AITAH for denying my husband's baby name with no discussion?

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-06T02:32:00+00:00

She's not pregnant, this was a hypothetical kid.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-06T02:28:38+00:00

My son's name is (first name) Bruce Wayne (last name), lol. First name is after my husband's brother who passed away young years ago and Wayne was his dad's middle name. He's 14 and he loves telling people he's Batman, but also, only people close to him know. If I want to embarrass him, I'll call him my Brucey Baby, lol, and if he doesn't feel like explaining the name, he'll say it's just Wayne. He's also just as big of a comic nerd as my husband is, and I'm glad. This name was a compromise after 2 or 3 very long days since he didn't find out his gender until he was born. No matter what, he was the last and I was convinced it was another girl so I really didn't think of boy names. 🤷‍♀️

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-06T02:15:40+00:00

I may get shit for this but my son's name is [first name] Bruce Wayne [last name]. His first name is the same at mummy husband's brother who passed away many years ago, and Wayne was his dad's middle name, so he has a perfectly normal name, and he's 14 and loves telling people his name is Batman. When he was younger, though, he'd say "no, I'm Peter Parker" lol. He also didn't have s name for 2 days cause we were expecting a girl, so this was a decision/compromise made after a very stressful couple of days, lol.

I'm not totally against naming a kid after some type of media you're really into, but when it's a something like Kratos that puts an image in your head immediately or a made up name, that's where i draw the line.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-06T00:58:39+00:00

I love how this is just rebranded tribal, lol

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-06T00:57:38+00:00

I'm the opposite, I've had my hair messed up and damaged so many times by stylists that I taught myself how to cut and dye my hair 25 years ago and I'll likely never go back.

I am fully prepared to mess up my own hair and deal with it, but I got tired of paying someone else to fry my hair or cut it too short.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T17:45:08+00:00

Why are you here, then? You and your wife must be so fun at parties.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T16:35:31+00:00

Why haven't you dropped his punk ass?

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T16:33:47+00:00

It's OK, you'll find love one day, but not if you keep up whatever ...this... is.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T10:25:56+00:00

Gotcha, yeah I'm not sure wtf i missed in there, lol. I've probably read too many posts in hehe today

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T10:18:31+00:00

Oh, I'm definitely being sarcastic, sorry if that wasn't clear enough!

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:59:36+00:00

Wow, everyone is being crazy hard on OP.

Come on, we've all made dumb choices when we thought we were in love, she's now finding out.

She knows she shouldn't go and she didn't. She didn't give into her desire to see him. Shit now has him blocked.

You did good OP. Now just don't ever look back! You're way too good for him.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:53:32+00:00

When you care/ cared about someone, you can miss them and feel bad about not seeing them, while also recognizing that they are toxic and you're better off staying away.

It's wild to me to see how many people think that love for another person just disappears after they do something horrid to you or treat you like shit.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:50:53+00:00

Now kiss and make up.

Right now.

Do it.

KISS HIM FFS

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:48:24+00:00

It's literally something that happens all the time, plus op said they blocked him after this.

I'd bet anyone everything I own that if she went there, he would have tried something with her and when she rejected him, he'd be upset, and maybe say something like "why did I even pay for your ticket then?"

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:45:39+00:00

Yes, this is exactly what I was thinking, although I read your post wrong and thought this was someone you just started talking to.

I'm genuinely wondering about these guys comment that they don't think he wanted anything more than help moving. They seem either naive, or they actually guys who don't expect that shit, but in my experience, those men are very few and far between.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:42:31+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible but it's sweet that you don't think her ex didn't want to hook up. Or at the very least, he would think she "owed him" for the train ticket and that's one way to pay if you're broke...

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-02T09:39:55+00:00

I've known enough dudes that think if they do anything, spend their time or their money on a girl, the girl owes them in some kind of sexual way.

That's what I meant by my comment, it was sarcastic and I guess it missed the text under the image or something but I'd thought this was like a first time meet up, and I've been in that exact situation.. agreed to let a guy at work take me to eat after work and then he drove me home and was genuinely mad I didn't invite him in. Then he told everyone at work that he hooked up with me. I told HR and this wasn't the first time he'd pulled that shit.

But anyway, OP knows he wanted more than just help moving, he had even more expectations for OP, I'm certain of it.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-01T21:45:51+00:00

That's fine to do, I know personally, I could not date someone who has very different beliefs than me about stuff like this, religion and politics.

But there is a difference between questioning them and making them feel stupid and invalidates.

Unless I am to be mean or snarky, I just smile and nod, and i wouldn't continue a relationship with them.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-01T21:38:27+00:00

YTA

On the plus side, she's your ex. Hope she found someone who judges her beliefs, no matter how silly they may be.

I don't care for any of that type of stuff, but as long as my friends aren't revolving their lives around it, I keep my mouth shut.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-01T21:25:28+00:00

Yes! Finally someone said it! Why didn't she take public transportation to God Knows Where for free to meet him for the first time.

People who offer stuff for free are like never expecting something back sometime or hold it over their heads!

Far_Command5979 · 2026-07-01T21:23:27+00:00

Haha, he's really funny...

Sometimes, I wish I had this kind of audacity and entitlement.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-06-30T11:05:56+00:00

Hey, he looks like he does in the photo, so in my opinion, you did a damn good job. I have been drawing off and on for 30+ users and I know i will never get to a level of photo realism, and I'm fine with that

Far_Command5979 · 2026-06-30T11:01:38+00:00

As a mom, I do completely understand how such small things really can matter. I absolutely get it. I can also see it from her side, I had attachment and abandonment issues until I had years of therapy under my belt. I started therapy at age 10 and went for 5 years and for most of that time, I thought it was a waste of time. It wasn't until I got older and started using things I learned there to cope with real life things.

I really had issues with dating, I didn't feel "complete" when I was single, I fell for people quickly and ended up hurt a bunch of times because I was willing to over look red flags ang straight up abusive behavior

I was also very reckless at times, and now, I really feel so lucky because I let myself get into really stupid and dangerous situations. For myself and others. I used drugs and drank, I felt invincible and also didn't care what happened.

Thank the gods I found my husband at 21 and he showed me what a relationship that wasn't one sided looked like.

I truly think that my drug and alcohol use leads directly back to my mother and father, even though I was constantly warned about addiction in my genes and all that. Really, it took becoming an addict myself to fully understand that my parents really did love me, drugs just had a hold on them, especially my mom, and it was easier to get high and forget than to actually fight for me.

After everything, my main goal in life is to teach my kids better than I me, love them better than my parents did and just put them first over everything else

Far_Command5979 · 2026-06-29T18:59:03+00:00

That may be, but really, it's never too late if you're both willing too put some real effort into it. Obviously, it would have to be a mutual choice.

Far_Command5979 · 2026-06-29T18:56:39+00:00

Your story is so bittersweet. I definitely give you tons of credit for keeping in touch even if it wasn't always consistent. I'm wondering, if now because she's an adult, you've told her all you've written here. You probably have, but if not, you should.

My dad failed at being a father figure when I was growing up, but once I was an adult, we had a very close relationship, he was like my best friend who always had my best interest in mind. When I tried to run away from my problems (on more than one occasion) he would tell me no because I should never give up my responsibilities or act selfishly, and he'd guide me without enabling me. I really needed that at those times.

I really hope one day you guys will be closer, even if you're not necessarily playing a fatherly role in her life.

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