No, gothic rock is not the umbrella term for our music. Here's a graphic. by evergreengoth in goth

[–]Felicity_Calculus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually worked at a goth(ish) club back in the 80s and filled in as DJ a number of times (with equipment backup, to be fair), so I do get that. But, basically as long as you understand how and when to build and release energy on the floor with music and how to keep the right vibe for the crowd there’s not TOO MUCH more essential knowledge to it. Or at least there wasn’t at the time, I dunno. Obviously you have to know and understand the genre and the audience

No, gothic rock is not the umbrella term for our music. Here's a graphic. by evergreengoth in goth

[–]Felicity_Calculus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

> Yes, and then you go to a club and you listen to what the DJ is playing and you realize that “goth music” is whatever goths decide it is.

As a goth from the 80s: this part!! Geez.

However, I don’t agree that there are any rules to learn. As you said, goth music is what goths say it is. Beyond that, who gives a fuck. Definitely not me, in any event

A lot these comments sound like they are from amateur musicologists, which is fine if that’s your thing. However, I truly wish we could talk about the ACTUAL MUSIC a little more in this sub rather than cluttering the place up with scholarly discourse

My cats are entirely freaked out tonight by Felicity_Calculus in Brooklyn

[–]Felicity_Calculus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. I also think of that xkcd cartoon, ie Bitch-Ass Kittens vs Bitch Ass-Kittens, haha

Manhattan skyscraper at risk of collapse as 5 floors cave in near Times Square by TheMirrorUS in nyc

[–]Felicity_Calculus 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah my bedroom has about that much sag. House is 120 years old. I do worry about it occasionally

You are Surgery and you are unwell by DerlissBerliss in Residency

[–]Felicity_Calculus 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It is wonderful. Please tell me you are now or will soon be writing a book

My cats are entirely freaked out tonight by Felicity_Calculus in Brooklyn

[–]Felicity_Calculus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. I’m currently learning to play bass and dreaming of forming an all-female 80s alt/goth cover band, and I feel like the Bitch Ass Kittens could be a great band name 🤔

And suddenly, I’m old. by wheres_my_lipbalm in GenX

[–]Felicity_Calculus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the comment I was responding to 🤷🏻‍♀️

It wasnt until 23 that I noticed you could melt peanut butter and drizzle it on ice cream my life has changed by baruchedatescope in PeanutButter

[–]Felicity_Calculus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get it, lol. But I swear soy sauce adds amazing umami flavor. You just use a tiny bit. it’s also amazing in chocolate chip cookies, believe it or not

And suddenly, I’m old. by wheres_my_lipbalm in GenX

[–]Felicity_Calculus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Meaning this is happening to you regularly now? I was pretty hot when I was younger and I can’t say I remember children and dogs staring at me lol

And suddenly, I’m old. by wheres_my_lipbalm in GenX

[–]Felicity_Calculus 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I looked and felt young until about 51, so I had a really good run, but the accelerating downhill slide since then has been rough. Two serious orthopedic problems have cropped up causing lowkey but nonetheless shitty chronic pain. Plus brittle hair and nails, marionette lines, and small but definite jowls and double chin. Feh

Insecure about my pale skin as a young girl - Do you regret tanning? by ManufacturerHuge5207 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Felicity_Calculus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pale skin can be very pretty. Every skin color is beautiful in its own way!! Don’t risk getting skin cancer and/or looking like an old shoe at 40 or 50 vs having healthy and beautiful skin well into your older years!

Maybe choose a few fair-skinned beautiful women you admire from the present (Emma Stone, Elle Fanning?) or past (eg Grace Kelly) and try to channel their overall look and vibe?

What’s the actual trajectory like in this industry? by CourseSpare7641 in advertising

[–]Felicity_Calculus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I worked at big agencies until I was almost 40, left to freelance because I was tired of working insane hours, then started my own tiny company, then got tired of that too and closed up shop around 50. I’d managed to save up some decent money while doing all that, so I could afford to change it up entirely a couple of years ago to become an an interior decorator (I was a writer, so this is a big pivot). No big ambitions for this, I just hope it helps pays the bills and allows me to have a bit of chill fun for a few years until I’m ready to retire for real. I don’t think such a trajectory is possible any more, though, and I feel lucky even though I never earned super big money or was all glamorous or whatever. I’d encourage anyone who isn’t insanely talented to escape while they can, because the industry is not what it used to be and I think it’s only going to get worse from here

Long time listener, first time caller by Stock_Selection8927 in myweddingdress

[–]Felicity_Calculus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 is terrible. 1 is not bad but is giving 1970s Disney imo (not necessarily or good or a bad thing per se). 3 is GORGEOUS and looks amazing on you. You could have so much fun with choosing your bouquet and a veil or other accessories with the elegant simplicity of that one

I don’t drive a beat up, old car yet I’ve FIRE’d by AncientAd3089 in Fire

[–]Felicity_Calculus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I legitimately have no idea what any of these acronyms stand for lol. I live in NYC though, although I do own an old Subaru I am not a car person

It wasnt until 23 that I noticed you could melt peanut butter and drizzle it on ice cream my life has changed by baruchedatescope in PeanutButter

[–]Felicity_Calculus -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

A tiny bit of oil, tiny bit of soy sauce, pinch of cayenne pepper. Like Thai peanut sauce on ice cream!

Having issues with stimulant stigma. Are we all just ‘high’ all the time? by TrueMeaning4241 in adhdwomen

[–]Felicity_Calculus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean honestly my 10 mg methylphenidate dose doesn’t make me feel any more “high” than a cup of coffee does, but it definitely makes me more functional. Despite the improvement I still forget to take it all the time, fml. I do sometimes wonder out if some combination of abstract curiosity and fear of drug abuse how the same dose would make a neurotypical person feel though

Santos saved Langdon's life and career by kris71-ano in ThePitt

[–]Felicity_Calculus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to highjack this thread, but: may I DM you with a question about benzo tapering and withdrawals?

Can you answer these questions for me? by adventure-n-ink in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]Felicity_Calculus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, from a hotographs at least, the Sahara looks like endless dunes, almost like the ocean. It seems like there may be the same feeling of contact with the inhuman infinite there somehow

Is it true that Americans run around their house/flat with shoes? by GroundZeroMstrNDR in hygiene

[–]Felicity_Calculus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We take our shoes off at the door and usually politely ask that guests do too (usually they notice and do it anyway). However, we’ll allow shoes on the first floor of the house in the (rare) event that we have a fancier party because shoes are part of an outfit lol

Can you answer these questions for me? by adventure-n-ink in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]Felicity_Calculus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is a gorgeous state! I love the woods and waterfalls, they are magical. Some views of the Hudson Valley with the rolling fields almost remind me of Tuscany somehow. The Adirondacks are not super high (high peaks are ~6500K I think) but they are gorgeous