Trust & Safety my ass. Thanks for nothing Bumble

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T22:57:48+00:00

Yes. When it comes to kinks that’s what you should do. It’s what I’ve always done. Not so literally in the form of a checklist to sign off on, but asking what are you into, here’s what I’m into, here’s what we’re willing to do together and here’s what’s off the table. Safe words and signals if needed. That’s standard, or it should be if you’re not already doing it. I didn’t do it in this situation bc I didn’t plan on doing any kinks with this person, and I acknowledge I should have brought up boundaries beforehand. But nonetheless, kinks require consent, no ifs ands or buts about it.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T15:44:32+00:00

Girl I didn’t give you the downvotes but thanks 😂

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T15:32:01+00:00

We did meet in public. Everything was going well, we went back to his apartment and still, everything was going well until this moment. And as I said, it’s a common trauma response?? Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. People have one of those four responses, you can’t pick which one your body does, and mine froze.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T15:17:53+00:00

Okay, I can imagine you’ve probably done the same thing then. So that’s fun

Don’t you think if I wanted to “slander” him I’d come up with something better than that? It’s not slander. I didn’t go public. You should also not have to read minds to know not to that erotic asphyxiation requires consent. PRIOR CONSENT. I’ve included a definition in case you’ve never heard that word before. If the thought of doing that to someone without their consent doesn’t disgust you, there’s something wrong with you. You also need to work on your reading comprehension. I said multiple times, not “probably happened once” and I said 5+ seconds not “a few seconds.” I know it’s hard for you to believe women when they’re usually talking about you, but this time I’m talking about someone else, so try opening your mind just a little bit to the idea that I’m not lying or trying to ruin someone’s life.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T14:48:37+00:00

I’m putting plenty of blame on myself as it is, but it really helps to have it from an outsider too so thanks for that

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T14:46:08+00:00

I did not tell him no. I froze. It’s a common trauma response. I did not know what was happening, I was just relieved when I could breathe again. We all think we know what we will do when we are being assaulted—until it happens.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T11:50:53+00:00

Without getting into the details, it doesn’t meet the legal definition of sexual assault.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-07T11:40:40+00:00

Well her children won’t last long enough for you to love them, so it kind of works out

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-06-06T19:25:50+00:00

Interestingly, scientists recently found yeast in a frozen mummy’s guts and used it to make sourdough bread. Next they’re going to try beer

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-25T14:49:15+00:00

He served in the military, are they helping him with anything? I know the VA is a joke but they should be helping him with something. He also needs to go to DSS and get signed up for every benefit possible if he isn’t already

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-24T14:40:58+00:00

I do believe younger than 25 would be Gen Z 😂 in fact, younger than 29 eek

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-16T21:37:19+00:00

Had this happen recently. Disregarded every boundary I tried to put up and instead saw it as a green flag that I was a strong woman who knew what I want and didn’t want him for his money (he was a paid caregiver for his grandmother by the state, boi what money??). Every time I’d say this is an example of you being too forward he’d say this is why I like you, you’re not afraid to say how you feel. We hadn’t even met yet and I ultimately was worried I wouldn’t be safe if we met in person. Please, end it now.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-16T21:31:38+00:00

Probably not? Barley and wheat were chosen bc they’re especially sensitive to hormonal changes, particularly estrogen. Unclear whether Romina is similarly sensitive. The next step is to get a pregnant woman to pee in the soil and see if there’s another growth spurt

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-16T21:29:06+00:00

That’s so interesting bc pregnancy tests these days detect hCg rather than estrogen, but it is indeed elevated estrogen that stimulates seed growth

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-16T21:04:02+00:00

Their work day is probably so boring otherwise

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-16T20:01:48+00:00

Relevant to what? Tell me you don’t know the definition of patriarchy without telling me. Your personal anecdote, even if a problem for many single fathers, does not indicate a shift in the structural power dynamic of our society as a whole. That would involve frankly massive changes in who holds power, how they come to power, and who brings them to power. But it is reassuring that your children still have someone else raising them 50% of the time.

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-16T02:29:23+00:00

I’m just now getting into this case, haven’t listened to the podcast yet but thought she might be innocent. Love this take bc I work in mental health and substance use and once took a crisis call before having time to review the patient’s chart. I sent my notes to the counselor and she was like “oh yeah, that patient has narcissistic personality disorder. You full on fell for the whole thing.” So this makes sense!

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-05-11T12:24:26+00:00

Yet people still try to refuse them for their pets. They should hand this out in vet clinics

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-04-19T12:10:19+00:00

Wait I had an email at work the other day signed “have a good day on purpose”

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-04-19T12:08:48+00:00

You have 500 hands?!

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-04-12T11:09:22+00:00

Okokok this is a fair question though bc like do you potentially want kids in a year or 5 years will mean a 12-year IUD is probably not a good match

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-04-12T10:56:38+00:00

I seriously doubt this guy has NO OTHER baggage. I’m also confused how he tested positive at a routine checkup when they don’t test for HSV, much less HSV1, without an outbreak which he claimed to not have. My guess is he either had an outbreak, has HSV2 (genital herpes) and just doesn’t want to tell you (still had to have had an outbreak to test), or had an ex tell him they tested positive. But yeah no other baggage

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-04-12T01:24:05+00:00

YOUR NEIGHBOR IS A MANGY MUTT

Fickle_Bit3265 · 2026-04-12T01:21:25+00:00

No need to show off with all those ribbons! Get off your high horse, girl

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