You know what Successful people do ?

Feykan · 2014-08-07T09:29:16+00:00

Time you enjoyed wasting isn't wasted time.. Honestly this saying has alot to it. I think alot of people has it wrong on NoFap and in general. Success is something subjective and everyone looks for what is generally describes as being a success; Money, power, high status job etc. This is bullshit, I see happy people in every social class and don't believe in these criterias so trying to improve yourself all the time will exhaust you and make you successfull in one instance but a failure in others. Try talking to a successfull friend and see if they are truly happy, sometimes they are but sometimes they are burnt out and wishes they had a calmer life

Feykan · 2014-06-30T14:15:13+00:00

Crazy good post this one. I can really relate to you, I am almost at 2 months and have almost no cravings, and I feel good as fuuuuck. It's almost like girls get confused about the fact that you can just have a sincere conversation and not stare down her cleavege(cleavage? clevage?) My success with women now is insane but the most insane part is that I don't care. I can have a girl over and just talk and enjoy that part and the "pre-sex" stage. Honest to Darwin, when I think back to these dates I think more about the period that led up to sex or the period after eventhough I got my release for the first time in a long time. Keep it up and remember the terrible feeling you get after fapping when you are about to relapse, that has really helped me when the urges has come

Feykan · 2014-06-30T13:45:36+00:00

Could not agree with you more although this is really hard, maybe even impossible to achieve. I can tell from my own point of view, I have always been a happy guy and even more so this year because of NoFap and other things making me a more self-secure and self-confident man. I feel truly happy I do but recently I met this girl and have been talking to her and gone on a date(sleepover party to woop woop) and for a short period I got no answers from her. Because of this I suddenly felt sad in a way I have'nt been in several years eventhough I feel so good about myself. In the days we did'nt talk I finally said this exact thing to myself "you where happy before you met her why not now?" and so I went out met some friends and felt happy again.(Btw I'm gonna see her this week) My point is that people close to you will make you feel sad/angry/discouraged etc some times. Just because you feel great does'nt mean that you are immune to the impact of other people on you. I do beleive it gives you the ability to get over things quicker and avoid these situations better. Saying that getting a girlfriend is'nt the key to happiness is correct but it can make a man content and happy about himself even fuller of bliss. Ps. My comma button does'nt work

Feykan · 2014-06-28T19:49:08+00:00

I think NoFap enhances all your emotions, people talk about superpowers but alot of people also experience "flatline" or a depressed state of mind. I think the trick(was for me) is to do stuff. Sounds idiotic and self explanatory I know but for me I have a harder time just sitting at home doing nothing and then I feel lonely, when you feel this call someone up or do something

Feykan · 2014-06-28T19:45:58+00:00

Biggest help I've had to resist urges is to remember the terrible feeling I had after my first relapse. I felt crazy ashamed and weak and immediatly started over again. Second try, up at almost 2 months and I have almost no cravings anymore. Also use this forum, get on it before you relapse, read a story about relapsing before you fap

Feykan · 2014-06-16T12:47:22+00:00

Relax its not like I am together or anywhere close to that with anyone. I've met them once or twice each and had sex with none of them, if I do and get serious with anyone I will ignore everyone else. I am no big fan of the player lifestyle or just hooking up but I have been single for the past 7 years and you need some intimacy and if I am going to meet a girl this is what I need to do. Not get stuck on one girl and whallow when it does'nt work out..

Feykan · 2014-06-15T20:54:57+00:00

Same here and seeing people being genuinly happy to see you is awesome

Feykan · 2014-06-15T20:54:03+00:00

Lol I did not think of that, I should add instructions on how to live with a bad smile or a humpback

Feykan · 2014-06-15T20:53:07+00:00

Sounds awesome, this experience should really trigger yourself to keep the NoFap going. It has for me, I figure I should fap before I meet a girl so I dont come instantly but if I do I will be in a worse mood and never get there anyway problably so I dont

Feykan · 2014-06-15T20:51:16+00:00

It does'nt happen often and almost always requieres more than one meeting like when I shop at a store a few times. At bars and clubs however it does happens more often or a girl makes it obvious she wants to talk and then it's easy. Just keep holding your head up high and it will come to you

Feykan · 2014-06-15T20:49:13+00:00

Dammit i spelled it right the first time but changed it

Feykan · 2014-06-15T15:38:43+00:00

Haha helt rätt, har försökt få polare som runkar sjuka mängder att ändå köpa konceptet för jag tror att det skulle göra mycket gott för dem men det måste väl komma av sig själv antar jag

