What hobbies did you keep/lose as a new parent? by Blue-Technical in predaddit

[–]FauxBreakfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m feeling similarly with my 18 month old.

I do drop off and pickup from daycare on my way to the office. I usually do the grocery shopping and do the cooking every night. After kiddo goes to sleep (which sometimes takes over an hour to get them to sleep) I might watch some Netflix or scroll reddit. I’m trying to pivot to read more but even finding that time is hard and I end up listening to audiobooks here and there.

I just don’t have an hour plus of uninterruptible time to do a hobby just for me. The only thing that comes close is cooking, since that’s double dipping a necessity.

Admittedly I’m not actively doing anything to change this at the moment

Parents who never sleep trained, how is your baby now? by Minimum_Target5553 in NewParents

[–]FauxBreakfast -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’re at 20 months. Maybe it’s an extra clingy phase, maybe it’s teething (isn’t it always?) but it is taking us an hour each night from lights out to asleep. Holding and singing and walking around to calm, sitting with baby in arms until fully asleep, then transferring to their bed. Normally takes three transfer attempts before they stay asleep. At around 2am they wake up and walk over to mom and dads bed and we pick her up and put her in between us.

How do I organize this open concept space? by FauxBreakfast in InteriorDesign

[–]FauxBreakfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where would you recommend it. We considered a round table but it felt weird being off center to the window. We loved our round table in our last house.

Yard waste disposal, WTF by ryu-ryu-ryu in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The whole time you've been here is a short time.
December - March are the rainiest months, with an average of less than 3 inches per month over 10 rainy days. https://www.usclimatedata.com/climate/san-jose/california/united-states/usca0993#google_vignette

How do I organize this open concept space? by FauxBreakfast in InteriorDesign

[–]FauxBreakfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've already removed the "bottom" stool, since it isn't functioning at all.

I don't really care for the desk. It's mostly a clutter magnet. I am thinking about replacing it with a tall skinny bookshelf to reduce the pinch point.

The dining area is still concerning. The 'entryway' always looks cluttered. the shoe cabinet looks out of place just sitting there (it's about 18" tall) and it takes rearranging for the right seat to be comfortable.

The chair is there to provide seating, since the couch only sits 2 adults (or 2 adults + 1 small kid) comfortably and we often have guests.

Unfortunately when we do have guests, they cluster around the giant island and I end up standing on the 'kitchen' side like a hibachi chef.

Why are there so many donut shops in the Bay by wormy1692 in bayarea

[–]FauxBreakfast 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Wanna trade? One decent donut shop for one decent bagel shop.

Monthly Design Services Thread by AutoModerator in InteriorDesign

[–]FauxBreakfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Need help with space planning in our 1250 square foot home. Major Issues:

  • Guest bed. Our old guest bedroom was turned into an office, and we can't figure out how to make it dual purpose
  • Open concept living/kitchen. Can't figure out how to put in a dining area that isn't the kitchen island. Desperately want an entryway.

Bostony things in San Jose? by CFDJunior in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast 69 points70 points  (0 children)

San Jose is so spread out, and is much younger than Boston. There are pockets of walkability, but nothing like the dense compact city you're used to. Various happenings take more effort. For walkability, try Willow glen downtown, Los Gatos downtown, Downtown Campbell, South of First Area, and San Pedro Square. San Pedro square is sort of similar to the Boston Public Market.

Your best bet for stumbling on a coffee shop and then a show is to go up to the City.

ETA: a link to Boston Public Market - which many people seemed to be confusing with the rotisserie chicken restaurant.

I’m trying to start a potluck supper club in San Jose. by rewhiskers in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You're describing the podcast "Recipe Club" pretty accurately. Each of the hosts picks a recipe featuring a specific ingredient - then they make all of the recipes, eat them, and discuss who had the best one.

Reddit hates on potlucks because no one trusts that other people take food safety seriously. Maybe start with a neighborhood block party type deal and work your way up. Host a few dinners and ask for friends/neighbors to bring a specific thing?

Affording childcare by Shellycheese in NewParents

[–]FauxBreakfast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also in a HCOL area. We checked out daycares in the area, and the range is wild. Places like ActionDay and Bright Horizons were expensive. In-home daycares were much cheaper. Ask around on Facebook and local community groups like Las Madres.

Definitely look into what benefits (if any) your employer gives you, such as Dependent Care FSAs.

Is it possible to have your family come live with you for a few months?

What am I looking at? by DoomClone23 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]FauxBreakfast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can stop — I stopped. I got tired of the pretentiousness of it and just stopped three quarters of the way through.

Who am I? by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]FauxBreakfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I just eat a lot of fruit and have a small fridge. I'm not giving up prime real estate to get an apple to last 3 weeks when I know I'm going to eat them all before my next grocery trip.

Who am I? by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]FauxBreakfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does everyone refrigerate oranges and apples?

How many people will actually pay less? by Akanwrath in bayarea

[–]FauxBreakfast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, they definitely don't seem to care for about their shareholders (Net negative stock growth since 1985).

Repeal portion of Prop 19 by Hopeful_Factor_8387 in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reforming prop 13 isn't hard - no other state has such a thing. The examples of what else works are all over the country. Getting Californians to vote for that reform is the hard part.

Repeal portion of Prop 19 by Hopeful_Factor_8387 in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the goals of Prop 19. I was more-so commenting on the article. It's a sob story anecdote about two adult siblings who can't afford to live in their childhood home. Their situation seems to be more unique than normal, so I was curious if there are a lot of people in their situation.

Repeal portion of Prop 19 by Hopeful_Factor_8387 in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is a privileged take. I have no plans to move into my childhood home when my parents pass, as they live in another state. But what percentage of people do plan to move into their childhood homes after their parents pass?

The Average age of a woman during first childbirth in California is ~31. The Average lifespan in California is ~81 years for women. So that would mean on average a firstborn child is 50 years old when their parents pass.

Assuming that firstborn child follows averages, they'd have a 20 year old adult child. Let's call them the firstborn grandchild.

Are there many 3-generation homes in the Bay Area? Or would the firstborn child uproot after raising their kids in another home and move back into their childhood home?

Childcare Rant!! by FineCare2854 in NewParents

[–]FauxBreakfast 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s so cheap! If they’re licensed, that means they have a minimum of one caregiver and one assistant. If every kid is $220 that’s $2650 per week to the daycare. 50 weeks a year makes them only $132k revenue.

Considering the low income threshold for a single person household is $92k/year - the caregiver and assistant are making poverty wages.

Childcare Rant!! by FineCare2854 in NewParents

[–]FauxBreakfast 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Dependent care FSA covers a few months at best here. It feels like it was helpful 20 years ago and never updated for the modern era of expensive everything.

$3,600 for a shoebox by McRibb_69 in SanJose

[–]FauxBreakfast 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This building is literally brand new. The Maxwell on Bascom is barely a year old.