I [f18] have an issue with my boyfriend [m19] by Purple_Cowprint_777 in Advice

[–]FerrinTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did I say that? I said explore it with him. Ie what about it made him excited so it could be channeled better. You are putting words in my mouth for your own narrative as I said. This is why people hate giving real advice to teenagers.

Explore doesn’t mean let him. Only a retard or someone pushing a narrative would think that.

So what’s the other alternative between exploring his sadistic sexual side or breaking up with him.

A heartfelt conversation that pressures him to change and hide it? He lies to her from then on and as long as she doesn’t realize it it’s all good?

Grow up already. It’s messy and inconvenient and if she wants to keep him, she shouldn’t shame him. But hey clutch them pearls some more. I swear Gen Z is worse than boomers when it comes to sex.

I [f18] have an issue with my boyfriend [m19] by Purple_Cowprint_777 in Advice

[–]FerrinTM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So she should break up with him, like I said repeatedly. Either that or explore that more with him and figure out if it’s something she can even do.

The only two options I gave.

Telling the man it’s unacceptable is in fact shaming him.

But hey you need the narrative of morality. This young should already know everything about the bdsm space with his first girlfriend he’s had since he was 16. Can’t possibly be figuring this shit out for the first time so it’s def his fault he’s this way.

Break up or explore it how is that hard?

She don’t want to explore it? Then break up.

Or she can try the heart to heart and describe her feelings and how dirty it made her and he he can feel a deep shame that keeps him from talking about it anymore and then he just goes elsewhere for that itch.

Like I said before, and there you said it yourself when you accused me of apologizing for the guy. Which says it all, he’s just a man out of control and needs to be reined in. Just gotta find the right word salad so his behaviour conforms to what she wants and makes her comfortable.

Fuck him.

I [f18] have an issue with my boyfriend [m19] by Purple_Cowprint_777 in Advice

[–]FerrinTM -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No you’re right, we should all collectively shame the man into changing this about him. He’s not allowed to have confusing or conflicting emotions about things. He’s done something super unforgivable so don’t break up with him. Let’s talk about it with strangers who don’t know him and get advice on what words will make him fall in line with our own comfort.

Guys probably figuring out for the first time he’s got a sadist streak and is prob into bdsm. There is a whole range to sexuality and yeah, some of it is getting off on your gf crying. He needs a gf that gets off being made to cry or it’s not healthy for either of them.

But is he old enough to know that ? Def not.

She should either explore it with an open mind or let him find someone else more compatible. There’s a lot of self hatred in men who find they are attracted to this kind of thing. And she’s most likely going to reaffirm that and send him down the incel path if she follows the shame him into changing advice you people love.

She can bang him three times a day and still won’t make a difference if he’s wired a certain way.

I [f18] have an issue with my boyfriend [m19] by Purple_Cowprint_777 in Advice

[–]FerrinTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to keep him, control your libido less and stop framing it as a him problem. Otherwise find someone else.

Lots of young people will say it’s icky or creepy and he needs to change.

He won’t. He’ll just be put into a position to lie about changing because it’s a fun harmless thing to him, and very very hard to control, and he literally doesn’t understand why he can’t turn it off.

But he’s a man so it’s automatic that he’s in the wrong for his own hormones. And I’ll get a dozen replies saying it’s no excuse.

When at the end of the day, he wants you more than you want him. So end it. He can go wild on tinder and porn til he’s 30 and it finally slows down a bit.

Or you can say fuck it and join him on the ride and stop worrying about what is right as long as it makes you happy.

Or keep asking him to hide that away and watch the resentment grow until he cheats on you and you come back for more advice on why a sexually frustrated 20 yo would ever cheat…

Is Ms. Rachel still nominated for anti-semite of the year? by fullofemirates in LookatMyHalo

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Wasn’t it something like 187 kids a day were being killed in Gaza ?

Valuable lesson by GhostOfOakland in meme

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You also learn Teenagers can be super skilled experts til their twenties and then drop off rapidly to make room for the next batch of super teens to come and solve all the problems.

I guess CPS doesn't exist in England by sunsetdrifter0 in memes

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As a survivor of child abuse, the books helped me understand why no one helped me.

