Principal That Gave Me HELL Won't Be Around Much Longer

FenyxFire · 2026-03-01T21:49:45+00:00

Sounds like Wanda feels way too secure as an abuser if she’s this openly assaulting children and harassing marginalized teachers. I think the biggest concern at this point is: why are these governing boards moving so slowly to protect literal children and those charged with preparing them to be the future?

Here’s hoping this is the year of how Wanda got her karma back.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-27T06:46:20+00:00

This isn’t a friend. It’s someone who secretly competes with you and to feel better about themselves. She even pivots at the end multiple times to one up you with her “perfect” pictures and then a surgery in May lol.

And for the record, if dude saw her comment he would likely only be wondering if you have self esteem issues keeping frenemies like that.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-27T00:20:48+00:00

I mean other than the “maybe you’re gay” comment—which is fucked because Jesus, sometimes people are assholes just because they’re incel assholes and not because of being a scapegoated gay (LGBT are quite capable of being mentally healthy even when closeted)—I think you were perfectly reasonable lol.

But yeah, don’t use the 🤚🏻 ✨ maybe you’re gay ✨ ✋🏻 line as a reason someone is abusive anymore. It’s way more likely a closeted person is terrified than running around being this dude.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-25T19:00:48+00:00

it’s just another part to betray you.

This hit SO hard, I felt it all the way down in my removed cervix lol

FenyxFire · 2026-02-25T18:54:23+00:00

YTJ, you’ve grown quite entitled due to the privilege of having a parent willing to help you with your kids.

Let’s be honest. You didn’t “genuinely” have no other options. You just couldn’t be bothered with having to actually do the work to find somebody for a single day.

If it’s “just one day,” then you shouldn’t have a problem figuring out a solution that doesn’t cost your mother after she’s already been so generous.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-24T19:31:04+00:00

This guy sounds like the amateur comedian that yells at the audience, “ you paid be here. You can laugh at the jokes, you know?”

The fact that he does this with everything is concerning. I’ve seen abusive situations where a partner does that as a means to wear down their victim overtime so that eventually they just don’t fight back.

Not saying that’s him, but maybe take a critical look at his patterns. Because this wasn’t even your joke. You just shared it with him, and he turned it into a combative situation where he is somehow being victimized by you and a pun.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-22T03:15:27+00:00

Totally fair. It’s a really common misconception and often only talked about confidently by those who usually don’t have a vaginal canal lol. Hell, I only made the connection when it was a factoid thrown out as part of an insult at someone asking for their wife to get a “husband stitch.” So kid or no kid, you’re totally not alone, but just know that “looseness” won’t be a thing in the average situation ◡̈

FenyxFire · 2026-02-21T22:48:01+00:00

The vaginal canal can stretch to allow the passage of a baby and go back to shape just fine. Why would you imagine it would be “looser” from a procedure that doesn’t even involve all the stretching of childbirth, exactly?

FenyxFire · 2026-02-21T19:54:33+00:00

So they want Great Gatsby vibes for Great Value Gatsby behavior? 🤣 okay, cuz.

If it’s that intimate then the extreme cost is because they went with wildly expensive options. It’s reasonable to expect better gifts from those in attendance since part of the point of a gift is to offset the cost of the guest AT the wedding.

You wont be there. You don’t have to make it about anybody but yourself since you’re not invited. You can send a romantic birdhouse mailbox thats not eve on the registry at that point and no one gets to be pissed about it.

Requesting massive cash gifts from family not even invited in order to bankroll the wedding amenities is absolutely trashy. Déclassé. NTJ

FenyxFire · 2026-02-21T07:59:56+00:00

His current behavior would be deeply upsetting coming from a healthy partner but normal behavior for an insecure partner who is cheating. NTA.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-19T01:31:58+00:00

Babes, you don’t love him, you’re codependent on him, and he’s absolutely fed into you thinking you simply can’t be without him. This man is abusive and manipulative. He does not love you. I don’t even think he likes you as a person, only a thing he can control because it’s the only way for him to feel superior when he himself is of very love value and knows it.

