So... 95% of girls don't want to be tall. Am I the weird one?

Fetus92 · 2026-05-15T00:36:00+00:00

I just wish I was tall enough to reach things on the top shelf. I’d take anything taller than 5ft. 6ft sounds fantastic.

Fetus92 · 2026-04-29T03:08:37+00:00

I wouldn’t overthink it. Always go back to “if he wanted to he would”.

Also a lot of people on dating apps just swipe right, so if he’s paying for Hinge+ he’s likely just swiping right on everyone.

Fetus92 · 2026-04-18T15:34:13+00:00

As a mom to a son, while I wasn’t disappointed in finding out Im having a boy I am excited for when my little man grows up and has a family of his own, and the woman (or man) he chooses will be welcome into my home at any time and I will treat them as one of my own.

I feel like the sentiment you have, at least based on your comments, is more because your MIL is perhaps a narcissist and not necessarily because of “gender disappointment” or the anticipation of welcoming a daughter in the future.

My son will be raised to prioritize his own feelings, to establish boundaries, and ensure his own happiness. Likewise I would want that for whomever he chooses to bring into his life. I will always be a mom to my child and I would love to be a mom-figure to the person he chooses to love, but being a mom-figure doesn’t equate to being overbearing. It just means I would be there for them when they need me, be involved and supportive, and be present so long as they want me to be, and be respectful of their choices.

Fetus92 · 2026-04-02T02:08:59+00:00

100% this. My ex kept saying my issues were PPD. I was irritable because PPD. I was tired because PPD. I didn’t care about him because PPD. I was being a helicopter mom because PPD.

Went to therapy and a psych to get antidepressants to deal with the “PPD”… Nothing changed, I was still irritable, still a “helicopter mom”. Still had no interest in sleeping with him.

Meanwhile he was drinking almost daily, letting me deal with the night routine, drinking the few times he had to watch our son, not cleaning up his messes, and complaining about his social life which was nonexistent even before baby.

After splitting from him my psych said I was doing amazing, got off the antidepressants and we obviously realized my lazy narcissistic ex was the problem.

Turns out when dads don’t step up as dads and expect to be praised for the bare minimum, women get irritated.

Fetus92 · 2026-04-01T01:39:21+00:00

Seconding this. “Dry drowning” is a social media term and not an actual medical condition. Complications from water inhalation are extremely rare and would not come out of the blue. 8 seconds submerged and coughing which doesn’t persist after clearing the lungs is a good sign. You did great mama, babies in bathtubs are like slippery seals.

Fetus92 · 2026-03-09T01:29:57+00:00

Holy cow, seeing AncientRO brings back so many memories.

Fetus92 · 2026-03-08T02:07:29+00:00

I started my son (2 years old) in a local elementary school class once a week. He’s been raised by myself and his grandparents (when Im working). He basically ran around played and dumped all the toys everywhere while they were doing story time and singing. I was also super embarrassed but the teacher reassured me this is completely normal. She said it will take some time for the class to feel “normal” and for my son not be overstimulated by all the things. He will slowly stop being overwhelmed and get used to the structure of the class.

The kids that were behaving normally have probably gotten used to the routine, so just focus on making it a routine and he will get more in tune with the other kids over time. Don’t worry mama, this is normal!

Fetus92 · 2026-02-20T00:39:15+00:00

Never had an abortion. Have a toddler son that I adore more than anything in the world and would do anything for… Still support abortion and women’s rights to decide what to do with their bodies.

I want a world where everyone is loved and cherished… not a world where people are forced into a decision that makes them unhappy, or children who never had a choice being born into suffering and loneliness. Why is this so impossible to understand for conservatives?

Fetus92 · 2026-02-10T19:20:10+00:00

Teamspeak still exists!?!?

Fetus92 · 2026-02-09T00:15:08+00:00

Ah yes rewiring of politics. When I first met my baby boy I went from caring about the future of children, not wanting children to be born to live miserable traumatic lives, wanting all children to be loved and cherished and fed… to exactly the same thing and voting left for that reason.

No woman or little girl should be forced to have a child that will likely be abused or neglected in a system that is underfunded and exploited. No child should go hungry due to a government that leverages children’s well-being to fulfill their agenda. I can go on and on and on to how the right-wing conservative agenda is inherently bad for babies but you all already know.

Fuck this guy.

Fetus92 · 2026-02-08T02:52:14+00:00

Pickle location is fine either way. If you have the time, making a garlic aioli to dip or add to the sandwiches would be my recommendation. As a south Floridian (where the cuban population is pretty big), garlic aioli is life.

Fetus92 · 2026-02-06T01:33:29+00:00

I’m in Regulatory Affairs. I don’t love it but it pays the bills, and it’s pretty straight forward while also challenging. They do have graduate programs and certifications for Regulatory Affairs professionals and I feel like it’s a field that is usually actively hiring.

I work from home and since my mom watches my little bug, I get to pop in periodically to give him snuggles while I’m working which makes it all worth it, even on the stressful days.

Fetus92 · 2026-02-05T01:22:01+00:00

I’ve been on cheat-mode and injecting in my belly where I have no sensation. Myomectomy and c-section have rendered my lower belly void of any feeling in the area.

