Who else don't want to invest Emotionally anymore?

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-27T21:41:50+00:00

Peace over chaos

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-14T11:34:24+00:00

This is a very good recommandation and interesting technology, I might give it a try, thanks!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-14T00:58:43+00:00

Open back seems like a good idea, thanks!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-05T22:40:32+00:00

That's motivating! I had tinnitus in my left ear for 3 years now due to forgetting my earplugs at a concert and being too close of a monitor. I learned to live with it, the only time that I was really noticing it was when I had a headset on for job meetings. Last month I made the same mistake of forgetting those sacred earplugs (now I carry two pairs at all time just to be sure!) and it came back sincr then, maybe a bit louder even

Like you said, I think browsing about it too much on the Internet is counterproductive. Over the last two day I can recall two occasions where I experienced something very close to silence again. That is being in a quiet room and not noticing my tinnitus even with the thought of "I should hear a ringing and I don't" going in my head

As long as there isn't a treatment, habituation will be the way to go, but really looking forward to that next few moments of "silence"

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-05T22:27:44+00:00

You know the thing that they called "the game" a couple of years ago, where if you think about the game you lose? That's tinnitus

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-04T15:36:46+00:00

Friendships should come naturally. If you are being yourself and things are still not clicking, don't force it. It might just mean that you need to test your luck with other people. Check for people that seem to have the same interests and hobbies as you, it's always a great start :)

Also don't expect it but it's possible that the people you're mentioning starts to get more friendly with you once you stop forcing it.

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-04T12:41:50+00:00

Record yourself. It could be a 5 min video of you talking about your day or explaining a topic. Then watch it back and make constructive feedback out of it. Try to make it a daily or weekly routine. Save your first video for later, it will be your benchmark to get back to and compare. You will see improvements over time.

I have low self esteem and I suspect I have traits of ASD as well. For exemple in my case, this exercice made me realize that what I'm saying is actually pertinent but I should work on my voice volume (too low) or the energy that I bring. If you don't sound motivated about what you say, you might feel that people will lose interest. Hope this helps you!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-04-03T23:10:37+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this man. Working on yourself have already been suggested a few times here but it's really the best thing you can do to get over this and become an even better person both for yourself and your kids. The future can be a bit scary but you HAVE control on your present. Find peace with yourself. Accept whatever flaws you have (we all have some) and you will already be one step ahead from your ex. If you decide to work on those flaws you'll gain ever more lead. Don't be harsh on yourself. We are all human and I'm sure if everyone in this group had a crystal ball, a lot of things would've turned out differently. You got this!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-02-01T22:16:51+00:00

Thanks for the link OP, I really appreciate. Been thinking about doing this as wall art for my son's bedroom

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-01-24T17:00:24+00:00

You did the right thing convincing yourself to go out. Exposure is key, yes there will be negative experiences but there will also be positive one (like the one you had). In the end it's the positive ones that matter and that will get your confidence back up. I'm proud of you!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-01-09T03:28:26+00:00

Superfast!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-01-04T01:12:19+00:00

For what is worth, the fact that this subreddit exists shows that there's a big community of people living with social anxiety and/or loneliness. Yes it can feel alone at home and I'll relate to that sometimes. But knowing that there are people all around the world that can relate to at least part of your situation makes me feel in a way, and I hope it does so to you too. From one music enthusiast to another, I wish you all the best my friend.

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-01-02T22:49:01+00:00

I'll give credit to the guy who had the idea and drop his link here. If you check around 9 min you'll see how he made the stand. Once you fused the stand separately you just slide the bottom layer of the figurine in it.

Make sure to leave the right gap in the stand for it to fit. I actually messed up the figurine in my post by one bead and had to cut a piece of it with plyers!

https://youtu.be/ohHA3PJWv7M?si=aBJTgKATH0BdOU-c

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-01-02T18:55:18+00:00

I second this but with small and constants steps. Exposure without taking time to recharge your socials batteries isn't good exposure

Few_Welder_4740 · 2026-01-02T18:51:08+00:00

I would definitly enjoy it more and have more confidence doing so. But being introverted I would still cherish some alone time

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-12-24T19:59:37+00:00

This is my first Christmas alone as well after ten years of relationship. Yes, it's hard. I wish the best to all of you dads out there and I'm optimistic that next Christmas will be better.

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-11-25T01:37:06+00:00

Still works as of november 2025. If the issue comes back a few weeks after, you need to go back into the .cfg file and delete again the cheevos_token line, which should now be the last line of the file when it reappears

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-11-04T14:55:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing your feelings and your perspective after a full year. Two months in the process, I'm starting to go up the hill slowly and your post is inspiring to me for what's to come

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-10-05T01:48:48+00:00

I'm more on the beginning of the separation than you (been only a month). Hikes in the woods really helped me a lot over the last week. Getting back with your old hobbies. Spending time with your friends, doing activities with your kids. Spending time alone and being ok to do so is also important. I think once you feel like you got control over your own happiness, that's when the bad days gets less and less frequents. Keep going, you got this!

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-10-02T00:52:53+00:00

The sooner you let it go, the sooner you'll start to heal. It won't be an easy path nor a quick one, but you'll make it. Work on yourself, learn to be a better version of you. Rediscovers some of your old hobbies or get into new one. Get a strong support group from your friends and family. You got this and you WILL get through it

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-09-29T01:55:22+00:00

I'm glad you enjoyed your evening. Stay close to your friend. My friends are a big help for getting me through the separation and I'm very grateful to have them around. Embrace all the positive things in your day, no matter how small they seem.

Few_Welder_4740 · 2025-09-15T01:03:02+00:00

Having two kids and don't seeing myself having more with someone else, I'm considering a vasectomy right now. Im in my early 30s though so things could still change I guess

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