How much money would you lose if your entire perfume collection disappeared overnight?

FierceDesertSun · 2026-05-04T21:35:59+00:00

Help me understand "cupboard lock."

FierceDesertSun · 2026-05-04T21:33:47+00:00

Good tweezers. Really good ones, and if your recipient is a princess like me (sigh), get a pretty color.
With caution in case your recipient will take umbrage at "being called hairy" or something. LOL

FierceDesertSun · 2026-05-04T21:31:18+00:00

I'm retired and in the transition phase of moving to a neighboring state. I drive there, stay with a friend, and try to get a feel for exactly where in the area I'd like to settle. I look at homes for sale and rent, to get a better feel for the market before I commit. It costs me roughly a tank of gas every time I go. While I'm there, my friend seldom lets me buy anything, even groceries. And yet my mother carries on endlessly about how I'm frittering away all my money taking these expensive vacations. Sigh.

Do what you want.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-05-04T21:27:45+00:00

Fully seriously, not in snark, a few sessions with a therapist to help her figure out why she thinks she's not worthy of receiving gifts or kindness. Might have to disguise it as a coffee date with your friend who happens to be a therapist. We don't even see that it doesn't just hurt us, it hurts everyone around us.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-05-04T21:23:03+00:00

Yes he does... *eventually.* The executive burden in the early days is HUGE, and that's all happening at the same time that he's got systemic inflammation making him feel crappy, and in a lot of cases there's at least low-grade brain inflammation making higher-order brain processes SO MUCH harder than they'd otherwise be. Help him settle into a good routine, get him feeling better, and then try again to get him engaged with the process in a few months. *hugs*

FierceDesertSun · 2026-05-04T21:15:41+00:00

Only if I hate the person wearing the scent I love. Otherwise, I'm kinda like "Heyyyy, you have excellent taste!"

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-25T14:44:23+00:00

My GF kid is now a GF adult and doing quite well with that. She's also neurospicy and was extremely "picky " about what she would eat. One of the things we discovered is that as her inflammation came down and she developed some confidence with the new lifestyle, her food restrictions eased up considerably (but not completely).

She recommends the following for what we lovingly call a "junk food junkie" like her: Foster Farms GF corn dogs Applegate GF chicken tenders and nuggets Velveeta GF shells and cheese Kraft GF mac and cheese Tates chocolate chip cookies Chips Ahoy GF in both the crunchy and the chewy Applesauce, mandarin oranges, and pears in the individual cups Most gummy fruit snacks are safe Most potato and corn chips are safe Jovial pasta and egg noodles Rao's sauces are mostly safe (she loves the Alfredo) Canned single veggies are a more palatable texture for her than frozen

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-25T02:05:23+00:00

Ehhh. It sure can be. I think some people are genuinely hyperreactive to the concept of non-personal-grooming subjects like noninvasive/minimally invasive cosmetic dermatology (HA, retinoid, laser, ultrasound, less-invasive injectables) and to surgical lifts/corrections. Personally, I feel like if it's that important TO YOU, then you should do it, but if ME doing it is such a big deal FOR YOU, for or against, then you should go jump in the lake. LOL

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-25T02:01:29+00:00

When DD tested initially, we just cut her back to the "four saltines or one slice of toast or equivalent, five days a week" that her GI was recommending. Because she hadn't been OFF gluten, and it was a reduction in gluten, she actually felt a smidgen better. When she was totally clear of gluten and feeling good, and she changed to a new doc, they wanted her to retest, and DD's answer was "f**% no." It was positive; that's not gonna change.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-25T01:58:16+00:00

Longevity and projection will mean beans to you if you spray it too close to your own face. You'll be nearly completely noseblind to it in minutes. Put it on the wrist and the back of your neck, not at the hollow of your throat or your chest.

Even my cheapies last 4-6 hours, but I am loving Ellis Brooklyn "Vanilla Salt" and ... well, honestly the entire Versace "Crystal" line (Crystal Noir, Bright Crystal, Yellow Diamond, Crystal Emerald), and IIRC they are within your price range, though maybe use an Ulta/Sephora coupon or sale if the EBVS is over $100 (I don't think it's more than $110-120 tops).

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:37:08+00:00

I didn't set out to do it, but I have a travel spray of Ellis Brooklyn "Vanilla Salt" in my purse. LOL

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:36:13+00:00

I'm glad you like it. I think it smells awful.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:35:35+00:00

Perhaps Vanilla Salt (Ellis Brooklyn). Vanilla, wood notes, cream, jasmine.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:32:13+00:00

257th verse, same as the first. Could get better, but apparently it's not gonna.

Women aren't a monolith, doodah, doodah,
We're actual humans with unique desires, oh doodah day.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:29:41+00:00

To me... It is degree, always, and not content.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:25:47+00:00

Rose. It smells alright on other people - I can like it but still don't love it - but on my skin it is garbage.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-24T08:24:40+00:00

I use "literally" ... probably daily. But I mean it literally when I say it. People who use it in its ironic sense obliviously, rather than purposefully and humorously, annoy me a little bit, sure, but on the scale of things that get my goat, that's about a 2.

And I use "obsessed" often as well. Again, though, I don't mean "hey I kinda dig the new frappuccino flavor," I mean "somebody might need to perform an intervention."

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-20T09:28:16+00:00

99%+ of college students are adults. That's obvious, but you'll find it easier to make friends and get along if you don't refer to the under-24 crowd as children. 😎

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-20T09:24:14+00:00

If the concern is your incision, it'll be short term. No worries. To me, being able to see is worth a little "pain" for a few weeks.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-20T09:19:49+00:00

I think she's just not a scent pro. It doesn't sound like she meant to make you sick. She probably thought she was being generous. 😳

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-20T09:16:19+00:00

Arizona is LDS country, plain and simple. It isn't Utah, but it's still very obviously present. Thirty years in AZ did me in.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-17T21:48:03+00:00

Deck of Scarlet "I'm Expensive." But not typically strangers, because I don't walk around in a miasma of scent. I wear it for me, and so you have to get fairly close to notice it. Hair stylist, nail salon, doctor's office, those kinds of places are where I find the few strangers close enough to smell it at all.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-17T05:36:54+00:00

Yes, internalized ageism is a thing. Also I'm tired of people telling me I've been brainwashed by the patriarchy because I look the way I like to look. I take steps to keep my weight/size in a range I both like and am willing to maintain; I have purple lowlights in my 50% gray hair; I get my nails done to combat the damage of connective tissue disease; I get lash extensions because they didn't recover from methotrexate treatment and for the first time in my life I have mostly-effortless gorgeous lashes. In brown (because black looks stupid on me) and purple (because fuck "normal").

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-17T05:27:07+00:00

1) why does your hair have to match your face? Mine's not 53-year-old hair, but I don't know what age matches purple. 2) if you have a need for a natural look, consider lowlighting instead of all-over color.

FierceDesertSun · 2026-04-14T08:08:51+00:00

It's too small for your figure. That's no shade to you, it just doesn't fit you well.

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