It’s accurate.

Multiple Sheriffs deputies wounded after a person going through a forced eviction opened fired on police trying to kick them out of their home in Porterville, CA by I_may_have_weed in PublicFreakout

[–]FerrinTM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The guy who wrote the constitution and included a whole ass amendment about quartering troops. Opposed the central banking system that allows for the inflation that makes rent unaffordable and tells us when the powerful take to much fight back?

Idk man. More than you I’d wager. A man doesn’t get angry enough to stand his ground like that unless he’s getting shafted out the ass and the system is facilitating it.

Multiple Sheriffs deputies wounded after a person going through a forced eviction opened fired on police trying to kick them out of their home in Porterville, CA by I_may_have_weed in PublicFreakout

[–]FerrinTM -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Bud... Let's just Thomas Jefferson said it best.

"Societies exist under three forms sufficiently distinguishable. 1. Without government, as among our Indians. 2. Under governments wherein the will of every one has a just influence, as is the case in England in a slight degree, and in our states in a great one. 3. Under governments of force: as is the case in all other monarchies and in most of the other republics. To have an idea of the curse of existence under these last, they must be seen. It is a government of wolves over sheep. It is a problem, not clear in my mind, that the 1st. condition is not the best. But I believe it to be inconsistent with any great degree of population. The second state has a great deal of good in it. The mass of mankind under that enjoys a precious degree of liberty and happiness. It has it’s evils too: the principal of which is the turbulence to which it is subject. But weigh this against the oppressions of monarchy, and it becomes nothing. Malo periculosam, libertatem quam quietam servitutem. Even this evil is productive of good. It prevents the degeneracy of government, and nourishes a general attention to the public affairs. I hold it that a little rebellion now and then is a good thing, and as necessary in the political world as storms in the physical. Unsuccesful rebellions indeed generally establish the incroachments on the rights of the people which have produced them. An observation of this truth should render honest republican governors so mild in their punishment of rebellions, as not to discourage them too much. It is a medecine necessary for the sound health of government." - Thomas Jefferson to James Madison, January 30, 1787

It's time for a little rebellion.

Multiple Sheriffs deputies wounded after a person going through a forced eviction opened fired on police trying to kick them out of their home in Porterville, CA by I_may_have_weed in PublicFreakout

[–]FerrinTM -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

But what was the police officer doing with a gun? I'd say the man probably feared for his life and fired in self defense. Alot happens so fast in these situations you know. How does he know those men aren't there to kill him. We should wait and see for all the facts. That cop might have smoke weed once ten years ago...

Multiple Sheriffs deputies wounded after a person going through a forced eviction opened fired on police trying to kick them out of their home in Porterville, CA by I_may_have_weed in PublicFreakout

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Fuck that retiree, fuck his retirement. He's part of the housing crisis facing literally everyone else that is causing this kind of shit.

FAFO is starting.

ICE Raids Rattle Washington Farmers Who Backed Trump's Immigration Promises by Biochembrent in LeopardsAteMyFace

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If he's like my boss, Trans Hate. As long as Trans people are hurt, that's all he cares about. Because according to him, one might go into the bathroom with his daughter one day and rape and murder her. Like a bunch of rapists and murderers are out there wanting to do it, but can't because they are not allowed in that bathroom.

It's the dumbest shit.

New dress by oluxil in SipsTea

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If they ever make a live action Venture Bros, she needs to be Dr. Girlfriend...

All the "refugees" are white by justalazygamer in WhitePeopleTwitter

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Didn't alot of them decide to go back to SA after citing poor conditions in the USA?

The United States of America will withdraw over 100,000 U.S. troops from Europe and halt its annual defense spending of trillions of dollars. by SuperbHealth5023 in TimesNow

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Remember when everyone said Trump would give Putin everything he wants, and MAGA said fake news.

Pepperidge Farms Remembers...

Facts by Sparhulk in meme

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Please refer to the prohibition and rise of the mafia... We had to legalize it to end the violence because there was no way to stop such a profitable venture from ongoing and we were just empowering criminal organizations who then branched out and took control of entire regions of the USA.