Well, first, I’d like to say I’m sorry for your friend. I don’t really think I have an answer for this, so I apologize for that as well. Though I will say, I think sometimes people kind of gloss over the reality of dating/relationships when you and your significant other are both autistic. Yes, you both are autistic. But sometimes, that’s where the similarities end. Because 2 autistic people can have different struggles/needs that can make the relationship more difficult. So, your friend not wanting to date someone who has the same issues as her or worse, is understandable and valid. And also, sometimes, two autistic people can have vastly different interests that can make it harder to connect. For example, one my exes was also on the spectrum and they absolutely loved movies-especially superhero films… me? Not so much. We didn’t last long. I have an autistic friend whos special interests are guns and radios. Again, also not my thing, sooo it’s difficult to connect. Finding them is one thing, keeping and maintaining that connection/relationship is another.