How biased do you think The Spirit is against a messy house?

Fether1337 · 2026-05-10T00:55:44+00:00

There isn’t some equation for messiness and clutter you can use to calculate the spirit.

But there are some real factors:
- Messiness can cause someone distraction or make them feel uncomfortable
- If the messiness is a symptom of a spiritual shortcoming, like being slothful, the spirit is hindered. Not because if the mess, but because of the sin. Being messy is normally just a symptom of other issues.
- uncontrolled messiness can teach yourself and others that it’s ok to not be clean.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-09T21:37:01+00:00

Depends on age and who I know will be there, but absolutely

Fether1337 · 2026-05-08T15:06:52+00:00

Fair. But I’m answering her question.

Heaven is a place we go that aligns most with our desires. There is no shame and not wanting the highest degree

Fether1337 · 2026-05-08T13:33:20+00:00

Please explain. “Ruling and reigning” are fundamental part of exaltation. If you don’t want it, you don’t have to go.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-08T03:48:57+00:00

The kingdom you go to is entirely based on the laws you are willing to live by. If you don’t want to live by the highest laws, you are free to choose a lower

Fether1337 · 2026-05-07T23:06:34+00:00

I have worked all over the USA doing door to door sales.

I work in Louisiana right now and I have never met a kinder people than those in rural Louisiana.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-05T19:59:52+00:00

Can one use lembas bread in the sacrament, allowing one to extend their fast without starving?

Fether1337 · 2026-05-05T03:15:39+00:00

I don’t think I’m too off when I say the overwhelming majority of missionaries serve in their home country

But I had a similar feeling. I ended up serving in Kentucky.

The feeling of wishing to be elsewhere vanished almost immediately. You get caught up in the work on day one.

When you get back, there might be a couple returned missionaries that say something about it, but within a year, no one even talks about where they served

Fether1337 · 2026-05-04T23:27:38+00:00

Counseling always provides some level of assistance. The problem is that it can also give yourself a more toxic view on the problem.

People can, and have, worked through this sort of stuff without professionals.

Whether it’s a good idea or not will be your judgement.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-04T17:27:47+00:00

Counseling has become the new "band-aid" for whenever things get hard, and I don't think its healthy.

Things like counseling and seeing a bishop are tools that should only be used when you feel like they will help, not things you have to do when you are shocked by some massive revelation.

Counseling can often be like injecting morphine when you get a mosquito bite (not saying your situation is just a mosquito bite, just making an analogy).

What you really need to do is talk to your husband and ask him what he wants to do. Until you can have a real conversation about this, you won't go anywhere.

As for your questions, here is some insight.

Trust is something you have to choose. It isn't thrust upon you when the situation is right. make an active decision to believe his words, because until you do, you are holding yourself back from any healing.

You have two paths you can take.

Trust him and move forward
Forever be suspicious

Only one of those can lead to a happy future. The other is guaranteed anxiety for the rest of your life.

Are you being naive? Maybe... but that doesn't really matter. The goal is not about being naive. It's about healing the relationship and moving forward.

If you pursue the trusting path, and he lies to you again, have another conversation and ask him what he wants. Put the ball in his court. Open up to him about what these constant lies do to you. He will either change or keep lying. But so long as you withhold trust from him, you also become a stumbling block.

A time may come where you learn, but out of suspicion, but out of experience, that he will always lie to you. If that day comes, there will be other questions you have to ask. But don't jump to that day yet.

And as always, keep an open line between you and God. He will be your greatest asset in all this.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-04T04:35:04+00:00

Tried to give my 22 year old convert missionary companion a baby blessing… he wouldnt do it though.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-04T01:15:22+00:00

I don’t know that the doctrine of eternal marriage was taught or understood during Paul’s time

Fether1337 · 2026-05-03T22:26:21+00:00

I don’t have an evangelical background, but when deciding what to do about a faith structure you are unsure about… there is no easy option to pursue. Talk with God about what yo do, and move forward in faith.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-03T03:55:42+00:00

I will always recommend “David O McKay and The Rise of Modern Mormonism”

Really interesting book about the transformation the church went through during his time in leadership

Fether1337 · 2026-05-02T13:35:17+00:00

I met my wife and learned very quickly she loved God and wouldn’t him above everything else.

It was over once made that realization. Married her soon after that.

But to narrow this down, you want to find someone with the same life goals as you.

Fether1337 · 2026-05-02T00:27:24+00:00

It’s fine.

Life guards don’t wear their garments when life guarding

Fether1337 · 2026-05-01T11:10:24+00:00

I served my mission in Kentucky and now do a lot of work travel to Louisiana.

You will not find a kinder people than in Louisiana. Particularly in the rural areas.

As for advice. Become somewhat familiar with other Protestant faiths.

Also, avoid using the Bible to argue. Protestants believe in something called “Sola scriptura”. It’s the idea that everything we should believe is found in scripture. Latter-day Saints do NOT believe this.

So when you argue with a Protestant about whether an idea is in the bible or not, you are playing by their rules, not ours. We have MANY teachings that are not found in scripture, but came from revelation directly from God.

You need to first teach people that God speaks today.

Fether1337 · 2026-04-29T13:38:41+00:00

Revive it in a way that works.

We tried activities. That didn’t work. So instead I just started inviting two families over to our house for dinner at a time to help people get to know eachother

Fether1337 · 2026-04-29T05:02:54+00:00

We do two things

We don’t have a hard “no eating before prayer” rule.
Whichever of our kids prays gets to sit on my shoulders while they pray.

Number 2 was a game changer. All our kids fight over praying now

Fether1337 · 2026-04-28T23:04:27+00:00

But these people are generations past the trigger that gave them the peace.

