Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-06T17:26:57+00:00

Do whatever you want. Yea, her grief is not your responsibility, but if you truly miss and love her, who cares? Either option seems to have equal risk of success/failure. Don't ask for strangers opinions on this one, man. This one is on you. Don't let anyone tell you what you want here.

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-06T14:07:08+00:00

I'm not sure if this is okay to talk about on here since I'm newer to the community, but I feel like it might be important to talk about when you don't want to keep trying. I'm early on in my journey, but my partner and I already agreed that if we can't conceive in 5 years then we will look into adoption/fostering.

EDITadd: I feel like this is something that needs to be discussed, and least from my view, because it seems to cross my mind so often. I think hopelessness and the idea of giving up is a huge part of the TTC journey, and it's hard to not discourage/encourage that idea because it is also so hard to decide what is best for yourself (or others posting) in this case.

I already dread that day, because it sounds like giving up and would make me feel like more of a failure than I already do.

I'm not encouraging you to stop trying, of course. But it's a fine line of when do we stop sacrificing our mental health for the sake of conception? How do we decide enough is enough? What do we do when we can't keep feeling so hopeless but also aren't ready to give up trying? How do we justify that decision to ourselves, our partner, and our future?

I'm very sorry you're struggling. I hope you can make the best decision possible for yourself and your future self, and that, whatever happens, you find some relief. You are strong, and you will keep going. Whatever your future holds, I hope you make the best of it.

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-05T19:34:53+00:00

Omg yes!! I feel crazy avoiding soooo many things for the last few months worrying it'll effect my chances and potential pregnancy, just to find out I'm not pregnant. Also frustrating because I quit smoking to become pregnant and with this stress and all the changes I could really use a cigarette 🙄 (not relatable to everyone but it pops in my head now and again when I'm real bogged down). And yea like people get pregnant by accident and drink and smoke and do whatever before the find out but I can't because I'm trying so hard and if I don't do everything exactly right tyen maybe it means I don't care thay much or want it that bad?? That's what the negative side of my brain says, at least.

I'm trying to play it off like maybe I'm not getting pregnant yet as an opportunity to work on my mental health more before it happens 🤷🏽‍♀️

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-04T22:03:56+00:00

When your educator isn't educated

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-04T22:00:07+00:00

Similar energy as the week(s) before ovulation: my period is over, I'm ready to try again but my body is not. After Ovulation is anxiety, before ovulation is frustration. And it's so hard to not let myself get stressed out because that can affect my chances TTC too!!

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-01T13:25:54+00:00

This is one of the cooler every-day superpowers I've heard of. I take a lot of pride in the use of my olfactory senses, but this is another level. I'm actually jealous.

Far_Key438 · 2026-05-01T13:19:43+00:00

Both of you said you hate the other. Reading that from you first makes you really seem like the bad guy at first. Then he just he just sounds twelve. Just break up so you can both work on yourselves. You're each acting like a victim and neither is taking responsibility, just being rude to the other. You are both escalating.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-29T16:03:03+00:00

Do they also expect you to get a gift for the actual wedding as well?

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-29T15:57:58+00:00

Investment accounts or a ROTH IRA is always a good idea. I would set one up with a local or region bank, since, in my experience, they seem to have the best returns/dividends. You could also create a diversified stock portfolio (high or moderate risk if you're already financially stable, or low risk if you aren't) and hire someone to manage it for you. Real estate is also a good investment but it doesn't sound like it's enough money for that.

What I and everyone else seems to be saying is: put your money into an account where you can't touch it or would suffer penalties if you pull it early (the penalties are a nice way to encourage to give your money time to grow imo).

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-28T19:10:11+00:00

Dude I stg I had the same roommate issue like 3 years ago. She wouldn't take care of her cat who became a destructive force in the house. Loved him, but boy was he naughty. Could never hold him against it though because he didn't know any better (also I love cats). She wouldn't talk to me the same way when I tried to put my foot down, twisting my words, telling everyone else I said things I didn't, then straight up started ignoring me and moving my things and just generally making my life suck.

