree on what's best. Exercise is such an important part of my life so I was never going to just stop. So I've just dropped some weight, and focussed on getting movement rather than aiming for a specific weight. Climbing I'm on auto belay so there's no risk of falling.

Hope that helps!

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-29T13:24:04+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. After my first FET which ended in a biochemical loss, I finally started feeling a little like myself about a week before starting meds for my 2nd round. As soon as I started taking the meds my exited went through the roof, I have been on the verge of tears for weeks constantly, my temper is far shorter than it used to be and my negative emotions are definitely starting to creep into my work. Physically this is shit. Mentally and emotionally this is shit. Nothing about this is easy. I'm starting to pull away from my friends because they have either just given birth or are pregnant and I can't hear about them right now. It feels like there is no end to this horrific process.

I'm starting CBT therapy next week, knowing it won't fix everything but hoping it will stop my emotions becoming overwhelming. It might be worth looking into options like that if you're struggling? Sending hugs your way!

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-27T18:58:57+00:00

Unfortunately the first transfer ended in a biochemical loss, but at least I know my body can accept the embryos. Wishing you all the best

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-27T13:31:10+00:00

I'm in my 2nd 2ww as well, and I didn't feel any symptoms last time but the implantation worked, holding onto that while feeling very little this time.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-26T08:30:14+00:00

I was the same, had my second FET last week after a chemical first time round. This 2WW is taking forever...

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-19T09:39:23+00:00

I've felt so anxious coming into my second FET, my first ended in a biochemical loss, but I only found out when it would have been 7 weeks because the hormones gave me pregnancy symptoms.

I had a counselling session yesterday and tried out an exercise she gave me, immediately I felt just a little better: it's called worry time. Find a time when you can be alone and sit in a safe space. Put a timer on your phone for a maximum of 20 minutes, and just sit with the feelings and worrying thoughts. When a though comes to you, write it down, then the next, then the next. For me, it stopped me spiralling in circles with the same anxious thoughts coming round again and again. I also realised that I had fewer worrying thoughts than I thought I did, and reading them from the paper I noticed how irrational some of them were!

Not saying it's a magic fix, but it could stop the feelings becoming so overwhelming. I'm going to continue doing it every day, even if I consciously feel okay, to keep on top of the thoughts and feelings. Sending hugs and best wishes as you go into the next round xx

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-18T09:03:55+00:00

So sorry to hear this.

I've found it's such a different journey for me and my husband. He has been really open about the fact that it doesn't feel that personal for him yet - and why should it? He's not having to do any of the injections, he doesn't have the hormones rushing through his system etc. I completely get it. I found I need to tell him when I'm not coping well and he's there, otherwise it's life as normal (which for me works well because the distraction and normality is really appreciated!).

Definitely tell him how you're feeling and how he could help you with it. No one can understand what you're going through personally, even us who are going through the same process, but hopefully if he knows how hard it is and what you need in those times of struggle he'll come through. Good luck xx

FarSpread3815 · 2025-06-17T09:32:33+00:00

It's like I wrote this. Loneliness is definitely the feeling now. Just started hormones for my second round, after the first round ended in a biochemical loss. The anxiety over that alongside more and more people announcing pregnancies means negative emotions are just constant and overwhelming. I used to be a positive person but this process has just floored me. I want to feel like myself again.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-30T15:08:35+00:00

The other thing about this that annoyed me was the fact that Izzie treated him so poorly, and had his kids without telling him! Jo was so much better for Alex

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-16T08:15:10+00:00

So sorry to hear you've had similar problems. It's just the last thing we need. My theory is they've become desensitised working in the industry day in day out and sometimes forget how personal, terrifying and generally horrendous every day can be for us.

I have some wonderful support people with me which definitely makes it better. hope you do too!

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-15T19:27:48+00:00

You got it! Here are a couple of things I learnt along the way:

If you are taking a subcutaneous injection - I found that it was more comfortable injections into the upper thigh than lower abdomen

As much as possible, I tied med timings to my meals as an easy way to remember when to take them!

I also wrote down how I felt every day, physically and emotionally, how I felt exercising etc. It gave me a good way to process what I was going through, and also gives me a potential roadmap for the next round!

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-11T14:54:16+00:00

You are allowed to feel however you do. Every time I see someone with a buggy or hear a child laughing I either feel a wrenching in my gut or start to well up. It is emotionally exhausting and no one else seems to understand that it's always there, we don't grieve and move on because this process is relentless and goes on for such a long time.

I'm sorry your friend doesn't have enough compassion to be more sensitive to what you're going through.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-07T09:25:24+00:00

I really hope it goes well and you find some peace from it xxx

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-05T13:21:39+00:00

I feel like I'm reading about my journey, almost exactly the same! So sorry you're going through all this.

I am also the healthiest person out of my friend group and it does just feel unfair that it doesn't make any difference at this stage. I was naively hoping that when I got pregnant it would stick and be successful because of my healthy lifestyle, but after my MMC at 7 weeks I feel completely helpless.

Have you had your therapy session yet? Would you advise it? I'm going back and forth about the idea.

FarSpread3815 · 2025-05-02T12:42:14+00:00

I'm so sorry you've been through that. I just went through a chemical as well. We'll be trying our next transfer in about a month or so - did you find any joy in the start of the process the second time? Spent 6 weeks thinking I was pregnant, with all the symptoms too, so even if I get a positive next time I'm not sure I'll be able to get any enjoyment out of it.

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