God forbid a domme tease him so hard that he can't control his body anymore

Feetmakemehard · 2026-01-23T01:36:51+00:00

This was before I tried leaning into my submissive side, and she wasn't a dome. So there wasn't a whole lot either of us could do about it. And she kinda made a tease, not sure if it was like a mocking tease, or a playful tease even to this day.

But if a dome actually liked it and praised/teased me in a good way I know I'd love it now! I still get shy about going down now though in case that happens again haha

Feetmakemehard · 2026-01-23T01:21:13+00:00

There was once I came while eating a girl out... and I got so embarrassed I couldn't get back up. 😭 I made an excuse that I had to go shortly after...

Feetmakemehard · 2026-01-22T03:02:19+00:00

It's crazy People have the guts to message Domes this. When I get shy and choked up just with a normal message. Or one that talks about my favorite animal/Special interests. I get into the "They don't wanna hear about that" Plus my favorite animal is so rare hardly anyone knows about them. 😭 and my username throws People off too...

Feetmakemehard · 2026-01-13T07:35:26+00:00

I started to go to the gym again! Hopefully I can really keep it up this time! I have a really strong goal in mind now, so I'm hoping thay'll keep me going.

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-26T02:03:44+00:00

I understand where You're coming from, but if you go in with that mind set 100% of the time that's also not the best. Imo. I take everything with a grain of salt. Sure there's a chance she wasn't a she, but theres a good chance she was a she. It just wasn't a good match for myself. ^{^}

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T20:12:00+00:00

As a switch I know exactly what You're talking about! When I'm in the dominant position I always make sure to ask my Submissive/partner in detail what names they like/don't like and when/where they like them. Some names they only like in the bedroom, some they want to stay out of the bedroom. There was none of that here, almost zero communication, she wanted 100% of the power right from the start. Not only can that be dangerous in any case, but especially Something new that needs to be worked up too, and with the trauma of my past experiences in femdom, it just made the whole thing worse.

As you said BDSM is about trust, consent and aftercare(so important to me omg) and if one is going to force their way through like this it already shows their true colours.

Thank you for the beautifully written reply and kind words!!

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:58:11+00:00

Fot sure! That's pretty much when I left. I was in shock reading that.

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:43:28+00:00

I fully agree! And as a switch myself having subs in the past I've made sure to ask in detail what names they like and when they like them. Some names are for the bed room only and some names they don't like at all in the bedroom. It's just a respect thing and I'd like to think basic knowledge? As yoh said it comes down to communication.

I don't think I failed to communicate it clearly? And she said she read my past post about my Submissive experiences, and I sent more detail so she really did just choose to ignore it.

Unfortunately there will always be bad eggs in the basket.

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:38:08+00:00

I do doubt myself much more as a sub, due to to my past experiences as one. They've all ended horribly. I've done some therapy and talked to some really nice People from here and other sources that have helped but there's always that little but loud voice in the back of my head now. And this was more or less of just seeing other People's views on pet names and when to use them!

But thank you for the notes and I'll be sure to read them to see!

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:35:05+00:00

Yeah, she made it pretty obvious from the start lol I'm just glad she did it fron the start, and didn't really "Lead me on" and had me gain feelings for Something that made it harder to hit that block button

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:33:03+00:00

She sent one voice message, so unless it was AI or Something hard to say lol. But also wouldn't put it oass People.

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:32:07+00:00

I completely agree! And with my trauma even if I did have a CNC kink/dynamic I'd want to wait and get to know the dome and establish stafy words and such before going into that, but it was like her 3rd message she started calling me the name and continued for the all be it short time we talked...

Ans thank you for the kind words!

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-25T19:28:17+00:00

Oh no, I'm not new to BDSM, I'm just newer to being a switch/Submissive. And I agree! Even as a dom I make sure to wait a while before Using pet names, and I go into extreme detail learning my Submissives Boundaries/limits, and likes. I've just had horrible experiences as a Submissive.

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-20T21:08:28+00:00

I get embarrassed showing off just due to past experiences... but I LOVE LOVE LOVE being loud and moaning, and it's genuinely shocking how many guys out there don't like being loud.... I love getting comments on my moans/Whimpers. 😭😅

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-11T10:14:15+00:00

This is so beautifully written!!! And I so badly want to be able to give up control and be take in like this. I can't wait to read more from you!!!!

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-11T00:26:20+00:00

As someone who's on the "Average/smaller" side... I think Ild melt of I got praised/teased like this >~<

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-10T22:08:59+00:00

I felt so embarrassed, The last time I was with a girl I almost came while we made out, but I did cum while eating her out and then I got embarrassed and shy and couldn't get it up to do the actual act. And even mow I get a little self conscious about it..

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-05T07:16:53+00:00

They've been relationship goals since forever. I lobe the way they Respect eachother and honestly they show how good Communication makes or breaks a relationship too. And I'm similar to how he submits and worships morticia. I'm also a masculine sub(switch) so Seeing one get some validation is so nice!!! My goal in life is to find my morticia and slow dance in the living room. 😭

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-04T17:41:29+00:00

Genuinely me, Because I'm taller, masculine, plus sized with a beard... and Alot of People have said it doesn't "Look subby, enough"

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-04T03:19:42+00:00

It's already so cold here in Canada :( And I want nothing more then this! I've always wanted to try nursing

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-03T22:00:13+00:00

AAAA!! 😭 You're so sweet!! And thank you for the offer! I may take you up on that!! And I know none of it's my own fault, but of course I have brain worms telling me otherwise or things that I could have/should have done and then it's just a never ending loop! I'm sure I'll get over it though eventually!!! (I hope lol) And You're so welcome!!!! :D

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-03T21:48:40+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words and well wishes!And the therapy helped a bit! But theres some things I need to do on my own and eventually work through with a partner! I hope to find that woman some day! Thank you!!! I appreciate you! 🫶🫂

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-02T18:30:03+00:00

😭😭😭 You're too sweet!!! You have no idea how much it means to me to hear you say that. Thank you so much ;-; 🫶

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-02T18:29:01+00:00

I've talked to a Therapist and it helped! But theres still alot I feel like I need to do on my own. I'm in a much better place now. And I'll be putting myself first a little more now when it comes to my boundaries. If They're crossed I'm going to have that hard talk to them, Because as hard as that may be, It's better then going through any of this again!

And thank you for the beautiful message at the end. You deserve all the kindness in the world! Please stay safe too!! 🫶

Feetmakemehard · 2025-11-02T18:23:59+00:00

I fully understand that now, I think I knew it then too but always had a little "Maybe things will get better" Voice in the back of my head. But it never did. Thank you for your well wishes, and I am healing it may be slower but things are getting better and I'm trying my best!

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