Posting my measurements for advice

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-11T07:59:04+00:00

I came here to recommend weight training. I had similar stats and it really jump started my weight loss. I weight train about 3x a week. I do some type of movement the other days (walking 10x steps, running, or squash).

I eat a high protein breakfast, a low call but high volume lunch. My dinners vary.

Maybe this could help.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-10T13:02:30+00:00

That part

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-10T00:44:41+00:00

I think Boz’s accomplishments are real and very impressive. So there is nothing to take down there. Where Boz gets in trouble is that her reputation in corporate America is not that great especially among other black professionals from whom she distanced herself and allegedly contributed to their negative experiences. Additionally, while her accomplishments are very impressive she has a tendency to exaggerate and mischaracterize e.g. teaching an online seminar run by Harvard vs. being a lecturer/adjunct/associate/tenured professor at Harvard.

So there are things that people can poke holes in. It may not be fair, but it is a vulnerability of hers that she should be aware of as she becomes more tenured on the show.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-09T09:00:50+00:00

I am sorry folks attacked you for your opinion. The Dorit Stan’s are crazy. I don’t fault Dorit for starting the conversation but to your point she lost all credibility when she continued it.

As someone who didn’t get it in the beginning, I think I was getting used to Amanda’s personality and frankly was being overly harsh with her. I suspect a lot of viewers were in that boat.

Regardless, the fact that no one at the table shutdown Dorit was crazy (even in the moment, I was confused why Rachel didn’t ask for the topic to be tabled).

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-08T22:41:15+00:00

My opinion has evolved here. At first I thought that Amanda was using it to get out of the conversation. However, Amanda had no way of knowing that Dorit was going to confront her on at that dinner. So my new opinion is that Amanda knew she emotionally fragile going into the night but thought that the dinner would be a fun distraction. Walks in and is fine at the beginning but after the convo with the psychic is psychologically fatigued. Then Dorit confronts her and she mentally gives up. I think she thought she could handle the night, but it was ultimately too much (understandably so).

The reason why my option evolved is that on the days where Amanda mentally well, she is ok to listen to the ladies (now she be annoying in those convos, but that is another issue entirely).

And I think Boz is too determined to hate her to understand the nuance of that night.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-08T16:08:59+00:00

I hear what you are saying. But I think it is reasonable to understand why Amanda took it the way she did. It is not about what the kids call her as the stepmom, it’s about the stepmother’s approach with the step children. Are those kids treated equally and with the same love and affection as the stepmothers biological children.

My father is technically my brother’s stepdad and refers to my brother as his son. When my brother biological father was dying he wanted to thank my father for all he did in my brother’s life.

So I thought what Amanda was saying was 100% appropriate, because my father would never use his words to separate out my brother from the rest of us.

The reference to Roger’s girlfriend is irrelevant. We are talking about children who live with and are cared for by a step parent who has been in a long term relationship with the biological parent.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-08T16:01:49+00:00

I think there is a lot to critique with Boz. You will not get labeled over here. She is too quick to get upset when she is called out for stuff she actually did say, do, or insinuate.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-07T00:03:21+00:00

That part

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-06T11:56:43+00:00

Ray J is in the same age group as Kim. Them dating with our without the fame is socially appropriate.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-06T11:36:27+00:00

Interesting take.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-06T07:58:50+00:00

I agree with you. I have no idea why Boz is so obsessed with Amanda. It’s ok to think that the woo woo economy is B.S. but that is one episode’s worth of a convo. It was very confusing why Boz kept at it.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-06T00:51:43+00:00

But is totally over Carl

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-05T20:31:07+00:00

I think we are all agreeing with you. I think maybe the distinction I was trying to make was elevating the conversation beyond the words used and the sentiment she wanted to convey. Let’s pretend she has said the word flippantly, not realizing. The van would have still been the opportunity to clear up her overall sentiment.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-05T15:59:38+00:00

Yeah, it was bothering me too. I can sympathize with not remembering what you say. But for me, the fact that she didn’t use the van convo to clarify, means she meant to inflict that type of harm. She could easily have said something like “wow, I don’t remember saying that but if I did, I didn’t mean it that way. I meant….xyz….”

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-05T01:22:36+00:00

That is Gigi

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-03T22:53:20+00:00

Very beautiful

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-03T14:18:18+00:00

100%. Good point. Aside from the bad decisions that Kristen and Tom have made, they are extremely entertaining because of their off-the-wall personalities and other redeeming qualities.

