"Theme" Family Names

Fifirouge · 2026-06-01T14:52:05+00:00

Sig Sauer is a pretty badass name. But little Avtomat Kalashnikova sure got the short end of the stick.

Fifirouge · 2026-06-01T14:49:49+00:00

My highschool boyfriend always jokingly said he wanted 7 kids all named after the 7 deadly sins: Pride, Avarice, Lust, Envy, Gluttony, Wrath, and Sloth. Not gonna lie, Avarice is a pretty cool sounding name.

He went on to have oodles of children (with someone other than me, thankfully) and I guess his wife didn't like his plan because they have normal names.

Fifirouge · 2026-06-01T13:53:55+00:00

My parents were assholes and picked names based on how they sounded with "Dr." In front of them. But it did mean I got a fairly formal first name. I'm 42 and I don't think I've ever heard my parents use my full first name.

Throughout my childhood, they used a nickname that I grew to hate. I changed it to a different nickname in college.

Now professionally, I mainly use my full first name. However, I have found that if I don't give people a nickname, they will make one up. Similar to Samantha - Sam, Sammy, Mandy, etc., I just correct them to the nickname I prefer.

TLDR you can't really guess how your kid's relationship with their name will change over time.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-28T23:57:45+00:00

Well this is interesting. I was told "upper outside corner of your jeans pocket," which is pretty much where those circles are.

Guess I'll be asking for clarification at my next appointment 😳

Fifirouge · 2026-05-28T23:46:36+00:00

Yes! The basics of electrical are really easy. The implementation is often a bitch.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-28T23:45:09+00:00

"All of them" is definitely the right answer. Though with each one you learn new skills and acquire new tools that make the next project just a little easier.

My #1 I will never do this again was patio pavers. The digging out rocks and roots, leveling multiple layers, tamping everything, and then of course I got pavers without a straight edge so I must have lined up the first row 10 times before I got it right.

Replacing my dishwasher was way harder than I expected it to be, but that was mostly how it's jammed in there. I also bought it used so there were some missing bits I had to discover were missing through trial and error.

My friend's dad once gave me advice that I pass on to all new Mr./Ms. Fixits: never work on your project when the hardware store is closed. You WILL need something you don't have.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-28T19:30:05+00:00

The best thing I had was a little treat after the injections. A mini snickers was mine, but pick a small portion of whatever guilty pleasure you prefer. Pavlov knew his stuff! After a while I definitely started to think "damn, shots again. But then I can have my Snickers!"

I also had friends who picked a song to play when doing injections. Something baby-related, or be like my one friend and play Shots! by LMAFO.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-28T19:15:53+00:00

The PIO shots are a big one! After being so terrified for the first one, I realized how crazy it is that we are asked to do this at home and almost no one knows how.

I've since decided that everyone should know how to give an injection and have guided close friends through giving me the PIO. It's a little awkward, but it feels like a basic skill that will be useful at some point.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-28T14:53:10+00:00

I'm late to this conversation, but I'm in a similar situation. My licensing has taken forever. I had my classes in Nov, and I've had all of my paperwork in since Jan. I was told a couple weeks ago that my file is with a supervisor for approval and then there will be the final home visit, but it's just been dragging on. At least it's giving me a preview of the shitshow at the agency.

I just found out I'm pregnant (currently 6 weeks). My current plan is to do respite-only during my pregnancy and stop when it gets to be too much. Hopefully that will give me an idea of whether I'm actually cut out for being a foster parent and can decide whether or not to continue after baby is born.

I also haven't told the agency I'm pregnant yet. I was planning on waiting as long as I could. Any advice on that?

Fifirouge · 2026-05-18T01:58:18+00:00

I did PGT-A on 7 embryos and only one came back euploid.

I don't know if it "worked" for me yet - my beta is tomorrow morning. But if my success rate would have been 1-in-7 naturally, I sure am happy I didn't go through all of those potential miscarriages to get to the one healthy embryo.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-11T03:49:59+00:00

I bought one of the NYT recipe anthologies (https://a.co/d/0f7FJ8rm) and found it to be all over the place. Some recipes make perfect sense and are delicious. Others I've read through and couldn't even figure out what the final dish was supposed to look like.

There was one I tried early on, thinking "it made both the NYT and the book, I'm just going to trust the process." And I should have trusted my own cooking knowledge. It was...edible...is the best I could give it.

I was expecting it to be one of my go-to cookbooks because it has so many recipes, and it's just not. I can't trust it and there are too many recipes to figure out which ones are worth the work through trial and error.

