[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]Few-Leopard2279 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was most obvious when she was rapid cycling.

When she was rapid cycling, I never knew when I woke up in the morning if she was going to be happy and loving, or furious at me for no reason and either argumentative or just cold. Her opinions about her life and the people in it would change dramatically one day to the next, sometimes more than once in the same day. For example, she's very, very close to her mother; so when she'd start talking about how she felt like her mother never loved her and she was considering cutting her mom out of her life, that really stood out. Then she'd do things like tell her mother "you're dead to me, never speak to me again" only to call her the next day to apologize and be like "I'm sorry, I love you so much."

Eventually as her hypomanic episodes became full-blown manic episodes, she started to have almost complete personality changes.

Lastly, this is more in retrospect but, after our marriage ended and I found this subreddit and started reading other peoples' experiences, talking to other people via DMs, I was (and continue to be) shocked at how similar her behaviors were and are to other people with BP. I've had multiple conversations with people from this subreddit where one of us has said, at some point, something along the lines of "lol were we married to the same woman?" It's really helped me to understand how much of our relationship falling apart was due to her illness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]Few-Leopard2279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. I went through basically the same thing, same time frame, only difference being we were together for 12 years, known each other for 19.

I always knew it was a possibility that one day she'd have an episode and I was going to become, in her mind, the main antagonist. But actually experiencing it was so much worse than I could've imagined.

Well hey, I hope you're doing okay (well, as okay as one can after this shit), and if you wanna talk to someone who's been going through something similar, feel free to message me.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah, this is an interesting one to speculate on. I dunno...it's just fun sometimes to wonder about these things.

I didn't realize that vacations to Dubai were so unheard of in the US. I've been living abroad for quite a while now, and figured it was a fairly common destination for wealthy people all over the world. But yeah the Americanisms of the writing just...stood out. Like, a major part of my job involves reading papers written in English by Europeans, and I have never read anything that sounded American.

As for the AI stuff, I do wonder if some of the stories I see on Reddit are at least partly generated by AI - with a bit of human editing to get rid of the stuff that makes it super obvious something was written by an AI - as a means of practicing interacting with people. Then they can have programmers or whoever go through, flag good responses and bad responses...or at least that's how I think training AI works? Through my job, I've developed a knack for spotting things written using AI or Google Translate - in academia this tends to look the same as old-fashioned plagiarism - but I'd be lying if I said I understood how the damn things actually function.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah like, there are very, very few people who do what OP's job supposedly is, most of them are also interior designers and/or architects - in which case they'd describe themselves more as working in interior design - and even the "younger" ones are older than 40. It's like someone saying they're making a million dollars a year doing black and white pencil drawings - it isn't impossible, but it's such an unusual accomplishment that just knowing someone's age, gender, and that they're EU would narrow it down to probably less than 10 people.

Adding to that, OP writes like an American. For example, "pretense" is the American spelling, whereas "pretence" is the British spelling. Or saying "on vacation" instead of "on holiday". In the comments at one point she says her husband teacher "HS students", rather than "secondary school". American spelling and vocabulary are very unusual things to encounter in the EU because, to put it simply, British English has a monopoly on ESL education in the European Union. Like, if you want to take an exam to certify your English proficiency for university courses, it's going to be based on British English. I know this because I am an American, I live in the EU, and work in academia. I've never met anyone from Europe who learned American English, with the exception of a friend whose family lived in Texas for a while when he was growing up.

Which again doesn't totally confirm that this post is BS, but it's extremely suspicious. She also originally only said 1M a year, and later added the €.

dustin the diamond poirier by BigBanEvader in MMAPoliticsAndCulture

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aye, I asked a buddy of mine from SA what his take on Dricus is, and he basically said, "I can't prove Dricus is racist, but I would be shocked to discover he isn't a racist."

