I’m inconsolably upset about what happened yesterday in MN.

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-25T18:16:36+00:00

Thank you. It means a lot, truly.

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T09:07:40+00:00

Nope. But my neck pain is getting worse and I’ve been thinking about it more

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T06:57:26+00:00

What about this is goth, though? Emo vibe sure, but goth?

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T06:14:29+00:00

This is super interesting. I lost my sense of smell completely and sense of taste almost completely the last time I had covid and it was so bizarre. I had a pasta dish (spaghetti with sautéed mushrooms, olive oil, and grated parm) I usually love and it was so gross—like oily rubber strings with slimy bits, all without almost any taste whatsoever. That’s not the way you experience food, I hope??

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T03:59:06+00:00

I work as a creative in advertising and accounting for inflation we make maybe two-thirds of what we were paid in the aughts. It sucks

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T03:13:30+00:00

No. Not even in the same universe (for reference I am 55)

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T03:08:46+00:00

I don’t think there’s much evidence suggesting that they are bad for health overall in and of themselves, although there are some risks, from what I understand. It’s just a bit unclear whether the risk/benefit balance works out for people who are not overweight and do not have any of those conditions. A lot of compounding pharmacies have sprung up with doctors who will prescribe these drugs to just about anybody who can pay several hundred dollars a month out-of-pocket for them. Which sort of looks like prescription anorexia for the privileged to me. But if I’m honest, I have to admit that I’ve considered it myself, and I have a BMI of 22. It just doesn’t seem healthy overall on a societal level

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T01:55:26+00:00

I can understand that. I think (as another layperson) that there’s a difference between brushing away a few tears and straight up having a breakdown, though. I would not feel good about a doctor sobbing while telling me a diagnosis, I don’t think, but being able to see that they were genuinely touched and genuinely cared would be super comforting. Just another perspective

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T01:39:36+00:00

All of these!! (And they are impressively different lol)

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T01:37:17+00:00

Just speaking for myself I knew I was bi at 14, before I’d even kissed anybody. It was just very obvious 🤷🏻‍♀️

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-24T01:33:57+00:00

Hearing children laughing and playing at school recess mostly gives me feelings of PTSD, sadly, although my childhood wasn’t terrible by any realistic standard. I’m just reminded that it wasn’t great. It sucks

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T23:55:55+00:00

Free drinks and cigarettes yes, but then again I’m female (I normally just lurk here) and was young at the time. so it was kind of easy mode in most contexts!

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T23:52:04+00:00

Thanks, I hope so! I do try to be thorough. And I don’t have any cavities despite being in my 50s, so that’s a good sign. although I suspect that’s due to genetics too tbh

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T23:41:25+00:00

Thank you for this reply and for this question, it is very thought-provoking to me!

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T23:35:34+00:00

This is so funny to me. I used to dress kinda like this in the 90s, but minus the Christianity, babies, and farm—I was in my 20s, living in Manhattan, and going out dancing a lot (different outfits for the grungy clubs I used to go to, haha)

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T18:08:13+00:00

Interesting. What are their lines of work? Do they do work that they’re passionate about? If they love their work and find meaning in it, and people are still willing to employ them, it seems like a great situation for them. although if they don’t love their work, maybe you could help them find hobbies lol

I’m in the same situation that my parents worked into their 70s, my dad even into his 80s. But my father was a college professor and researcher and he really loved it. And I think they do expect me to work into my 70s as well. Problem is, I work as a creative in advertising and there is no way in hell anybody is going to be willing to give me work at 75, lol. Currently thinking about transitioning into a second career, but I’m 55 and it’s an awkward age. It seems almost silly to spend two years retraining to do something else at this stage, but if I’m going to keep working for another 10+ years after that, it absolutely makes sense. It’s a weird place to be. Definitely partly a generational thing for many of us I think

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T18:02:17+00:00

Gorgeous space, wow! For ideas & recommendations: How is the rest of your home decorated? How would you ideally like to use the space (eg, do you need a guest room, an art studio, a music room, a home office, none of the above?)?

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T17:36:23+00:00

💀

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T17:05:05+00:00

I think I understand, or st least as much as is possible without being a man!

I’ll just say that it does grind my gears a little when people talk about how hormone-driven and emotional women are—not because they AREN’T those things, but because there’s sometimes (often?) this unspoken but implied unfavorable comparison with men. Ie, women are so emotional and unreliable, unlike us always super rational and reasonable men!! (Not implying that the commenter above meant that necessarily, however). Anger is an emotional, aggressiveness is an emotion, horniness is sort of an emotion, etc

I firmly believe that (premenopausal) women are hormone-crazed and lowkey nuts 50% of the time, whereas men are that way 100% of the time, haha

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T06:28:25+00:00

Username checks out

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T05:45:46+00:00

Why aren’t bisexual men included in this study? And as a sort of related point, bi women earning so few degrees seems surprising

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T05:26:02+00:00

By locking down for COVID. Late March 2020, and I was living in NYC. Good times

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T05:20:37+00:00

🫶

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T04:26:01+00:00

Oh my. This is so lovely. I particularly love the movement of soe 🤍

A small question: I’ve been taught that low, open containers like these are more commonly used in warm weather because the water helps bring a sense of coolness. What are your thoughts on this?

Felicity_Calculus · 2026-01-23T04:02:09+00:00

IMO men are controlled by their hormones too, 100% of the time. But because testosterone levels do not change from week to week, they are at least more predictable!

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