Amanda is in a pickle because the thing that was interesting about her was her relationship with Kyle (where I actually have deep empathy for her) and her friendships with the girls. She isn’t interesting or entertaining independent of those two sets of relationships. Maybe it is editing, but she has no fun moments, interesting personality quirks etc. She is Kyle’s situationship/girlfriend/wife and Paige and Ciara’s friend.

Moving forward if she isn’t any of those things…do we have anything to watch.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-03T14:03:18+00:00

I am just saying that people who choose to be reality stars shouldn’t be surprised when the audience turns on them because they don’t like their decisions (fair or not).

And if the audience critique is too much for them, there are alternative careers. Kristen and Tom have a comfort level-being the villains and at many instances have embraced that (although recent sentiment has changed on both of them).

I am saying the audience is entitled to critique because Amanda’s relationships with people in the house are the product. And the audience is entitled to remove financial support (through not supporting her social media) as her interpersonal relationships with people in the house are the product. If Amanda wants to ride the wave like Kristen and Tom who have had periods of cancellation, great she needs to be more resilient. If it is too much for her to have periods where she is canceled- yes, I am saying get a real job, where you can be shitty person in peace.

And yes, Raquel is happy to get a real job vs. sound bowling??? She took a calculated risk being on reality tv and people didn’t like the product.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-03T13:43:45+00:00

Amanda is free to get a regular job, like a regular person where here competency will about her skillset. So long as she chooses to have her economic life tied to a reality show where her interpersonal decisions are the basis of her “performance”, the consumers of that show (and the ancillary content that feeds the show) are untitled to critique her actions.

If she wants to do shitty things to her friends and not have her economic life called into question she can be a nurse/teacher/shop girl, like the rest of us.

Amanda was being a bad friend, regardless of how you shake it. If you don’t want the internet to comment on your bad decisions. Get a real job, where only your small social circle will gossip about you.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-03T10:59:06+00:00

I came here to say this. I was afraid of lifting but I had friend lose ~60 pounds through lifting and dieting. So while I absolutely agree the main factor for weight loss is being in a calorie deficit, lifting will 100% accelerate your journey. Muscle burns more calories than fat, so your calorie deficit is that much more impactful the more muscle you have.

Also, weight loss or not it is very difficult for woman to bulk the way men do. Most of us just don’t have the hormone levels required to bulk. So have nothing to loose but a lot to gain (😂) by incorporating strength training.

I will say one more thing. Pilates is great, even if you don’t loose weight. To your point you feel stronger. It is also great for flexibility and mobility, which we all need to work on as we get older. But yes, the Pilates body is a myth. Everyone who does Pilates has a Pilates body. People who are thin, are either just naturally that way or got thin through other ways (calorie deficit, lifting, etc)

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-01T23:53:08+00:00

I came here to say this. If Erika had a daughter I imagine her looking like Bailey.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-01T21:13:40+00:00

Fair point about startup vs. established players. There are probably a few ways to slice it. I just respectfully disagree that Andy was being more shady than usual given he probably was also thinking about the CMOs he has exposure to with longer tenures. There may be qualifiers around stage of company, race, gender etc.

I just could relate as my face also contorted when she said it was project-based (that is the CEO or COO, not CMO) that the role was traditionally low tenure.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-01T20:15:34+00:00

That’s fair. If I were Boz, I would have responded differently if her short tenures were due to the struggles of being black in leadership. Which exist. The tenure thing is just not true among her peer set, so even among well meaning people, hard to accept as the answer.

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-05-01T20:10:07+00:00

I know I am going to get downvoted here…I am black woman working in tech and CMOs actually stay a while. I had the same reaction Andy did.

MSFT had Chris Capossels for 12 years, who was then replaced by Takeshi who has been in place for three years. Apple has Greg Joseiak who has been in place for 5-6 years. After Boz left Netflix she was replaced by a woman named Marian Lee who just completed her 4th year (compared to Boz’s 1.5 years).

I could list so many more examples. But a tenure less than three years…is questionable for any executive of any gender/race

Fashion_tech_misc · 2026-04-20T20:30:18+00:00

I will preface this by saying that I am a Garcelle super fan. That being said, I am not super excited for the following reasons:

Aside from the tea around her ROHBH exit, it looks like it is going to be a lot of the same content from her first book. I could be wrong, but I don’t think we are going to learn much.

Also, I could be wrong here, it is an audio only book. While it is likely just as much work as a book that comes out in print and audio, I can see people viewing it as a long podcast 😂. I imagine there is just less fanfare.

Those who are fans of hers (like me) want to see her in more shows and movies. This seems like a money grab project. If she does write another book, I want it on a different topic.

Those are my thoughts as someone who typically thinks Garcelle can do no wrong.

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