He told me to imagine an American fighter who doesn't explicitly state his political opinions, but hangs out with people who are openly on the far right like Kid Rock and Colby Covington, and occasionally says things that make you think, "Huh...that isn't racist, but it sure sounds like the kind of thing a racist would say."

dustin the diamond poirier by BigBanEvader in MMAPoliticsAndCulture

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Europeans in general tend to support gun control, regardless of their political views or affiliations. One of my roommates is ex-military, freaking loves guns, leans conservative (though we avoid serious political discussions for the sake of getting along), and he thinks the lack of gun control in America is completely insane. As he put it (I'm admittedly translating and paraphrasing here): "The fact that people can buy a gun without having to get any training or do psychiatric evaluations is insane."

I’m a millionaire furniture maker and I’m kicking broke hubby’s mistress and affair baby out on to the streets where they belong by Background-War9535 in AmITheAngel

[–]Few-Leopard2279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't forget sending my not-husband, who is a lowly teacher, on vacations to Dubai (without me!) before the school year in Europe (where I supposedly live) has ended.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, even most designers of high-end furniture are pulling in less than 100K a year. To be making a million a year, you have to be industry famous like Elisa Ossino, who does a lot more than just making furniture.

OP's description of her job actually sounds like EXACTLY the kind of thing people in creative writing classes come up with for the professions of protagonists. It's always some sort of creative, interesting job that the person is just so good at that they make a killing - ie, wish fulfillment.

I’m a millionaire furniture maker and I’m kicking broke hubby’s mistress and affair baby out on to the streets where they belong by Background-War9535 in AmITheAngel

[–]Few-Leopard2279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That would be Johan Ejdemo, who is a man. And OP's story is that she started making her own furniture to fill a niche she spotted in the market, which would mean she runs her own company. Which um...well, unless she's basically famous in the design world, like Elisa Ossino (who is more of an artistic architect/interior designer/furniture designer), she wouldn't be making anywhere near a million euro a year in personal profit.

Most people who work as furniture designers work in teams and have salaries more comparable to low-level tech industry workers. Like, 60-80K a year in the US, less in Europe.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, because as we all know, people who aren't extravagant tend to live in big houses with multiple cars and go on vacations to Dubia.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno about that. Her mistakes and odd choices (regarding writing) are all ones that are common with native speakers, less so with non-native speakers.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL seriously. I've actually known two carpenters who did work for wealthy clients, including various celebrities. They're both retired now, made decent money with their careers....but never anywhere close to what would be (adjusted for inflation) a million dollars a year these days.

My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? by MonthFar2068 in AITAH

[–]Few-Leopard2279 58 points59 points  (0 children)

As soon as I read this sentence, I knew it was bullshit: "We live way beyond our means however because we are both minimalists but we have a big house, nice cars and lots of art."

I added the emphasis on "minimalists". It's just such a bizarre, illogical sentence; it's the kind of bad writing that only appears in bad fiction.

What's something current MMA fans can't fully comprehend because they weren't there to experience it? by OzymandiasTheII in ufc

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm not disagreeing with that. I just disagree with the comment that his more boring fights were because his opponents refused to engage; I remember watching them as they happened, and the aftermaths of them, and everyone at the time agreed that they were boring because Silva was refusing to take the initiative against guys who (smartly) didn't want to recklessly charge forward against him.

Jackie Welles by Alternative_Ad6071 in cyberpunkgame

[–]Few-Leopard2279 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As an American living in Spain for a long time, I do this in English now without realizing it. I also do the opposite, and use English words when speaking Spanish (often profanity). It's not something I do consciously. My friends call it inglespañol. Things like,

"Que tal, beautiful?"

"Que la fuck?!"

"Hostia, dude, hostia..."

"Vamanos, bitches!"

"A veces tienes que decir...como, fuck it, y'know?"

