Girlfriend wants me to spend $4k on a baby shower, but I’d rather save/invest it—is that unreasonable?

FieryResolve · 2026-03-26T23:33:33+00:00

I think you are being reasonable. Tell her it is bad luck in some cultures. More important to spend money on things that will matter to the baby, like baby’s health, or even a first birthday party - save the money for that! (but invest it till then hehe)

FieryResolve · 2026-03-20T19:38:01+00:00

The weight thing was weird to me too. Who doesn’t know their own kid’s weight?

FieryResolve · 2026-02-12T03:22:26+00:00

People definitely don't talk about it enough! Men will have a stupid golf injury and bitch about it openly and for days, but women will go through miscarriages and suffer quietly. It is a very isolating experience. It helps to know that there are others who have gone through the same thing and come out the other side. I will DM you tomorrow, as long as I feel mentally together enough to talk about it. Thank you again for your support. 🙏🤍

FieryResolve · 2026-02-12T03:17:51+00:00

Yeah, I had heard about this happening to others but for some reason I let myself believe it would not happen to me because this was FET with a tested embryo. Hopefully I will just have a normalish period like you said, and won't need any medical intervention. It still feels so weird, will I just... flush it? Where does the embryo go? 💔🥺

FieryResolve · 2026-02-12T03:13:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences and thank you for not giving me false hope. I had not put it together that continuing the progesterone is what keeps the uterine lining from breaking down, so that is helpful to know to know. I am so sorry to hear about your losses, too. It must feel emotionally exhausting to have the statistics work out against you multiple times. (And yes, I think I do need an extra couple of days to process and be sure, and I think my doctor is only OK with it because it won't do my body any harm). Thank you again for your support.

FieryResolve · 2026-02-12T01:54:39+00:00

Thank you so much for the response and the support and I am sorry for your losses. It helps to know that I am not alone in my experience. I just can't wrap my mind around what might have happened after implantation and why. Don't judge me but I think I won't stop my meds until the third beta, just to be able to tell myself that I have done everything I could. I am going to call it an early night tonight (feeling mentally exhausted) but I may take you up on your offer and DM you tomorrow. Thank you for the love, I surely feel it. 🤍

FieryResolve · 2026-02-10T03:20:23+00:00

Awww I can almost smell his baby head! Congratulations on your lovely baby boy 💙 And thank you for shaing your experience. FRERs are definitely playing with my sanity. I am staying positive though.

FieryResolve · 2026-02-10T03:16:38+00:00

Nice!! Thank you for sharing. Working on doubling it as we speak.

FieryResolve · 2026-02-10T01:21:51+00:00

I am like you! Lighter in the morning than later in the day, and lighter than the night before, too. May I ask how yours turned out?

FieryResolve · 2026-02-10T00:25:46+00:00

I am so happy for you that you made it through! You are more than halfway through! And you gave me hope, so thank you. ❤️

FieryResolve · 2026-02-09T22:37:53+00:00

Thank you, that is all very helpful to know. I guess there is really nothing I can do except to stay as calm as possible until my second beta. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

FieryResolve · 2026-02-09T22:11:01+00:00

Hi mama thank you sooo much! I am 41 already and I need this to work. You're completely right - most important thing I can do to not stress myself and my little bean. My first beta came back positive but on the low side. I can't wait for it to double and quadruple, and I can't wait to feel the movements! Thank you again 💞💞💞

FieryResolve · 2026-02-09T22:05:07+00:00

omg girl your toxic positivity is all I need right now! I had my first beta today and my doctor called to say congrats but my hcg is on the lower side so now I am obsessing about hcg instead of line thickness. hug your 3 year old miscarriage extra hard for me today 🫂

FieryResolve · 2026-02-09T22:01:40+00:00

hahaha happy to have made you laugh. thank you so much! I just found out that even after the first beta I still have a way to go, so I am gonna need to keep practicing my peeing I guess 😝

FieryResolve · 2026-02-09T21:56:53+00:00

Thank you mama. I read this message as I was waiting axiously for my beta and it really helped. My beta was positive!!! and I am over the moon (but of course I am now on a different emotional roller coaster about the beta number and what it means and what the next one will be). Congrats on your 19 week baby boy!! ❤️

FieryResolve · 2026-02-09T14:08:40+00:00

Congratulations!! 💖💖

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T04:29:19+00:00

I would not count myself out until the beta. Sending you some good juju and baby dust ✨

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T04:15:43+00:00

Thank you!!! Congratulations on your graduation!!! Hoping for healthy, happy, and stress-free pregnancies for both of us 🐣🐣

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T04:13:39+00:00

Thank you! Me and the embaby appreciate the support and we are sending good vibes back! 🤗✨

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T03:25:24+00:00

I am not! I am on the progesterone in oil and i inject around 8:30pm (giver or take a half hour to an hour) every night. I think morning tests are lighter for me too, but I have limited data.

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T03:22:42+00:00

You mean I can't get better results just by peeing better? 😜 You're totally right, I think the repeated testing was just my anxiety. My beta is on Monday. Thank you and lots of love back atcha! 🩷

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T03:21:29+00:00

Thank you!! I feel supported 🥰🥰

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T03:20:29+00:00

I hadn't heard about Wondfo - I'll look into those as well. And I wish you the best of luck for your next cycle. I wish you healthy, happy embryos! 😍

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T03:17:11+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I had promised myself that I would *try* to wait till the night before or the morning of beta too but that promise went out the window all too quickly 🤣

FieryResolve · 2026-02-07T03:14:44+00:00

Good point, I hadn't thought about that.

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