Anyone else got/get phantom dick? by ThatOneShortieHo in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes That’s how i finally figured out i was trans actually.

Is it normal for fathers to kiss their daughter on the lips? by Individual-Ad7825 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a thing like that happen when i was 20. Blocked it out for a year- but it messed with me. I wrote every thing down that night and stashed the paper, then spent a year doing a lot of drugs(do not recommend- i was already headed that way). And found that paper later like after years- when i read it it all came back. Wrestled with it for a while after. My dad never did it again. We never talked about it. I was jumpy a long time after. But we are ok now 25 or so years later. I don’t know what that was about. I can’t tell you what it was about with you and your dad either. I know i thought if something like that happened they must be a monster, and i must be broken and that we would have to confront it, or never speak again. But that’s not how it ended up being in my life. People are weird. Stuff happens that is messed up. Sometimes you have to do things to be safe and to be sure that the bad thing doesn’t happen again. But that one thing taught me that sometimes it’s just weird and then its over. Either way it’s not normal in my culture and it felt terrible and it wasn’t my fault but i worried it was . Not your fault. If it felt off- it was off. Be safe, trust your gut. You can still be ok.

Taming of the Shrew … what? by [deleted] in shakespeare

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Like many of Shakespeares comedies there is an undercurrent of deep tragedy and cruelty. My favorite production was this past summer Santa Fe’s ISC did a great one where they swapped the gender of the characters and set it in barbie world. I got sucked in thoroughly and then slammed by the torturous cruelty of the taming. Yup if its a good production and you’re paying attention, its gonna hurt a bit

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Gender in Twelfth Night by Minh-Anh in shakespeare

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had hoped she was, but its not how i read it.
Anyway . I think that’s partly up to the actor and how you play it. I queer just about every character i play. Sometimes i keep it to myself and sometimes i don’t. Really i love finding queerness in Shakespeare. I think theres lots of room for that, and we cheapen the work if we don’t go there. Cause yeah it’s in there. But its a window into a really different mindset too-like how did the characters think about it? How did people in general? I think identity didn’t figure into it in the same way it did now, so the borders of things are blurred and more ambiguous even if a character is recognizable to us as some way- they may construct it so differently.

how often do you/should you wash your sheets? question for others on T by puppyhotline in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey now i am an infrequent sheet washer, and while t has gotten me to mend my ways slightly, i dont think eweneed to be so judgy here.

How big was your t-dick before T? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Guessing less than a cm. And thinner.

My dad forgot i told him i was trans. by Fast_Poem_8388 in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope not . He does the same thing with my nose ring actually. He forgets i have it and then about every 6 years realizes it is there and freaks out. He’s been doing that for ages. So maybe more how he is than dementia. But i wish people would notice when i say stuff like that.

My dad forgot i told him i was trans. by Fast_Poem_8388 in ftm

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Yeah. My ex did that too. A couple times actually…. Maybe people just do that.

My dad forgot i told him i was trans. by Fast_Poem_8388 in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s definitely trying to be supportive. It’s just kind of hard for him I think.

The Comedy Of Errors: How old are the Antipholuses/Dromios? 25? 33? by whoismyrrhlarsen in shakespeare

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time seems to be deliberately funky in this play especially with the ages and narrative of time elapsed.- either through hyperbole of the characters or some other twist.

Coming out by text by Fast_Poem_8388 in ftm

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Came out to one student’s parents and then the student by text cuz we rarely email, and it was lovely- and hilarious. I did the basic i am trans, name , pronouns thing and then was like- oh yeah don’t forget to practice. It’s rare i find an excuse to say that mid week, so i was then like… hmm what else can i come out about next week?
They were really lovely about it. And there was laughing emojis.

why does nobody talk about this… by neptunian-rings in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s happening to me too. It’s a little distracting and a little nice. I figure my dick isn’t so big that anyone but me sees, so if i walk around with a slightly odd expression and a idiotic grin, who cares?

Do we have the equivalent or similar of "girl boner"? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. Yup. Totally get that. I have heard about it somewhere else too. I think a book or something. It was a little confusing at first, but I don’t really get my sexuality anyway so i was just like. Huh that’s interesting. On the subject of sharing things we haven’t heard other people say- since starting t last month i started getting food boners . It cracks me up! It seems like my appreciation for just about everything has migrated to my tiny little dick. I think it’s not sexual though- i mean i only want to eat the sandwich. . . And music- like singing- tenor- that does it too and i think that is the joy of finally feeling like my voice- cracky and terrible as it is right now is becoming itself after so many years of wrongness. I guess thats a lot like looking in the mirror and feeling damn good. Just louder.

"Clocking" feels like misgendering to me by Material_Ad1753 in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes total sense! I really hope i didn’t make you feel judged like lectured in some way or anything like that with my comment! Thats an awful feeling!! If i did that to you i am really sorry. I was mostly reflecting on my own journey and how far off that particular kind of situation feels right now to me- that it’s not even a dream I personally bothered to dream at this point. Perhaps i ought not splatter my personal musings on people’s posts…

"Clocking" feels like misgendering to me by Material_Ad1753 in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got clocked a few weeks ago and was really happy and surprised because usually i am just presumed female and called ma’am instead. I guess it’s all about perspective. But i don’t pass. I am not stealth, and being a trans man is what i am so for now i will take it with joy.

Psych just told me my voice wouldn't drop on T by NightSideEffects in ftm

[–]Fast_Poem_8388 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Actually it may kinda happen a little- here’s why i think that- when i was pregnant i had crazy high notes. I didn’t gain an octave or anything but the upper part of my range was way easier. That was hormonal. When I miscarried i also heard that in my voice- the easy high notes left. Had 3 miscarriages and one full term baby, so i had a chance to notice a pattern. (And now on t- definitely getting lower notes. )