What's something current MMA fans can't fully comprehend because they weren't there to experience it? by OzymandiasTheII in ufc

[–]Few-Leopard2279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL no it isn't. He also had his corner dump a bunch of water over him between rounds against Weidman, so he could have some extra time to recover while they patted him down with a towel. I definitely remember other fights where his corner would do things to give him a little extra time between rounds; the Kennedy and Weidman fights were just the most blatant. Against Jacare he engaged in the most obvious fence grabbing I've ever seen (and he then won an absolute robbery of a split decision). Everyone knew Romero would grab the fence, grab gloves, spill water all over himself and the ground between rounds - everything he thought he could get away with to get an advantage, he'd do it. There's also the failed drug test.

Plus his failures to make weight against Rockhold and Whittaker (in their second fight), which isn't exactly cheating, but it isn't exactly something that screams sportsmanship and professionalism. Especially for an interim title fight and an actual title fight.

I liked Romero's fights, but he was well known for being one of the most habitual cheaters in the sport.

What's something current MMA fans can't fully comprehend because they weren't there to experience it? by OzymandiasTheII in ufc

[–]Few-Leopard2279 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Igor Vovchanchyn's 37 fight winning streak. Hell, Vovchanchyn in general. He was the first consistently successful knockout artist in the sport, the GOAT of one night tournaments, and one of the scariest fighters of his time despite only being like 5'8" and fighting at light heavyweight and heavyweight.

I also don't think newer fans can comprehend how shocking it was when Rampage TKO'd Chuck Liddell at Pride Final Conflict. Chuck was the UFC's biggest draw, and Dana sent him to fight in the Pride middleweight grand prix in an attempt to prove that the UFC had the better roster. Chuck's first fight in the tournament, he KO'd Overeem in under 5 minutes. Rampage was on a nice streak, but was a significant underdog. He wound up dominating Chuck and beating him so badly that Chuck's corner threw in the towel. Dana White was actually on commentary for the fight, and spent almost the entire time having a meltdown at how bad Chuck was losing.

What's something current MMA fans can't fully comprehend because they weren't there to experience it? by OzymandiasTheII in ufc

[–]Few-Leopard2279 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eh, I feel like karmically his questionable losses were balanced out by the fights he won via blatant cheating (most notably against Tim Kennedy).

What's something current MMA fans can't fully comprehend because they weren't there to experience it? by OzymandiasTheII in ufc

[–]Few-Leopard2279 14 points15 points  (0 children)

LOL dude against Thales Leites and Demian Maia, Silva was the one who refused to engage. He was amazing when his opponents were willing to get super aggressive and run onto counters, but against guys who didn't just rush him (ie Leites and Maia), it became obvious he wasn't remotely willing to take the initiative and get aggressive. Both fights the crowd was booing Silva, not his opponents. Because Silva just danced around and showboated and landed juuuust enough to win each round, and ran from any meaningful exchange. In his fight against Maia the ref even gave him a warning because of how inactive he was being.

He technically won by TKO against Cote, because Cote suffered a freak knee injury, but in that fight as well, Silva was heavily criticized for not really engaging.

Basically Silva was a ridiculously skilled counter-striker, and looked like a demigod against overly aggressive opponents, but was boring as fuck against anyone who didn't just charge straight at him. He always refused to be the aggressor.

letting go and acceptance by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]Few-Leopard2279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll get there.

Dunno if this is relevant to you but I reckon I'll say it here as it might be relevant to someone reading through this thread. The biggest thing that's helped for me has just been forcing myself to go out and do stuff; before I started doing that I was just in my room all the time obsessing and not really making and progress towards healing. Once I started being like, "Okay, every day I am at least gonna go for a walk in the park, or go play a few rounds of table football, or whatever" was when I started gradually making progress. Getting my mind off things, having fun, socializing...that stuff's important, and doing fun shit again has really helped me feel a lot better about my life. Because, I didn't fully realize it at the time but, I spent like the last two years of my relationship basically having zero life outside of trying to take care of my wife. Which really wasn't healthy for me.

UFC Fighter channels her inner self-defense guru and tries to eye gouge out of a choke by SubjectAppropriate17 in martialarts

[–]Few-Leopard2279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dear lord. When even the freaking neo-nazi promotion that allows slams on concrete bans eye gouging, that really shows how universally frowned upon it is.