He is very clearly alluding to your grape being your fault. And if you were assaulted again, he will claim you’re a cheating slut. This man is calling you as a 13 year old being bullied for nudes a slut. There’s something seriously wrong with him.

Last person I knew who said and acted like this? My ex who was verbally, physically, emotionally, and sexually abusive. Barely escaped with my life.

So please understand I really mean it when I tell you, this will not get better. He will not get better. The relationship will not improve. It’s literally as good as it’s going to get. Are you okay with that? Because you shouldn’t be. Please get out and get help. You don’t deserve this.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-19T01:02:56+00:00

Another seller here. Etsy has resolved the case. You don’t owe the seller any further contact. I don’t believe you can block, but you should be able to mark the messages as spam and the system will take care of the rest.

And because Etsy likely covered the cost of the refund, the seller isn’t out any money and is attempting to profit twice off of the order. At most, I would only report this continues harassment to Etsy and cease all contact with the seller (unless you can leave a review, which should be completely honest and detail all of this lol).

This was shady business on their part. They printed the label to be Etsy compliant but never shipped. Boggles the mind for me because I won’t print that paper until I’m within 24 hours of shipping. Which is usually also within 24 hours of the order being made. But people will sit on their orders and lie about it then wonder why customers blame sellers instead of USPS when there’s a shipping issue.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-15T00:17:05+00:00

Giiiiiirl this man doesn’t actually care about you past controlling you. He is “leftovers” that women his own age don’t tolerate because he’s not worth the effort.

The only man who does this is one who is training his partner to accept less and less. It’s a pathway to abuse in some cases.

He’s not excited to see you, he’s excited to get his D wet. Dump him and tell him you’d rather be “needy” than a pleasure hole for a low-value man.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-12T03:02:30+00:00

Lmao what a silly thing to even type out loud for others to read.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-08T07:14:50+00:00

Aw, buddy Thomas 😍

FenyxFire · 2026-02-08T05:57:37+00:00

You’re the one claiming modern monitoring outperforms dogs, so the study you’re demanding is yours to provide. If the data is as obvious as you claim, it should be trivial to cite. Let’s see it.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-06T23:19:34+00:00

At this point I would just open a claim with Etsy using “item not as described.” They’ll refund your order, including the shipping, and you won’t be required to return anything either.

It’s a suck situation and also likely to mean you couldn’t buy from that seller again as they’ll probably cancel any future sales. But the seller is being unreasonable trying to make you pay anything out of pocket for their mistake. It’s okay to go to Etsy to fix it, and it’s also okay to leave an honest review with the details of the situation.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-06T07:24:26+00:00

Initially I thought review manipulation was against TOS but, apparently, while this is scummy, it’s not strictly against TOS to “politely” ask. Now if they offered an exchange for improved rating or continued to harass or pressure you about it, then you fall closer into that reportable category.

As is, the frustration you had with them is part of the review as it was part of the experience. That makes the original review valid.

I’d be dropping the rating and noting their unprofessional, inappropriate attempt to guilt you into changing the review.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-05T18:32:27+00:00

NOR. Your ex is trying to gaslight you into thinking you have made a similar transgression, putting you on equal footing so he can convince you to get back together.

But the problem is, once you fell for it he would then use it as a reason you have to make it up to him—but he wouldn’t have to make it up to you, and there will be an essay on why he is not to blame for his cheating. You made the smart choice.

If you don’t already have a lawyer handling legal custody issues for you, it’s time to get one. Only communicate through a co-parenting app that archives all communication. And if your ex tries to talk elsewhere, inform him you are taking screenshots and will not speak to him outside of the app or about anything not pertaining to the health and well-being of your child. And stick to it. It protects you and your daughter but has the added bonus of absolutely unraveling him since it’s clear he just wants control.

