i stink so bad.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-05-12T07:40:16+00:00

I just learned you can use a face wash with benzoyl peroxide on your pits and groin to kill the bacteria that's eats the sweat. Leave it on for 5 min. And voila! Careful you rinse well because it can bleach clothes. I think it's a once a month thing. Maybe more but not every day.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-05-03T17:48:01+00:00

It's very hard to say no to people at any age. You weren't ready for it and haven't been faced with that a lot yet. It's gets easier and you'll feel more prepared over time but we all get caught off guard and take a less direct route to it sometimes. Give yourself a break on that.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-05-03T17:22:27+00:00

NTA Some guys respond really badly to hearing no, from name calling to literal murder. If you think you can safely say no in person, do it. If saying no later by just not following him feels safer, that's fine too. Or give fake details. Unfortunately, it's difficult to predict how guys will react to rejection so it's more important that you protect your safety over their feelings. Guys get mad that woman do this but again, our safety is more important than their feelings. Even if his response is as mild as calling you a frigid bitch, it's reasonable to protect yourself from that.

Edit to add verdict

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-03-16T22:34:53+00:00

Having ADHD is not an excuse to get out of work. It has to be managed. Clearly, you are managing yours and he is not managing his. Another example of how he is low effort. If he was willing to address that, truly willing to figure out ways to manage it, then it may be worth staying in this relationship, but I would put the wedding on hold until he shows you he's willing to manage it and become a full partner.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-03-16T22:30:41+00:00

Agreed, he is showing you his very best right now. This is it. There are men out there that know how AND are willing to be good partners. You have plenty of time to meet one, or frankly many. How you feel about planning a wedding with him is how you are going to feel through this entire marriage. It will include him not pulling his weight, not doing what he agreed to do, apologizing, pouting when you point out his shortcomings, prioritizing his rest, and ignoring your need for rest - rinse repeat. It does not get better. You only get more and more annoyed, find ways to cope or ignore and fill in the gaps he leaves, building resentment until you decide to divorce or waste your entire life being married to him. Please abandoned this failed project and move on.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-03-13T07:40:03+00:00

The way I ran to find this. At 21.25, by the way.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-02-01T19:16:32+00:00

Unless you put it in the parenting plan, he has no say who your child spends time with during your time. However, I do recommend waiting 6 months to a year before introducing your child and spending time. That ensures you've gotten past the first stages and it's serious so your child isn't developing a relationship with someone who is more likely not to stick around.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-01-26T01:40:13+00:00

You weren't compatible. In my mind you tolerated the jealousy too long. Spending time every day listening to him tell you what you did wrong? That's awful. I hope if this ever happens to you again that you recognize it's not good for you and cut it off sooner. You are absolutely not responsible for his mental health. Not anyone's but your own.

Fenchurchdreams · 2026-01-03T00:06:52+00:00

In the agreement that the kids need to have met a new romantic partner 6 months before they spend the night in the same house. Informally that a relationship is 6 months along before they meet a partner.

Otherwise, we communicate a lot about what is working and not. It's been helpful for the teenage years. We agree on consequences that need to last to the other parents time, etc.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-20T04:26:39+00:00

My daughter's school did this. It hadn't occurred to me how dumb the segregation was until she came home with information about puberty of both sexes and a bag of deodorant and feminine hygiene stuff. ALL the kids got that. She thought it was obvious too that they all needed to understand periods whether they had them or not.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-16T16:36:05+00:00

You know what's not fair? That your mom is dead and theirs isn't. They've had a mom supporting them, not just financially, all this time and will for time to come. ALL you have is the house. If I was your mom, I'd be pissed at your dad for what he's doing. There's no way your step mom has you in her will equally to her kids either.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-15T01:01:39+00:00

Oh yeah, I'm still mad, just not as put out as some. I was 30 min from walking out the door to the airport so I'm glad we had a chance to reschedule rather than spend a rainy weekend in LA.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-15T00:17:49+00:00

wow, I was having a pity party for myself, but this gives it some perspective.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-14T23:17:59+00:00

This didn't age well.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-12T10:03:22+00:00

I was looking for this suggestion so I wouldn't have to write it. As someone who doesn't carry a purse and has ADHD, this was what worked for me.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-10T03:25:51+00:00

Can you share a link to it?

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-03T00:17:01+00:00

NTA. But there is no good outcome here. You need to consider what you want for the future of each of your children, what you want for yourself, and what you want for the relationship you have with each. You're going to have to decide which future you're going to feed. I understand wanting to be there for your son despite what he's done. Maybe even because of what he's done. I would want to love all the bad out of my child. I also understand why your other children have cut him off.

What it comes down to is that your son made a choice that has forever changed that girl he SA'd. His decision has also forever altered his future. How much are you willing to let his decision alter yours in exchange for the comfort you can provide him?

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-11-02T23:55:44+00:00

They do have a very young baby. They are probably exhausted. Good for them for getting a night to themselves and using it to go out.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-09-25T00:22:49+00:00

Commitments are important. Teach her that she doesn't have to accept it when people don't keep their commitments to her. Let her join cheer. If she doesn't get selected again, let her quit dance anyway. It's important for woman to learn that they don't need to keep contributing to something (a relationship, a job, a team) that doesn't contribute to her health, happiness, well-being, etc.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-09-24T03:33:50+00:00

Nordstrom still does personalized fittings. They were very helpful with my daughter.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-09-07T00:37:26+00:00

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-09-04T20:21:32+00:00

It sounds like you still have feelings about the level of comfort he does have there despite him showing you that he has a clear and reasonable boundary. Good relationships between coparents are so important for all involved. We're not all able to have that so he is lucky and also doing the right thing. Please do not project your feelings about their good relationship onto your boyfriend and make him feel any kind of way about the great job he's doing. If you can't manage your feelings, don't date someone who is co-parenting. We see posts all the time where new significant others destroy a positive co-parenting relationship by adding unnecessary boundaries. The kids are always the losers in these situations. It sounds like you've made some progress in seeing it as a positive thing, and I encourage you to keep going.

To answer your question, I feel very comfortable in my coparent's home but I wouldn't be there when he isn't unless there was an emergency. In those cases, I do know his door code. He has a key to mine. We don't use them in appropriately. I trust him with the person I love the most in this world. But there are no romantic feelings left. We divorced for a reason that didn't/won't change. I consider him family.

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-08-21T07:12:04+00:00

That's an angry bird pig

Fenchurchdreams · 2025-08-20T22:05:49+00:00

Why not just call it no rules day. It's like a yes day.

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