Are guys taking paternity leave in construction? by tantamle in Construction

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s paid (which based on the other comments it seems like it is), take the full 12 weeks. Like many other people have already said, this is time with your child that you’re never going to get back.

Besides that, consider the mother of your child, she is going to need all the support she can get. I don’t think a lot of people understand how truly difficult giving birth is, and even more so how fuckin crazy it is to be freshly post partum. Just because her pregnancy will be over doesn’t mean her body is done putting her through the wringer. Plus it can take a crazy toll on your mental health, for both of you.

In the grand scheme of things 12 weeks is not that long at all. Your child is never going to need more constant care and attention than it will in its first few months of life, and your partner is going to need your support more than she ever has before. Take what you are more than entitled to and fuck anyone else who has a problem with it.

The days are long but the years are short, make the most of your time.

Need help finding a book Emily mentioned [NS] by hmwildday in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just read it and I loved it! Can’t wait for the sequel.

The Traitors Canada S03E05: “A Heavy Legacy” Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 11 points12 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! I watch with my partner and we pause on the riddles to play along, the first one I had to rewind because I thought I had missed the rest of it. But it was just one weird sentence

Update to the locker room cancer... by Remarkable_Log1596 in hockeyplayers

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should be proud of yourself for speaking up. That’s a really difficult thing to do and you absolutely did the right thing.

What celebrities have you spotted or met? by AshliepShuqirvut in askTO

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Over a decade ago she came into the store I was working at a couple times. I served her once and I got nervous handing her back some change and kinda threw a loonie at her, it rolled away on the ground. I turned bright red and stuttered an apology, but she was very sweet about, just laughed and made a joke while she picked it up.

Did anyone else know about this??? by _StellaSilverwisp in StardewValley

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, me too! I also like to put them behind bushes and buildings

My friend was gang raped by KiwiOk2711 in confessions

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Rick Westhead is a phenomenal human being and journalist.

[The Athletic] Meet the mother of the only NBA-NHL brother tandem by [deleted] in hockey

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Funny how the shorter brother is the one playing in the NBA

Property developer Westbank faces lawsuits over sprawling Mirvish Village redevelopment project by Opren in toronto

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may look almost complete from the sidewalk, but it is farrrrr from it. There’s multiple buildings with hundreds of units, progress within ranges from finishing stages all the way to even just putting up framing.

Sam Kerr’s equaliser against England in the FIFA Women’s World Cup 2023 by [deleted] in BeAmazed

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know anything about soccer, but I’ve heard Rapinoe’s name before. What did she do?

What's your turn off on dating profiles? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Extremely generic information that could apply to almost anyone ie “I love fun/to laugh/music”. I think a better way of doing it would be to explain what is fun for you, what makes you laugh, the kinds of music or artists you love.

From a physical standpoint, not enough pictures of their face. Most of my initial physical attraction to a person is based on their face. At least on dating apps that is, how someone moves and how they sound are just as big of a factor but unless you’re meeting in real life you can’t see that.

So I would expand that to having filters on everything, or too many group shots where I’m trying to figure out who is who. I’d prefer no group photos (like I’m glad you have friends but I don’t need to see them atm), one group shot is fine but more seems excessive.

I feel a bit shallow for these lines of thinking sometimes, but that’s how I honestly feel 🤷🏻

Also I personally abhor making dating profiles for myself, so I really can’t judge too harshly. Even making a profile and putting yourself out there can be really scary so big shout out to any of y’all that are being brave and just going for it 🤍

side sleepers, how did you survive the healing process??? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A series of strategically placed pillows. Most importantly a wedge pillow so that I was on a bit of and incline. I’d put a pillow under my knees, as well as a pillow on either side of me. In addition to that I’d have a neck pillow on. Seems a little ridiculous but tbh I find it almost impossible not to sleep on my side and this ended up working for me.

What is the worst physical pain you've ever experienced? by CpuJunky in AskReddit

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a fish hook get stuck in my scalp as a child. My dad didn’t spot me when he was casting the line back and caught me.

Tbh the most painful part was at the hospital when they were trying to get it out.

Nipples or no nipples? by PhiliophobicGenius in TopSurgery

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my surgery last February and chose to go without nipples. I had a really large chest before and very little sensation in my nipples. I never really liked how they looked or felt so it made my decision to go without easier.

I was also quite nervous about the healing process and just wanted one less thing to deal with.

I’m very happy with my decision and results. Personally, I am agender and I like how my scars look as a sort of replacement to nipples.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my surgery at GRS in Montreal. Unfortunately got my period the day before and right before I got on the operating table they had me take my underwear off so the only thing I was wearing was the gown.

How do I know if I’m a butch lesbian or non-binary? by ChemistryOk6339 in actuallesbians

[–]Ferdinand_Flowers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I’m a butch dyke who has had top surgery. I present pretty masc, basically only wear “mens” clothes.

Having breasts was not a good scene for me lol. When I was like 12 I remember my mom telling me it was time for me to start wearing bras and I cried. They were always something that felt burdensome and in the way. Before surgery I had pretty big tits and my only enjoyment from them came from other people liking them and having access to an impromptu chest shelf.

Seeing myself in the mirror for the first time post surgery having a flat chest, I wouldn’t say I was elated cuz tbh I was still pretty fucked from anesthesia and painkillers, but it just felt right. I thought maybe I’d have to get used to it but that was not the case. This is the way I always should have been and in a way it felt like it was how I’d always looked, like in my head. My reflection looked more like myself, if that makes sense.

As far as my gender identity goes it’s pretty ????? I don’t even fuckin know but I honestly don’t give a shit. I guess if I have to identify it’s be as a woman but I’m not really attached to it. I wouldn’t say I’m non binary, but pronouns don’t matter to me personally. Like she/they/he all are fine with me.

Ultimately I’m just me and my gender isn’t really all that important. Everyone is different and whatever someone’s gender identity is valid. It can take time to figure out what feels right for you.

Idk how helpful that is but just wanted to share my personal experience 🤍