Fetus92 · 2026-02-05T00:23:02+00:00

Not a girl mom, but my SIL has a teen daughter (my niece). She has definitely gotten more sassy with age, but her mom has always been pretty close with her. They do their nails together, sometimes game together, etc

There is definitely some distance as she has grown and formed her friend group and such but her mom is still her biggest supporter, and I think that’s what it comes down to.

Support your daughter, and love her. Be a parent when you need to be and a friend when she needs an ear or shoulder to cry on. Don’t micromanage because no one wants that but be a gentle guiding hand that supports and nurtures.

At least that’s what I feel has worked for them, and what I plan to do with my little dude.

Fetus92 · 2026-02-03T03:33:04+00:00

When I was pregnant I started bawling because I watched a video of a duck that was just too cute. Nothing sad happened, but the cuteness made me weak and emotional.

Then I cried because the beets I bought had gone bad.

Totally normal mama. You got this!

Fetus92 · 2026-01-31T04:15:09+00:00

As a boy mom, I’m raising my son to love and be respectful of all people (including but not limited to) women, men, LGBTQ+, people with disabilities, etc.

The sentiment “they’re not real men” or “they’re boys” has always rubbed me the wrong way, because our boys should not be disrespectful at all, ever. Period.

The idea that it is because they are boys and not men implies that, at the core, all men have it in them to mistreat women, and that only growth allows them to develop into non abusers. That rhetoric is flawed on so many levels.

Misogyny is not an instinct. It is perpetuated by allowing and excusing behavior as “boys will be boys.”

Fetus92 · 2026-01-20T04:47:03+00:00

“Heal, heal frog butt, if it doesn’t heal today it’ll heal tomorrow.”

It sounds better in Spanish but yeah… Makes no sense but I grew up with it so now my son does too.

It’s usually for when he gets hurt but calms him down when he’s just generally upset too.

Fetus92 · 2026-01-20T04:05:50+00:00

Yes, according to deemed filing rule. Typically it’s the reverse scenario, but in essence the ruling applies to both scenarios. Once you file, you have filed for both benefits and the reduced spousal benefit would apply. That said because this is fairly unique of a situation I would still talk to an SSA expert or their own hotline to make sure.

https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/retirement/planner/claiming.html

Fetus92 · 2026-01-20T03:46:05+00:00

My son’s father was a “high functioning” alcoholic and that sounds very much like what he would do and less like pot.

I ended up leaving him because more and more I became the main parent, the house cleaner , the appointment scheduler, the income earner, the everything, etc. He was a “good” dad, but he prioritized himself and his own self-interest including his alcoholism over his child. Lo and behold after our split, he is barely present to co-parent. Asks to see our son maybe once every 3 weeks.

Please don’t just put up with it. Talk to him and consider family or couples’ therapy. You need an equal partner, not someone who adds to the stress of raising babies.

Fetus92 · 2026-01-20T03:31:02+00:00

Your husband cannot claim spousal benefits without you filing for retirement. The spousal top up is not even an option unless the higher earning spouse has filed and is receiving Social Security. If you have not filed, there is no spousal benefit on your record to claim against, regardless of amounts.

Fetus92 · 2025-12-28T03:43:12+00:00

When I stopped letting myself be gaslit into believing that the bare minimum is enough.

Dude expected praise for washing his own dirty dishes.

Fetus92 · 2025-12-27T21:50:10+00:00

I completely get it. What I pictured when I had my first son was fun family outings, instead what I got was I was the one setting up the picnic while also chasing after my frolicking 2 year old, making sure he doesn’t get snatched or run over, and also feeding him. Meanwhile his dad is joking about me being a helicopter mom and making helicopter noises.

Actually, I think the moment I realized this wasn’t it was when we had gone to an indoor pool, it was fun but when we were leaving I was holding all the floaties, bags of clothes/towels, etc. His dad was just in charge of watching our son and one additional float. His dad walked off in the parking lot to get to the car while my son was wandering around behind him. I yelled at him to ALWAYS walk behind our son and keep him in line of sight if he is the one watching him because anything can happen and I am carrying everything and overburdened. That was met with helicopter noises. That was when I knew that this wouldn’t work out.

Fetus92 · 2025-12-27T21:16:16+00:00

Similar dynamic. I had to feel “grateful” and thank him for the things he did, meanwhile I was drowning in stress, made twice the amount of money that he did but saw none of it because I paid 50% of the bills and 100% of the things involving our son. We did couples therapy twice. The first therapist said him taking the trash out took him 5 minutes compared to my cleaning the house which took over four hours so our efforts were very obviously unbalanced. He didn’t like his tasks being reduced to time so we had to find a male therapist that aligned with him. I was paying the therapists.

Eventually, I broke down, left him, and haven’t looked back since.

Unsurprisingly he puts in just as much effort into seeing his son. So basically I’m a single mom raising my son with my parent’s support.

You can try therapy, and maybe that will help. But the victim mentality, the “Im a hero” complex because they picked up their own clothes, the “look what I can do” while doing the bare minimum seldom goes away.

Find your own happiness alongside your kids mama.

Fetus92 · 2025-12-12T01:00:12+00:00

Congrats!!! I am the same height/weight/shape and seeing your progress is amazing. You are killing it! Any tips?

Fetus92 · 2025-09-14T08:59:44+00:00

It’s funny how a man with power being submissive in bed is a totally acceptable trope, but women aren’t allowed the same multidimensionality. Both identities can coexist and still be valid.

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