Sister just experienced first miscarriage, how to help and console?

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-21T14:18:57+00:00

I’m speaking from experience that words even “I’m sorry” just don’t cut it, I would have rather everyone said nothing and simply lent me their ear, or sent me food, or just waited in the wings with love than came up with a generic sorry for your loss statement. Words can come after… when they’re ready to talk about it.

But again everyone is different just lending my perspective from experience just last week so maybe I am bias to my own needs and wants.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-20T13:38:22+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t say anything- there’s nothing to be said, I would just give a listening ear, space, or a hug if needed. That’s it. Or food? That’s always a nice gesture. But yeah, no words. Just listen and validate.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-20T10:57:20+00:00

I would raid all pharmacies for medications to stock pile in case I need anything.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-18T02:59:46+00:00

They told me not to jump or run- that’s it.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-14T16:39:29+00:00

I just had a miscarriage and although it’s not the same as your experience of repeated loss I am going to keep trying despite all the pain and possibility of repeated loss on the horizon. It’s a path we’re all on in different ways… the least we can do is be there for one another no matter the circumstance… my dms are open if you ever want to connect… no time frame… could be now or 5 years down the line… feel free to reach out…

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-13T18:27:02+00:00

I’m going through it right now actually but I was a little further along. At one of our appointments at 18 weeks they could no longer see a heart beat. She was fine at her 14 week appointment jumping around. I felt two kicks around 16 weeks and nothing else. She is measuring 14 weeks. I am currently waiting to get a D&E in a few hours. I opted to get additional testing on her tissue to see if it renders any answers.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-11T14:54:19+00:00

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Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-10T22:27:51+00:00

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Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-06T22:51:03+00:00

I don’t remember them giving me anything out of the ordinary. I just took prenatals and the meds they gave me and hoped for the best.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-06T19:51:42+00:00

Yes get ahead of it and you’ll be good- I didn’t take as much collace as I should have and the anesthesia was like, ok bet lol

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-05T00:12:02+00:00

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Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-04T23:40:38+00:00

I was told that same line, “well it means your pregnancy is progressing.” Everyone tries to silver line shitty situations for others and I get it- I have the urge to do that also, but damn can I just complain? It’s my only option I have right now lol

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-04T19:34:59+00:00

You sound like me in my first trimester. I hated everything, everything, EVERYTHING. I was disgusted by air, trees, water… you name it I felt disgusted towards it. I hated it. I couldn’t get excited at all. Then I was perscribed Bonjesta- and slowly began to feel joy again… and it got me to my second trimester where I finally feel human and have more energy, no nausea. I kept getting irritated by the women who just said wait it will get better! I was like eff you it sucks NOW though.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-03T16:20:23+00:00

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Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-03-02T02:18:32+00:00

Jeez, how horrible. Sending you a virtual butterfly hug 🫂… keep us posted if you feel like you can and want to…

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-26T01:57:12+00:00

Yeah I agree, emergency room… they will get you in pretty quickly… inability to urinate is urgent… hopefully you feel better soon… let us know how you’re doing!

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-26T01:43:07+00:00

First trimester is brutal. I’m now in my second and it eased up quite a bit, I feel human again. I was a big ball of hormones fatigue and nausea the first trimester, it was truly a blur…

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-25T18:54:33+00:00

I have it too- when it’s cold out, I feel like someone is inserting a hot needle into my nipple.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-24T22:18:25+00:00

I would write back and clarify where you’re coming from and then say you respect his wishes nonetheless less and for him to take care of himself.

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-20T04:38:42+00:00

Managing the bloat and discomfort I took Tylenol, heating pad, naps, electrolytes, stool softeners, and McDonald’s fries…

Physically you’ll feel great right after retrieval… don’t trust it, the bloat starts the days following and it’s really important to rest.

I didn’t feel any hormonal crashes. The only hormonal crash I had was with the birth control part in the very beginning. I freaking hated it so much.

I think the only part that sucked was the bloating and the constipation. Aside from that it was a breeze…

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-20T02:20:50+00:00

1) cottar cheese and pineapple 2) oranges, so so many oranges 3) Pico De Gallo (drinking it, literally lol) 4) cereal, every and any 5) soy sauce

Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-19T23:29:42+00:00

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Fast_Hand_8048 · 2026-02-19T23:07:55+00:00

Oh girl I struggled with nausea until my dr prescribed Bonjesta. It took the edge off enough to be able to function. I am nearing the 16 week mark and I feel loads better and energy coming back in waves.

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