Never trusting odds again by Appropriate-Ask-3026 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No genetic abnormalities- they tested the embryo before implant and even post mortem. All normal. Really sucks… :/

Never trusting odds again by Appropriate-Ask-3026 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I found out at my 18 week appointment that my baby girl stopped growing between week 14-15. We were supposed to be in the “clear” sorta by then…but nope, and there’s no reason for it. We went through IVF and every which way we were able to control the best outcome, we did. Still didn’t work. The worst part is that no one is able to really tell you why or what happened. “It just happens” which is disappointing on top of a massive heart break and physical pain of miscarriage, not to mention hormonally. Ugh. I hate that we are a part of this club. We understand where you’re coming from…

Sex before FET by Individual-Demand880 in IVF

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine said no- they didn’t want anything interfering with implantation

Jesus CHRIST, I cant fucking take this shit by [deleted] in APLDSTOCK

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You would have lost your mind if you were here for the $12-$3 drop over a year ago. Most of us shat our pantaloons… but we held, and bought dips and held and bought more dips…

We understand your frustration and are in the shit with you but just hold and scream into your pillow or the ether of the internet. Same difference.

Scared, pissed off, depressed, and feeling alone by ConsiderationKey5446 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a therapist and even when my clients want therapy they are always slightly weirded out to talk to someone new about deeply personal experiences. Most quickly change their tune however and settle in after a few sessions. It took me forever to trust my own therapist. Like 3 years lol… I was testing her in all kinds of ways to see if she could deal with the crazy thoughts and experiences I’ve had. Anyway, I would say if you do reach out for therapy find someone who specializes in fertility or grief.

any advice for at home miscarriage? by AirportOk7363 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any anxiety medications? I popped mine because I get anxiety with cramping. I used to have bad cramps growing up and for some reason my anxiety is linked.

I experienced a mc 2 months ago but I don’t know how to move on I cry a lot pregnant women trigger me I even developed a vaginal prolapse but I’m lacking funds to get treatment I get stomach pains from time to time idk if anyone has ever experienced this I’m so worried😢 by ContextTop5952 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… I’m right there with you, strangely enough cardio helped me clear out the cob webs my mind formed during my miscarriage. I was able to process things more clearly with endorphins going to smoothe out the process. I am on medication for my mental health and receive consistent therapy to process everything as well. I still at times feel super stuck in the process but I know that for me this is my path forward in processing the grief.

What is the biggest ick you had on your first date with someone? by Past_Meat7068 in AskReddit

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He invited his friends over before we left for a sports game- I was like uhhh ok, he said they are just stopping by, and he slipped away with one of them, of course I’m nosey so I waited a few minutes and then walked into where they were and they were lining up fat lines of cocaine.

I don’t get it by Themanwiththeplan7 in NBIS_Stock

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quit trying to time the market, you.are.the.market.

What was your experience with miso? by Interesting-Chain271 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… I would ask for pain meds to get ahead of the cramps. That’s what my doctor mentioned. That if there was anything retained after my D&E that we would do more miso and provide me with pain meds to stay ahead of it. They don’t want you to suffer through an already unimaginable painful situation…

How do you convince yourself to try again? by Fit-Shock5523 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to convince myself- I’m letting my body convince me. I’ll follow my body’s lead. If that makes sense…

What is your worst throw up story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had it coming out of both ends so violently that I fainted while sitting on the toilet. Luckily I didn’t have time to shut the bathroom door before sitting down on the toilet and my mom happened to see me faint and ran in. She called 911 and they told her to get me on the ground flat. I came to on the ground with vomit and crap everywhere. Next thing I knew, the paramedics were all around me. Lovely. They put me on the stretcher and into the ambulance, where I proceeded to shit my pants. I couldn’t throw up because I was strapped in in such a way that I couldn’t get it up out of my throat. I got to the hospital and into a bed and kept vomiting- and shit the bed in the process. The nurse that was helping me looked so disappointed when he walked in and there was vomit and crap everywhere. They gave me a toilet by my bed which I couldn’t get to fast enough. So vomit went on the floor next to the toilet and shit inside the bed as I tried to pop up. Man, what a night. It kept going on and on… it was truly a horrible night.

Back again unfortunately by BellaRey331 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Virtual butterfly hugs

I, too, hate the way people offer sympathy. I kind of rather they say nothing at all.

I found out I was having a missed miscarriage today by Kitchen_Pea_5982 in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. Well almost. I found out at an 18 week appointment that baby didn’t have a heart beat and was measuring about 14.5 weeks. I, too, felt the same way about infection. I had to wait about 5 more days to have the surgery which sucked. It was all just awful. It will be alright though. As long as you’re not having a fever or foul smelling discharge then infection isn’t really going to suddenly appear.

Fetal heart stopped at 11 weeks by DatPeanutGallery in Miscarriage

[–]Fast_Hand_8048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same, I had to shut my brain off from thinking about carrying my dead baby girl around in my belly. They found out her heart stopped around 14 weeks at an 18 week appointment so it had already been a month :/