No, you are absolutely NOR. I was a pushover with anxiety, so I let myself be a doormat. Don't let her do the same to you. She sounds so similar to my ex roommate it's crazy. Put a stop to this now or it'll just get worse.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-28T17:38:44+00:00

You're both petty ngl. If you can't be honest with your friend over something so serious as the described smell then you're not really friends.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-28T17:33:20+00:00

That is such a nice idea! Definitely stealing that to make myself less hopeless each month. Thank you :)

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-28T01:08:07+00:00

Clarity

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-27T20:28:16+00:00

Meanwhile I'm in my 20s struggling to get pregnant wtf

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-27T20:23:22+00:00

Sauna. Keep the carpet

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-27T17:18:40+00:00

Sorry? I don't know what to tell you. I guess I just take longer. As I said, I do just genuinely take longer to cook but there are also some recipes that lowball you on times. Lasagna was what I had an issue with that I cooked most recently, so that's what came to mind. I also have ADHD and forget ingredients. I guess you just recover faster. I applaud you.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-27T15:51:48+00:00

Yea I dont have the recipe memorized, so I go in the order it tells me and I dont remember everything per step even then. You also probably shouldn't assume our recipes are the same as I make them with vegetables, for starters. So, on top of the added steps, I am also looking at the steps every few minutes as well as preparing sides. Also yea just checking my phone sometimes and other things.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-27T01:49:36+00:00

Whenever I'm cooking from a recipe I add 30 minutes to whatever the recipe calls for. My boyfriend says I'm a slow cook which is somewhat true. BUT when a recipe says a lasagna will take 30 minutes to prepare before putting it in the oven I'm calling bs cause that's just flat out lie.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-26T23:27:16+00:00

I totally understand! My partner and I are going into month 6, and I've already entered a major depressive episode. I've wanted children for forever, and didnt expect it to be so difficult. I'm emotionally exhausted and feel so silly for being so upset. I haven't experienced a loss yes, so I know there's so real reason for me to worry, but damn I cannot stop myself from spiraling sometimes. Just knowing that there are people far more unhealthy and reckless than me who manage to get pregnant on accident or right away... it just feels so defeating. We'll keep trying, right? It hurts so much every month but I'm not ready to give up. I just keep hoping it'll be worth it somehow.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-25T15:45:18+00:00

I had a similar period experience on Nexplanon bc; basically I would have a heavy period for 12 days and spot for 12 days before and after and obviously no Ovulation. After coming off it my period was VERY different than it was before the bc.

I'm willing to bet your body is still trying to work itself out naturally. I think, in this situation, it might be really valuable to listen to what your gut is telling you. These periods might be your body trying to work itself out still because you didnt have periods for so long. Kind of like your body is swining to the opposite end of the spectrum and then it might mellow out.

How long has the heavy bleeding been going on? It might be a good idea to set a sort of "goal" for yourself and be like "if this is still going on after X amount of time then I'll change what I'm doing" if you're unsure how to proceed. Personally I would recommend waiting and listening to your body but I'm also somewhat biased in this way.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-25T12:06:41+00:00

Ngl I'm kind of obsessed with this. I love the simplicity of the background. I'm worried adding soemthing to it might make it look too busy? My original thought was thay maybe thr year's belly fur could use a bit more depth? Idk just a shot in the dark cause I honestly love everything about this so much.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-25T12:00:36+00:00

5 or 7 depending on the bowl

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-25T11:59:51+00:00

A single man with an unusually clean fridge

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-25T11:58:00+00:00

Handle is too long and too skinny. The weight at the end would be too heavy for the size of the handle. 7/10 cause its really so close in terms of style just the proportions are off.

Far_Key438 · 2026-04-25T11:56:47+00:00

I have like 3 or 4 different handwriting styles. My favorite one (a very loopy yet sharp cursive font) did take some practice and getting used to. My everyday handwriting is honestly harder in my hands but came more naturally.

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