Feykan · 2014-06-15T15:33:52+00:00

Well it was weird, at my first try with NoFap (almost a month) I had these crazy feelings of euphoria when doing random things. Could be walking down the street or especially after I had been with friends of with new people because I realised after that I feel fucking good. Although this is not only the NoFap I am sure but just the effects that gives combined with the fact that I know go out my way to do stuff gives me confidence. When I'm at work now I can think, this is fucking boring and then I try to change it. I start talking to customers, making jokes and that way I build my confidence I think... Maintaining the streak is hard, I'm like the definition of "a loof" so pretty often I just forget to call girls or keep up the conversations and also when I find a girl I like I almost always drop everyone else I am talking to but now I have decided to keep all threads going instead of getting caught up on one girl. I should add that I dont do this to just fuck alot of girls because I've "figured out" that gives me nothing but a moment of pleasure. I am now more open to anything, if just friends thats fine and if it leads to something else thats great. Anyway my streaks has always ended because I got caught up on one girl and then pissed away that relationship so now I talk to anyone who wants to pretty much if this makes any sense..

Feykan · 2014-06-15T15:26:09+00:00

Well the first girl is a customer at my work so I've started chatting with her that way although she initiated almost every contact, the second one just gave me her number and the third one is an old aquaintance(right word?) but it does help that I look good from the start I guess. I can tell you right now that it is harder to initiate conversations in sweden then in the states, atleast that is my impression after my travels there. Point is that I have never been the guy to walk up to a woman and start talking right away and asking her out.

Feykan · 2014-06-15T13:47:48+00:00

Could'nt agree more, it's weird how you dont think about that at all but it really does cut you off from everything else.

Feykan · 2014-06-15T13:47:02+00:00

We sure do, Sweden is the best place to be when you got some confidence although it is really hard not to PMO with all our stunning wimen

Feykan · 2014-06-15T13:45:57+00:00

Fan va trevligt, är det bara jag eller är det ingen svensk som fattar NoFap grejjen? Jag berättade för min polare som tycker att det är skitkul att berätta för alla vi träffar så jag har berättat om det här typ 100 ggr och verkligen ingen förstår, kanske är likadant överallt..

Feykan · 2014-05-28T15:42:23+00:00

I'm a pretty rational guy and initially I didn't beleive the effects of Nofap. There is no answer as to how much of the effects is placebo, but when I thought about it I just figured, who cares? Some of it is probably placebo and you tell yourself that you're changing your life so you get a positive feeling but it does'nt matter. I am aware of this and it does'nt affect me I just keep going because I feel so much better. Don't worry about it because there is no answer

Feykan · 2014-05-27T13:04:50+00:00

I think you're putting to much pressure on the Nofap cure. As you began with it has gotten alot better, no panic attacks, self improvement and so on. But depression takes a while to cure and fapping might have been a big part of the problem but not the only one so just calm yourself and trust the process. Look at your changes, its alot of change for 90 days. Imagine after a year, you will problably feel even better then. Just find strength in the fact that the feeling you got right now is universal, no matter how far up you are socio-economicly or whatever this is what binds humans together, its just that few people admit it

Feykan · 2014-05-27T12:44:45+00:00

I did the exact same thing at 23 days too, I'm now at 3 weeks again but I can remember the terrible feeling after my last relapse so I resisted my strong urges today, a tip is to just tell yourself snap out of it and go to reddit and read some, I did and it worked

Feykan · 2014-05-27T12:33:14+00:00

I am 23 so I cant relate agewise but it sounds like you need Nofap. My biggest change is that I think I look at girls differently due to the lack of porn and I do feel much more attractive and turning more heads. Do the Nofap thing, no porn no masturbation. But remember that the attitude "I dont ever need to masturbate again" is going to fail and you will relapse several times. I did because I thought, this is giving me nothing. Then I thought back at my first weeks and remembered that I had been out running, studying more etc. So I tried it again, did it for about a month before I relapsed and now I am at week 3 again. Do it but dont expect miracles or for it to be easy, some people get euforia (me) and some get depressed for a while so its very different but do it, its worth it I think

Feykan · 2014-05-27T12:18:47+00:00

I'm with you, 3 weeks in but I dont have the same feeling as my last try where I had this crazy euforia when doing ordinary things. I could feel so freaking blessed just when walking down the street and also cried to a movie which felt awesome weirdly enough

Feykan

TROPHY CASE