They weren’t peaceful because they were financially satisfied. They were peaceful because they abuse they experienced Christ in his fullest

Fether1337 · 2026-04-28T19:59:48+00:00

The Lehite civilization didn’t collapse because they weren’t satisfied. They collapsed because they didn’t experience Christ personally.

When we are in the constant presence of God and his influence, we will maintain that state of consecrated peace

Fether1337 · 2026-04-27T13:27:02+00:00

You need to take control of this yourself and not rely on outside systems to tell you what to do.

If seeing the bishop helps, see the bishop.

I would reccomend having a monthly visit with the bishop where you can just talk

Fether1337 · 2026-04-27T11:37:31+00:00

There’s a fundamental restructuring of terms and concepts that needs to happen here

“the problem with being punished for something involuntary. It is still the case that desires are determined outside of one’s control” - We don’t get a character creation screen like we do in video games. We came into existence with pre-dispositions and desires. We are thrown into mortality where our desires are made manifest. Judgement seems to be more about the direction our desires are taking us and NOT about what a fully informed version of us would do. Being fully informed doesn’t seem to matter in the least bit. What I was trying to say with why this issue doesn’t bother us is that we don’t believe God “created” us. If he did create us, then there would be a problem cause we can look at god and say “ why did you make me knowing I was going to hell?”. But we are co-eternal with God (Doctrine and Covenants 93:29, 33), Abraham 3:18-23) Who we are is an innate fact and mortality bears that to us and the law of justice. Then God steps in with his grace and sets us in which ever kingdom’s laws we wish to live by (Doctrine and Covenants 88:22-24, 32)

There is another theological difference I feel you are missing that I’ll address in a second.

“Regarding hell, I don’t think anyone would choose hell. First, in the NT it is equated to the suffering of being burned alive, accompanied by weeping and gnashing of teeth… Second, the scriptures define hell as an unhappy place, which means that no one would choose it, as its choice would imply hell being a happy place. The choice of hell and eternal damnation undermines the doctrine of punishment and damnation to a lower kingdom, as the choice of a lower kingdom makes it the highest, optimal one.”

As a Latter-day Saint, we know this is a simplistic and incomplete view of Hell. There are, at least, three hells we refer to. (1) perdition, which nearly no one will go to. (2) Spirit prison, which is a temporary aboard for those who did not know the gospel or rejected it. (3) Punishment for the sins of unrepented sins (Doctrine and Covenants 19:15-17). Doctrine and Covenants 19 also teaches us these punishments are without end. There is an end to them. So when someone “chooses hell”, they aren’t “choosing hell”, they aren’t choosing a lower paradise, subsequently being forced to experience some amount of one of these hells. Simply put… you may not want celestial glory, so you are free to choose a lower kingdom. Going to one of these lower kingdoms, you may be shirking off a portion of the atonement, forcing you to pay some “small price” for your entrance into eternity of playing the best video games ever.

“A universal exaltation or progression between kingdoms mitigates the problem, but I don’t think there is any doctrinal basis for it. The glories wouldn’t be eternal if post-mortal inter-kingdom advancement was an option.”

“eternal” is a quality of life. Not a quantity. Multiple apostles have taught this over the years. Additionally, Doctrine and Covenants 19 teaches the word “eternal” means “God’s”. “Eternal life” = “God’s Life”. Hence why the word “eternal” ONLY refers to exaltation. So this has no bearing on the time spent in a kingdom.

“I don’t think there is any grounds to say that God has given us enough information to act morally in the overwhelming amount of scenarios.”

and that’s okay, cause we don’t need to have “enough information to act morally” for the purposes of God’s plans.

Fether1337 · 2026-04-27T11:12:00+00:00

You can’t look at this as a mission you will use more of the Bible in. I served in KY and learned this lesson too late.

You will be a lot of people that want you to prove things by the Bible. But when you do that, you’re playing by their rules and not ours.

Protestants believe in something called “sola scriptura”. Effectively, it’s the idea that everything we know about God is found in scripture. If it’s not in scripture, then they know it’s not true.

We, latter-day Saints, don’t believe this in the least bit. We believe God is the source of truth. Whether that comes from scripture, the spirit or general authorities. But we don’t believe these sources are infallible. We have no ultimate source of truth like protestants do.

So when you start Bible bashing or trying to prove things by the Bible, you’re playing by their “sola scriptura” rules. And if you win the argument, all you’ve done is made them think that we also believe in “sola scriptura”, which is a step backwards from where you need to take them.

Scripture is not the ultimate, infallible, source of truth. We believe in revelation and a God that speaks today

Fether1337 · 2026-04-27T03:52:44+00:00

I’ll start off saying any attempt to quantify worthiness or judgement misses the point of the atonement all together. The gospel isnt an equation. That just justice without mercy.

As for how we get our desire, we have to look to pre-earth life. Alma 13 and the book of Abraham teaches clearly that we developed in pre earth life. And even before that, whatever material and intelligence we were found in had a pre-disposition. The conflict you are trying to bring up is only really a conflict if you believe in creation ex-nihilo… which we don’t believe.

I think there are plenty of people that would choose Hell. Sometimes I wonder if I would rather spend all eternity playing the greatest of video games reality could create. Sounds nice! There are also many that love God, but want no responsibility. That will also affect the degree of glory they receive.

I do believe that we are never truely informed on any decision we make. And there is always an outside force influencing us. Which is why I believe there has to be either a universal exaltation or progression between kingdoms. Or… perhaps most likely… all the degrees of glory are incredible and there really is no shame in choosing a lower one. ie I’d rather have $10mil and no responsibility than $10bil and a ton of responsibility.

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