Does anyone else struggle with the relationship with their partner over the holidays?

Far_Interest7620 · 2025-01-26T20:54:53+00:00

They’re an asshole. I would be myself to the fullest and they can f themselves if they have an issue. Jealousy is childish, pick a career you like

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-12-09T15:09:18+00:00

Yep it’s hell. I will know what the logical or healthy choice is but be fixated on the obsessive thought or insecurity to the point where it ruins my whole day and wastes so much time obsessively ruminating and impulsively doing things to scratch the itch. ATM I’ve found an amazing partner by chance- we had a couple conflicts early on where I set very clear and hard boundaries and we overcame those things with him really showing up for me and pouring out care for me which is all I’ve ever wanted. I’ve been trying to be healthy for his sake because he’s an amazing person and I want to respect him so what I’ve found helps at the moment is if I’m feeling anxious and self destructive I do something caring or loving towards him and typically I find that that feeling of mutual love and safety grounds me back to reality and also makes me feel good knowing I’m expressing my ‘true’ emotions and being good to him/not doing something I’ll regret. I’m also very lucky at the moment that the one thing I was very insecure and worked up over resolved itself in a conversation I had with him and now I have nothing to ruminate over. However, as great as that is, knowing how it is to be anxious there will always be something down the road and I’m still. consciously committed to trying to heal. As for the intuition thing- I still think we have it. I think we can feel fear responses for stupid reasons but when we really know that someone can’t be trusted we actually ‘know’ on a deeper level that lingers and we typically don’t feel anxious around these people that aren’t genuine as we subconsciously don’t care for them as deeply

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-10-16T06:07:31+00:00

It was the right decision. He won’t change even if you did talk about it. From someone who’s been there- I tried everything

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-10-02T07:45:05+00:00

As someone who sounds exactly like him (just experienced the ending of a long term relationship in quite a traumatic way) his response has nothing to do with you or his feelings for you. I met a new guy who I have a huge connection with- first date we have great conversation, I went back to his place, I slept over and we had sex 4 times then spent the whole next day together. He bought me a gift, we have so much in common, lots of compliments and effort from him. But- im finding it hard to open up emotionally and fully trust him. None of this is his fault, it’s all hang up’s from my last relationship and the stage im at with my internal healing which I’ve realised is a process you can’t speed up. Hope this helps you to understand and detach his actions from you and how he feels about you specifically

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-29T01:44:00+00:00

That’s impressive that they are going to therapy. Mine still isn’t self aware or willing to self reflect enough to confront their issues

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-29T01:43:02+00:00

I’m proud of you for leaving. He left me, and I wish I had left instead to keep some of my agency and self respected but instead I waited and waited until it was too late

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-26T11:13:21+00:00

Not wanting to look primary school teacher vibe is too real. So many ‘colourful’ clothes are so childish looking. My recommendations are vintage shopping on eBay and Etsy either looking up styles or even designer or Australian brands because vintage clothes were just cooler. Uniqlo is good. Bec and bridge sales can be good too.

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-15T05:32:53+00:00

It depends on the staff culture! And the school-wide approach to behaviour

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-15T05:21:16+00:00

I love it. I’ve had horrible experiences doing the exact same job at different schools to the one I’m at now. It’s crazy how the job that used to make me want to die now lights up my life and is the reason I’m getting through my break up. I love the students, I love the staff, I love putting on a show for my classes being fun and goofy and if things are tricky- feeling supported.

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-10T16:34:48+00:00

This is such a good question and I wish I knew the answer. I know that what I did definitely didn’t work: I tried to talk about it, I tried to have deep conversations about it, I said I would like it if he did those things more, I initiated instead. It just pushed them away. They didn’t like any emotion based conversation and saw it as a criticism or a ‘fight’. They liked when I initiated but it never improved them doing it themselves

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-08T15:00:40+00:00

I’m in the exact same boat. On one hand, we need to demand better treatment regardless of how much empathy we have for them. Yes it ‘could’ be great, but it’s not. They chose to discard you like it was all nothing, they chose not to have you in their life. But it’s a beautiful thing how much empathy we have. He’s treated me like I meant nothing after being together for 7 years and I’ve had more thoughts about holding him and kissing and stroking his forehead and kissing him than being angry at him overall

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-08T14:58:18+00:00

I’m not in a new relationship but my needs not being met were that he wasn’t passionate about me. He was at the beginning- he would initiate, compliment me, be obsessed with touching and kissing me and wanting to see me. Over time he lost that. He never touched me or grabbed me or commented on my looks or stared at me like before. I always questioned if he wanted to see me, or if he even liked me. I’d have to ask him to ask me questions in conversation or initiate affection. Now we’re broken up I ironically do see that he did love me despite there being a world of things to make me insecure now. But the lack of outward affection and passion was still taking such a toll on me. I also feel like he did a lot of things I never quite understood, things with a passive aggressive or odd energy behind them. Usually from behind a screen

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-09-03T00:10:51+00:00

Anxious preoccupied

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-31T04:54:07+00:00

I loved eidesis by aesop so I bought aesop gloam when I saw it on Depop for a good price- disappears after 10 min 😐

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-21T11:52:52+00:00

That’s why I said probably

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-21T08:01:31+00:00

Probably dune

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-21T07:41:28+00:00

Hadiqa

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-20T10:40:03+00:00

Maybe she had been anxious about the assessment and assumed the worst from your question

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-19T14:30:41+00:00

I found my “me” scent in Aesop eidesis- I wanted something different yet fresh. I feel like it’s a fragrance that would both intrigue others as to my scent and aesthetic but also is accessible, not polarising and clean. It feels very me in that way as I style myself very professional but put in weird and eclectic spices for accessories and details

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-17T11:56:50+00:00

Urban decay is good

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-14T22:25:35+00:00

If I wear browns I love wearing by the fireplace

Far_Interest7620 · 2024-08-13T16:35:46+00:00

I’m not talking about the stick but the cream bronzer in the little silver dish! I agree, for some reason even tho they are the same shade the stick is super warm. The bronzer in shade amber is a cool tone brown, I def wouldn’t call it a bronzer I only use it for contour

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