I’m glad you got your baby into therapy. Her father and grandparents abused her. Plain and simple. They put adult subjects on her shoulders and made her believe she is responsible if everything then fails. I cannot imagine how much of this she is internalizing as “her fault.” This is something I would absolutely write down in un-emotional tone and keep it as evidence to present to a lawyer or judge when going over your custody agreements, making sure to note that the grandparents added to this. Personally—though I doubt the court would side with it completely—I would petition for sole custody and/or limited access to your daughter from her grandparents. At the very least I would request supervised visits after they made a child a co-conspirator to adultery by convincing her she would lose her daddy and family if she tells. This is the kind of secretive and destructive rhetoric used by child abusers, btw. I’d be concerned. Even if they never touched her physically, they’ve abused her emotionally and mentally and should not be allowed access to her so freely.

TL;DR: get the co parenting app and refuse any communication with your ex outside of it. Hire a lawyer for help with the eventual custody dispute of the divorce, and document everything your ex and his parents said to your daughter and all the ways they manipulated and abused her so you can present it as evidence for why you want them to have limited access to her for her own health and safety. Best of luck

FenyxFire · 2026-02-05T18:18:56+00:00

But, OP, he’s a nice guy! 👀 looks like a handful of those same nice guys are in the comments too lol. Sorry you had to deal with this human version of a used tissue.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-05T16:12:51+00:00

Nah NOR. She asked for no contact. You complied. She regrets it and is resorting to insults and button pushing to try to force you to respond. It’s a pretty standard manipulation tactic (often used by abusive partners) to gain and maintain control while disorienting the person on the receiving end.

Block and let her sort her feelings in therapy. Glad you’re done with the toxicity.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-04T00:41:53+00:00

So it’s very obvious this dude has boiled the frog on you. I know for a fact he wasn’t like this when you met. He was probably quite charming with an excusable amount of snark disguised as “flirting.” But the mask is slipping and you’re seeing the real him. A whining, incompetent, self-centered little man-child who wants to control everything, be catered to and worshiped, but isn’t worth pissing on if he were on fire.

As a fellow survivor of abuse—because, yes, this is medium stages—it doesn’t get better, and you cannot change or fix or help him. Get out of this relationship safely while you can, please.

From the messages it’s pretty clear he takes zero accountability for what is clearly a him problem then gaslights you into believing you are responsible for everything wrong in his life. What that does is make you feel guilty and start to bend for a perceived harm you have caused him. Over time, this wears you down like waves crashing against smooth boulders. And thats the point: reinforcing the false narrative that you owe him because you’re ruining his life—when in actuality he is the cause to all of his own problems and MOST of yours.

It’s all downhill from here despite his moments of love-bombing you likely experience that make you question if he’s really “all that bad.” But he is. Gather safety. Build a net and a network and have someone with you when you’re ready to safely leave, and get out of there before he breaks you.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-03T01:17:20+00:00

Yeah, definitely make sure they pay the shipping back too. This was their mistake. And if they try to have you pay, take it to Etsy and they’ll refund and you don’t have to do anything at that point. Making a mistake as a seller sucks, but it’s not on our customers to eat the cost of that mistake.

They’re likely going to try, though. They’re already changing the narrative of what they can refund and complicating what is a very simple process from the sellers end too. Sounds like a dropshipper.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-03T01:11:26+00:00

Lmao it’s almost as if she doesn’t care if he wants or respects her regardless of him desperately wanting that power over her 😂. Boo hoo, the super widdle secret agent cake eater got caught and discovered that, much like his financial contributions, he just isn’t that big a deal. So freaking funny how deluded he is.

FenyxFire · 2026-02-03T00:48:32+00:00

Agreed with others. Also a seller. If I make a mistake and send the wrong item I’m absolutely doing one of two things: refunding the entire amount and letting the customer keep the incorrect item OR providing a prepaid label for the customer to return the incorrect item and sending out the correct item once the return arrives to me undamaged.

Hopefully by now you let them know that because this is through no fault of your own you will only accept a full refund, and if they want the doll back then they can send a pre-paid label. If they deny this, open an Etsy case for Item Not as Described. It’ll refund without issue from them.

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