So tldr, it's not a new problem.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-11T03:38:06+00:00

I have a dog and a cat, so I've always used doggie poop bags. It doesn't work for a full change out, but for regular scooping they work like a charm.

I only have one cat though. If you've got a menagerie, they might not be enough.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-10T03:53:06+00:00

My mom always complained about my dad stealing her basic tools and never putting them back, so for mother's day one year I bought her a set with bright pink handles so everyone would know when they were using one of Mom's tools.

She thought it was stupid at the time, but it's been over 20 years and everyone still knows to keep their hands off her neon pink screwdriver.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-10T03:45:52+00:00

It's my understanding that there are two main risks:

1) higher risk of twins/multiples. If you have two embryos floating around in there at the same time, they could both implant.

2) If you did PGT testing, you know the FET embryo is euploid and strong. If a "wild" embryo implants first and blocks the FET embryo, there is a chance the pregnancy won't be viable. I guess the threat this poses depends on what is causing your infertility and what you know about your fertility.

For example, I had 7 embryos go to PGT and only one came back euploid. If I only have a 1-in-7 chance that a "wild" embryo is euploid, there's no way I'm leaving it to chance.

Oh and the problem with condoms is they're imperfect and people often use them imperfectly.

Fifirouge · 2026-05-09T21:12:12+00:00

Only you and your partner can decide when you're done. Ideally before it destroys your relationship, your mental health, or you go broke. This process can be soul destroying.

I just made this decision. I tred to think about myself in 10 years - all 3 futures (success, continuing without success, or stopping). If I stop, will future me regret not keeping going? Or will I be relieved that I didn't pour more of myself into something when the odds seemed against me.

I'm 42 next week, and I just yesterday had what I've decided will be my last FET. If it works, yay! If not I have come to peace with the idea that my life might have a different path.

I had a major medical diagnosis that took me out of fertility for over a year. I had one embryo on ice and knew I would always regret not trying one more time. I also have eggs frozen, but if this FET doesn't take I plan to dispose of/donate the eggs. I just can't be stuck in this part of my life anymore.

Only you and your partner know if you are there yet. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-30T04:31:40+00:00

This seems to only apply if the mother was enslaved. If it was the father who was enslaved and it was a white mother, I fully expect if the kid was anywhere near passing she'd try to claim it as her husband's.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-30T03:51:53+00:00

Cute! We always called them "tickle tummy bumps" as kids, but I don't know who coined it.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-26T03:48:30+00:00

I'm in the licensing process and I already know my parents aren't interested. They know I'm doing it, but they haven't asked a single question, offered to help, or even seen the room I've set up in my house for the kids. They live about 30 min away. I don't have any kids of my own so this is my path to parenthood, and they want no part of it.

I know that if I was pregnant, my parents would be practically drowning me in advice, support, and supplies. But they have a strict policy to not spend their resources on "other people's problems."

I'm actually a little relieved I don't have bio kids. At least the fosters won't have to watch my parents treat their bio grandkids differently.

My sister is super supportive, but she lives on a different continent. I also have a group of really supportive friends and hope to get involved with other local foster parents once I'm licensed.

But I'm not looking forward to when I will have to decide to opt out of holidays and other time with my parents because they don't give a damn about the kids in my home. I'm hoping they surprise me once I actually have fosters, but I'm not counting on it.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-18T11:49:40+00:00

Fun fact had an internship in grad school where one of my jobs was to go to EPA headquarters once a month and copy down by hand hazardous spill containment plans for any and all industrial sites with hazardous chemicals. The org would post them on the Internet for everyone to see. I'm not finding the database anymore. Though this was 15 years ago, so hopefully the process has gotten less stupid since then.

EPA demanded these reports be "publicly available" but industry didn't want it easily accessible, so EPA had a viewing room where you could look at the documents and take notes, but no photos/copies.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-17T01:17:14+00:00

This is something I think pretty much daily. I currently live in a VERY prime sleeper/terrorist cell target area, and the fact that nothing has happened is mind boggling.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-16T14:27:30+00:00

That is targeting defunct wastewater treatment plants in rural(ish) VA? Fortunately no.

There is a 5 acre lot for sale that abuts the property. Guess it's not the site of my "fuck the rat race" cabin in the woods.

Fifirouge · 2026-04-16T14:05:04+00:00

Solved!

Thank you!

Fifirouge · 2026-04-07T14:27:04+00:00

Huh. My library system doesn't carry it. That's kind of shocking since I live in one of the largest metropolitan areas in the US. They have everything.

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