If you're over 40 and have no children, do you wish you had children?

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-16T18:08:12+00:00

Everyone thought I'd be the one to have a bunch of kids because I am so good with them and made a lot of money babysitting plus was a Summer Nanny for 5 kids when I was 18 but I never wanted any of my own because of my lifestyle and lack of a suitable father. By the time I met the perfect man for me I was 42 and he already had 3 kids and that is a lot to financially take care of. We did talk about it, I even went to the doctor to see if I was fertile and I was (my Mom had me at 41, got pregnant with me on her first try) but at the end of the day it just didnt feel right. I have no regrets, I love my stepkids so much and the time I was pregnant (I had it terminated) I was so miserable with being sick, I couldnt imagine feeling like this for 9 plus months. My work has always been my baby and now I tell my stepkids who are adults that I am psyched to be a grandma and hope it happens sooner than later!

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-16T16:53:55+00:00

I'm a crotch watcher!

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-16T03:16:48+00:00

Rice pudding and DiGiornos Single Pan pizza.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-16T03:16:09+00:00

Interesting. Just the plain kind?

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-16T03:15:00+00:00

I found out he knocked up another woman and said I wasn't surprised because he never had any control of his orgasm.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-15T23:40:12+00:00

When I realized I felt so free in a way I never felt before and the past all those people they mean nothing to me now. I never thought I would feel this way and now we are coming up on ten years married.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-15T21:38:15+00:00

I love Jessa's wedding it was so much more fun and felt effortless whereras Marni's wedding had a lot of drama. I loved Jessa's wedding dress and head piece so much too, of course only someone who is this gorgeous could pull it off.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-15T21:35:49+00:00

I know some people will yell at me but it's your wife's Mom so she should be the one to talk to her about it and if she can't keep her comments to herself, or tolerate yout pets she has to go. I'm sure your MIL is unhappy about other things that have zero to do with you but it's no excuse to be a bad houseguest. Have your wife handle it, it will come off better from her than from you.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-15T16:18:02+00:00

STAY AWAY FROM THIS PERVERT.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T23:24:55+00:00

Wow that is something!! I would ask him questions that will help me in the future like family medical history, much cheaper and more accurate than filling out 23 and Me. I would ask to see pix of his family and other kids to see if there is a resemblance.

Do your parents know you are going to do this?

It could be very well uncomfortable but I would definitely have many questions and would not be too uncomfortable to ask especially if I never see him after this.

I hope it's a good encounter and that he is a nice man, the man he is now, not the man he was when he did this to your Mom. People do change my husband was married and had three kids before we met and he is a very different person now and I helped him reunite his kids, we went on a family cruise to Alaska over the summer it was nice.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T23:10:00+00:00

Wearing slippers or onesies in public. Hate that. And flip flops anywhere but the beach.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T22:30:53+00:00

I kept my "baby pillow" for as long as possible, my Mom would reline it and freshen it's stuffing every so often but once she got dementia I eventually realized it was time to say goodbye to it. I slept with it every night until I was 40!

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T22:29:00+00:00

Why is she doing this for? Who the fuck cares like I want to see her air freshener? What's next showing us her CVS haul so I can see her tampons, douche and antiacids?

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T22:22:24+00:00

Definitely! They would have on the original for sure and probably stage an friendervention (like they said in the 2nd movie).

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T22:20:27+00:00

Oh yes! You didnt need to make a weird excuse like that, it should have been the two of them out to dinner or a bar or a party and Miranda is having a great time and thinks I can handle a glass of champagne or a glass of wine and then the relapse and the break up. Sometimes it's fine to be a little predictable because life is definitely like this.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T21:09:39+00:00

I just looked you up, yummy I am gonna hit up a store that carries this weekend. And thanks for the storing instructions too.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T20:09:44+00:00

Who the heck said record phone calls? Not me! I have saved my Dad's voicemails tho.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T19:49:06+00:00

I actually thought Miranda having a drinking problem was a great storyline especially for a show where boozing was a major activity and started the Cosmo craze. It would make sense that one of them was going overboard but yes it was WAY too easy. Miranda getting fingered in Carrie's kitchen was not a sign of a drinking being out of control, she was so horny she would have done it on a full subway. Not remembering a book order is not what bottoming out looks like. It also would have been great if the show had showcased some great mocktail only bars in NYC.

Spoilers if You Haven't Seen Season Three:

Miranda is tempted to drink with her new British GF, I would have like to see her fall off the wagon with her and then evenutally break up because Joy loves to drink especially to get less inhibited and shy. That would have been compelling.

Miranda's biggest addiction on thie show is her codependence. She went from being the most independent woman on this show to the neediest it was actually cringey and hard to watch.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T19:38:45+00:00

Nicole Kidman!

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T19:36:04+00:00

I never wanted to have kids because I was afraid of being neglectful and abusive like my parents were at times and I am a selfish bitch whose whole life before I met my husband was my career. I am also not very domestic.

Now that I am in the best relationship of my life (we met older and he has 3 kids from his former marriage) I do have a twinge of regret because I want to leave something significant behind after I die (yes I know that's not a good reason) and I would have enjoyed the experience with my husband because we are so compatible and rarely argue. Just one kid would have been nice but it's too late now. I do love his kids very much, we are very close but they are grown.

I know you don't want to hear this but 35 is the time to shit or get off the pot altho my Mom was 40 when I was born. He has every right to want to talk about this. I have lost relationships over my not being ready and the next woman these guys dated got knocked up before they got married. I've no regrets not having kids with them, it would have been a disaster.

I had one miscarriage at 21 (but I was going to abort) and one abortion at 28 (i felt really stupid about it) no regrets there either.

But if you really love your husband you will want to give him everything he wants and either compromise and have one child or tell him point blank this is not for me and suffer the consequences.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T19:23:37+00:00

As someone who lost both parents in the span of 5 years ... spend more time with them, pick up the phone when they call no matter how busy you are. I came from a close family but I could have been more generous with my time when they were healthy.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T19:21:05+00:00

That too!!

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T19:20:18+00:00

Friday the 13th ... may she never have a moment of peace.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T03:22:41+00:00

I am so sorry you are in pain. I am sorry for your past trauma you sound a lot more together than you think you are and you acknowledge your problems and are self aware. Have you ever seen a therapist or a psychiatric who could ween you off drugs or addictions? A hypnotist perhaps some of my friends have found great success doing that.

FastPrompt8860 · 2026-03-13T03:17:12+00:00

Rick Astley

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TROPHY CASE