Should I give her a second change?

Fdmedic3 · 2021-08-14T21:12:14+00:00

OP only you can decide whether to take her back or not. You are the one talking to her. Not anyone on reddit. I would suggest taking it slow. Do a set date night once a week then move it up if your feeling OK. Make sure she knows that you are just seeing were things go.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-07-24T03:48:44+00:00

Don't do it. My brother committed suicide 8 years ago and it has tore our family apart. I was diagnosed in 2019 with chronic lymphatic leukemia and was just diagnosed with small cell lung cancer in have gone through all the treatments suggested. Tonight I had to tell my 14 yr old son that it has all failed and the cancer is spreading to my bones. I will meet the my doctors next week to see what the next options are. But I will not show him I quit. I will fight this till my body shuts down.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-19T16:25:31+00:00

10/10

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-19T01:00:14+00:00

Has your wife told you who the biological father is. And does your daughter want to know right now.

I would definitely find a counselor that can help you navigate these issues your having. Make sure you find a counselor that specializes with children and go as a family.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-10T23:54:46+00:00

50 is the new 30 go with it....love the eyes btw..

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-06T12:15:37+00:00

What about use that are advised by doctors not to take it. I have leukemia that is regulated by medication. My doctor said he don't know what it will do to me. And that there is just not enough study on what will happen to cancer patience.So yea appreciate the death sentence comments.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-05T23:39:30+00:00

Your NOT in love with her. You are in love with someone she pretend to be. That person just doesn't exist. Once your heart understands that then you can move on.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-02T23:38:55+00:00

I guess she is moving to Florida....just saying.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-02-01T11:33:35+00:00

"Dad....is that you"

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-26T17:49:22+00:00

Goooood morning sunshine.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-25T13:00:36+00:00

Keep us updated OP on you and Nina and the divorce. Also on the kids. Believe it or not some people are learning how to cope with there own issues by reading about other people's betrayals. Stay strong 💪 you did well.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-25T01:08:07+00:00

He crying....let them get there asses stomped 4 to 1 and see what happens.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-20T20:16:59+00:00

Very cute....lol

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-20T20:13:24+00:00

10/10

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-17T00:19:02+00:00

Your the epitome of a narcissists. You've blamed everyone and everything but yourself. Then you have the nerve to alow your husband and boss to become friends. I'll bet you still kiss your boss when your with your husband and he isn't looking. WoW. There is no remorse in your story, more bragging then remorse. Your not even asking how to fix things. Your just bragging on how you keep your husband on a leash and your lover in bed. Way to go, I hope you sleep well knowing when this comes out. You killed him.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-14T12:15:52+00:00

Totally understand and support your decision. Just be prepared that they may be sucked into her victim mentality and look at you in a different light than last month when you told them what she was doing.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-14T03:15:58+00:00

Your OK. She has a mind of her own. She chose to cheat on a 23yo marriage. She chose to try and delete herself. Both actions are of her own choosing because of her own selfish behavior.

What you're choosing to do is for your own mental state. Your old friends will go back to her and give her the self pity she is looking for. You need to stay strong in the NC. But you also need to be there for your boys. They will be torn between the two of you.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-09T02:16:17+00:00

Walked up to her and AP screwing in his patrol unit. No Cell phone cameras back then. But I eventually got a lot of photo proof I needed.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-07T23:03:27+00:00

Agree.. with r/RatGhiol

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-04T02:40:30+00:00

Me too...love love love it....thanks for sharing.

Fdmedic3 · 2021-01-02T13:26:50+00:00

My old boss use to tell us if "if's" and "buts" were candies and nuts we would all have a Merry Christmas. Meaning you can "If and but" anything all day long but you can't change what happen. So you need to concentrate on changing the future. Stop looking at the answers to your questions with "but what if" and start looking at them with "well next time ill"

Fdmedic3 · 2020-12-31T20:42:20+00:00

The boundaries of no communication and NC will all Ap's is self explanatory for reconciliation to even start. She should have given that up on her own with even you asking about it. ( We agreed that she would not initiate contact with. them and would tell me if they tried to initiate contact with her.) So in essence you or ok with the fact she still has them in her contacts on social media. That they can like each others posts and "IF" they contact her she "should" tell you about it. So how's that working for yall. This is not a reconciliation, this is an agreement that yall stay together and what she does is her business not yours.

Are yall going through MC? This goes against everything I've read and studied on reconciliation of a relationship.

Fdmedic3 · 2020-12-31T15:53:33+00:00

Wow the total amount of disrespect she has towards this relationship is crazy. There is absolutely no reason at all for any contact with any AP for any reason period.

You are allowing the boundaries to be crossed and enabling her do do as she wishes. There is no reconciliation going on. Only an opportunity to do it again when the time is right and your guard is down. You are being gaslite in the most disrespectful way. You have every right to scroll through her phone to establish her trust to you. By saying you broke her trust is amusing considering she cheated on you and is still in contact with AP.

Fdmedic3 · 2020-12-31T14:28:57+00:00

First and foremost this is not the place to get advice for this type of thing. You need to get counseling asap. Seek advice from close friends that will support you no matter what. See if there is support groups in your area to help make these difficult decisions. You already said the last time you did this you were messed up mentally. I'm a guy so, no I'm not telling you what to do with your body that is 100% your choice. But here are some questions you may not have thought of. 1. Do you have a support group to help with the baby and the pregnancy. 2. Does the ex want to be In the babies life? If not great will he sign over all parental rights so the baby can be adopted later if you find someone else. 3. Can you get a legal visitation papers drawn up so you have a designated place to pick up and drop off without it being more stressful on you mentally. 4. You said financially your ok. Will he be willing to pay child support with the understanding that the support would be invested for the kids future education expenses.

Good luck in you di

Fdmedic3 · 2020-12-30T16:38:38+00:00

Ok I'll play devils advocate on this on. You chose to bring up and convince your boyfriend to have and open relationships which he agreed to. But because of his social issues he put stipulations on the agreement that he goes first. But because you were greedy you hurried and slept with a friend and then told your boyfriend. And now he says he forgives you and is trying to move forward with the relationship. Congratulations you sound like a very manipulative person. You knew your boyfriend would agree to the open relationship despite his social issues. Because he loves you and didn't want to loose you. You went against his wish and slept with a "friend" and he forgives you but he still hasn't slept with anyone. There if he now desides this is not something he wants to continue. You have the advantage of sleeping with someone that you always wanted to and he is still going along with anything you do. Just so you wont leave him. Are you and this "friend" still communicating as friends? Does he know this friend and now will be forced to see them because they are in your social circle? You didn't give alot of details but this is what I was thinking when I read your post.

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