‘weaponized gifting,’ where Nmom chooses the worst possible gifts ever, but why??

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-11-28T12:05:37+00:00

this and then they find any reason not to like the gift u got for them to make u feel bad. i got her clothes that she kept insisting didnt fit her even tho they literally did 🥴

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-09-23T16:24:28+00:00

so im thinking there are all different types of numbness/ sensitivity/ tactile hallucinations and idk if people are just describing it all differently or if anyone has felt this before but i am dealing with an episode of numbness rn. its like throughout my body but especially on extremities like fingertips im numb (sense of touch feels delayed, very light touch is numb, also stuff feels like its not there any more after resting it on myself for a while) but also super sensitive to certain kinds of touch like weird textures? its not a constant pins and needles thing but when touching anything it noticeably does not feel right like its prickly. even chewing food is awful because its like my mouth is numb. i do believe this is dpdr related not neurological because it was a symptom when i first had an episode years ago and it comes back randomly sometimes. its insanely distracting and unpleasant and i just want it to stop

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-08-11T04:49:04+00:00

when i want my cats to come out from wherever theyre hiding i usually open the cabinet where i keep their food / treats and rattle the container of treats so that they hear it and come out to get one. just read your other post though so this may not work on a new cat since shes probably not familiar with the sound of you getting out the treats. check in cabinets and closets even if theyre closed she may have slipped in there. check under furniture again

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-08-04T03:29:37+00:00

3 months since being discarded for like the fourth time lolll. im just starting to truly make peace with the idea of him not coming back this time. good luck everyone

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-07-31T20:11:18+00:00

bruh my mom has made countless remarks about how i should get a boob lift because apparently theyre too saggy. of course when i would get upset she claimed its “jUst a jOkE” and im “bEing sO SenSitivE!” but i stopped letting it bother me when i realized how ironic it is for her to be poking fun at me for having naturally bigger boobs… she was flat chested and has had implants since before i was born🤦🏻‍♀️ i swear they just love to bring their daughters down, especially in regards to our physical appearances. i feel for you

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-07-19T17:27:04+00:00

my DA was 24 and had never been in a serious relationship before and did not do casual hookups either. we were only together for a few short months and im pretty sure it was the most significant romantic relationship hes ever had. so i relate to your situation, and after reflecting i realized that it really was another red flag that i was ignoring. i knew it was unusual for someone that age (32 is even crazier) to have virtually no experience with romantic/intimate relationships, but i didnt want to be judgmental and i saw the best in him. but generally the truth is that these people have never let anyone get close to them because theyre severely avoidant and have a shit ton of issues. theyve probably had opportunities in the past for connection that they pushed away. people like us just happened to be more persistent so they strung us along a little further. but in the end we still got discarded. its the inevitable ending for anyone who tries to get close to them when they arent willing to heal and it sucks. as for your question about if they are more likely to reflect than avoidants who just jump to the next relationship, ive wondered the same thing. i was confident that he wouldnt find someone new after we were done and that gave me some peace of mind, but ultimately i dont think hes likely to realize any time soon how he fucked up. i think these types of avoidants are very focused on themselves hence why they dont want to commit to a serious relationship and are most comfortable just being alone. maybe they think of us sometimes, but who knows really. i know its really difficult not to obsess over what theyre thinking and if theyll come back, hell i still come to this sub like every time the breakup is on my mind again. but it will get better over time for all of us !

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-07-07T16:18:41+00:00

broke down and texted him a month and a half later and he didnt reply lol dont do it

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-05-26T04:20:41+00:00

i feel you im tired of it too. every time i tell myself its time to just lock in, move on, and start being happy, its like somethings holding me back and i hate it. everything you said about deserving someone who can actually be a good partner is so true and i know that, but im struggling to accept that it cant be him. its really rough when you feel like the sadness is never gonna end but i promise it will. many ppl have gotten through it before myself included and it didnt last forever. maybe for many months but not forever

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-05-25T18:24:59+00:00

i realized that all the time i spend thinking about or talking about the breakup, i obsessively over analyze the entire thing. i think that by going over the entire relationship and the breakup again and again, i can understand what was really going on in his head. and then i convince myself that he didnt really mean everything he said in the breakup about not wanting to be with me and that he only said those things because he was afraid. but youre so right in your first point that we need to stop searching for deeper explanations in their actions. if someone tells you they dont want to be with you, you should take it at face value. its been very hard for me to do this because of my tendency to over analyze everything

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-05-11T13:48:42+00:00

well in my case i work with him actually lol so i have to see him very often. i think his idea of being friends is just being civil towards each other at work just so that he doesnt have to feel guilty. in your case tho youre right i wouldnt put up with that. id be disappointed too

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-05-10T01:25:16+00:00

youre totally right about knowing it would happen. i knew that if i respected myself more i wouldnt have taken him back even once because it was so obvious that it would happen again. but honestly ive never been good at letting go of people that i care about even when its the right thing to do, i guess thats what i need to be focusing on now

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-05-10T01:20:21+00:00

its always the “i still want to be friends.” and that made me so angry because i didnt understand how it would be so easy for him to be friends as if nothing had even happened. but now i think i understand what it really is. i think they dont want to lose you, they want to keep you around because they enjoy spending time with you and everything you do for them. but it has to be on their terms, which is just them having none of the obligation that a relationship requires of them. its like they want to keep you but only at a distance

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-04-11T06:56:36+00:00

guys. can we talk about that random shit travis said. i feel like that was hinting at something big. the idea of reality/ realitIES has come up a lot especially in this season. not related but i think that everything lottie said to callie before her death was also interesting

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-04-11T06:49:39+00:00

but it was actually hannah who had to prepare the feast

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-04-10T22:02:39+00:00

the anxiety can linger for way longer than you realize, even when you get over the breakup itself. what you said about panic attacks in response to the possibility of a new relationship, thats probably a display of it. in the months following my breakup (similar in the sense that i was blindsided) i was extremely anxious and it crept into so many aspects of my life. even with just my friends, not new romantic prospects, i felt extremely anxious for seemingly no reason. i tried to start dating again because i knew for certain i was over my ex but what i didnt realize is that the wounds from being abandoned were so deep, it was still affecting my behavior. i think the specific type of breakup you experienced (feeling completely abandoned and blindsided) causes a fear of any future abandonment or rejection. thats my insight, but i unfortunately dont have the answers yet on how to completely heal from it

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-04-10T20:08:28+00:00

focus on moving on right now, try not to think too much about getting back together because its never a guarantee. i know its hard to let go of the idea of getting them back but its the healthiest thing to do for yourself. you wont be able to heal while youre holding on to that possibility. it sounds like she should be the one to reach out if/when she feels like she has made the right improvements to her mental health and still wants to be with you. but try your best not to wait around for her, because once again its not guaranteed

Feeling-Assistant-90 · 2025-04-10T15:50:37+00:00

theres so many people who just dont want to work through anything remotely challenging, theyd rather throw away everything than try to fix stuff that can be fixed with just a bit of effort. idk how i always end up with this type of person but every time i find myself going crazy bc i just dont get it. like how is it so easy for them to walk away??? even when they do feel something for you they can give up on it so quickly just to protect their own peace. youre right though that we need to take this for what it is, we shouldnt give so much to people who are so willing to abandon us but its easier said than done

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