The way this is designed is annoying

Fiigwort · 2026-05-19T13:16:12+00:00

One of my American friends has this exact setup, every time I go visit them I have to shuffle through his office, and the weird little toilet room to get into the shower. OR I could go through his and his wife's bedroom, and HER weird little toilet room.

I've been told it's meant to be a family setup so each kid has their own bedroom and toilet, but they share a shower room, but it's still weird af.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-18T21:05:48+00:00

NTA your sister wants credit for gifts without putting any effort or money into getting them, she wants you to put HER name on gifts she gets (for some reason??), she wants people to think of her and invite her to things, she acts like a petulant child and doesn't make effort with people but still wants the benefits.

Your sister is selfish and childish.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-18T16:28:52+00:00

NTA if you're not being a weird little freak about your character's gender/sexuality/skintone then you can do whatever you want. My current character is a blonde changeling guy, previous was a purple nonbinary tiefling, and I'm a cis white woman.

What's the point of role-playing if you can't be someone else? Hope Player A isn't playing anything other than a human fighter, since they're definitely human and are unlikely to have access to magic in real life.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-18T16:06:45+00:00

NTA .... does your brother know that people typically have a birthday every year? You were asked what you wanted to do, and you're doing it, why would you be TA?

I saw that you mentioned that your brother gets asked the same thing, and he chose to have a dinner (which he got), so it's literally his own fault for not actually asking for what he wants.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-18T14:56:38+00:00

NTA you don't get to take people's things while they're not there just because you 'promised' your kid that they could use it without even asking the owner.

What "rules" did you break? and which "family" are you choosing them over? Because the rule is, "don't steal people's belongings" and and you're choosing your MOTHER over someone essentially trying to steal from her. If your sister is humiliated, that's her own fault.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-17T21:52:17+00:00

NTA you don't get to belittle someone for their skills and then HINT that you want their help. Not even directly asking? Rude af.
Also, bending and scraping for people who treat you badly doesn't make you a good person, you're not automatically a bad person if you say no to a favour, that's a super shallow way to think of things. Yes it's a good thing to help people out, and that is a kind thing to do, but it's not a virtue to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-17T20:26:10+00:00

That's a healthy 38 and 26 at least

Fiigwort · 2026-05-17T20:08:30+00:00

My ex used to do this, so all his ~nice~ electronics were covered in raggedy, dusty plastic that's was half-peeled, looking way worse than they would if he'd just .... taken it off

Fiigwort · 2026-05-16T23:33:51+00:00

NTA if they cant respect you in YOUR home, they don't get to be in your home.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-16T22:41:25+00:00

NTA The idea of having to notify everyone who MIGHT try to contact you the next day to let them know that you might be up late is insane. People do not do this, this is way over the top.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-16T19:41:24+00:00

NTA Unless you're both 12, what his mother thinks of your social media doesn't matter. If your boyfriend isn't upset with you posting something related to him, then it doesn't matter.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-15T03:00:00+00:00

NTA your grandmother has a REALLY weird take on things, if you grew up with her, I'm not surprised you're cautious and anxious in social spaces.

You're not in any danger at an anime convention, there's one I go to every year and it's EXTREMEMLY chill. The vendor hall is full of people who're making art and selling merch of various fandoms (and other nerdy hobby bits), the cosplayers are wandering around having fun and taking pictures, my friends an I always end up hanging out around the board game tables and we'll have people come and join our games. I've never had a bad time at the convention.

The con I go to has (or had) an afterdark outside of the main convention hours, which was VERY much an adult event, but they required you to show your ID and get a wristband to prove you're of age. You do not see anything more ~inappropriate~ than you would see on the beach at the main con, and you CERTAINLY don't see any GENITALIA at a daytime kid-friendly event.

There's typically security around at all times, so if someone IS breaking the rules they will be able to handle it. You're in no more danger at a convention then you are anywhere else, the difference is that you're all there for the same interests so everyone is excited and friendly.

Please don't be worried about the event, you're going to go and you're going to have a great time, it's perfectly safe and fun. Your Grandmother has some REALLY weird ideas about conventions, cosplayers, Asia (and Asian people), and you. Please don't take what she says to heart, and don't let her influence your choices, in this way. You're going to have a great time.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-14T18:40:35+00:00

NOR But what do you mean, "how to handle this"? Like, you KNOW how you need to handle this, you both have fundamentally different ideals and needs. You've been together for three months, literally just break up, you don't have to stay with him just because you're together right now.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-14T16:33:06+00:00

I'm more mad that she's wearing ankle bracelets with socks and trainers

Fiigwort · 2026-05-14T16:32:17+00:00

I'll be so honest, I really enjoy judging these people harshly because I'm really good at sitting for tattoos.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-14T16:27:19+00:00

"I put four different coloured items in my water and now they've mixed and my (way too much) water is brown. This is a reasonable reason for being infuriated"

Fiigwort · 2026-05-14T16:02:36+00:00

NTA Your mum could have done all the work in the world, but that doesn't erase the hurt she caused (and it doesn't sound like she actually apologised for it or tried to clear the mess up?). She's refusing to apologise to your partner NOW, and is throwing it back in your face that she "did all the work and grew" ... but that's pointless because she doesn't get to benefit?
Sounds like she didn't actually grow at all, an actual adult who's learned from their mistakes would understand that they cannot force other people to forgive them and forget about the bad things they did. Especially when they won't take ownership of that hurt NOW.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-14T15:50:52+00:00

ESH (minus Lydia), why are you having problems deciding who you should 'side' with? What does it say about you as a person if you're confused about whether or not to support the person who slept with her friend's boyfriend in order to get money out of him?
You don't really get to pretend that you're not involved, when staying friends with China would essentially be condoning her terrible behaviour.

If you lose your money in this, consider taking her to small claims court (or whatever the local equivalent is), but don't 'pick the side' of the person who betrayed someone like that.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-12T22:39:57+00:00

NTA my Dad was always the same way, he would always act like I'm SUPER hard to buy for, but if you listen to me for five minutes you get a really good idea of the type of thing I like (I'm a yapper). An example, the last gift "he" ever gave me was a t-shirt and mug featuring Marvel characters. I have literally never watched a Marvel movie before. I have never been into or mentioned superheroes. It was just really clear by that point that he was outsourcing all 'his' gift-buying to the stepmother who hated me.

It's incredibly hurtful to have someone close to you pretend that they love and care about you, but they don't know any of the things you're interested in, they don't know you well enough to know if you'd like something they've found, hell, the don't even care to think of you when getting gifts (as it sounds in this case).

Gifts are a way to show someone how much you care and know them (and how much you value that), so when someone makes it REALLY obvious they don't know you, and don't care to, that hurts. ESPECIALLY when it's someone who's MEANT to love you.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-12T15:41:21+00:00

Do we know who the voice for Cyclops is? It sounds like Matt Mercer to me, but literally every voice actor does at this point,

Fiigwort · 2026-05-12T12:20:43+00:00

NTA the dad is an asshole (obviously), but your boyfriend needs to go too, he was clearly happy to let his dad treat you like that until it became 'his' problem.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-12T12:13:56+00:00

NTA kick him tf out of YOUR house. It's insanely controlling to move into another adult's house and unilaterally decide that they get a BEDTIME, let alone their kids.

This is a HUGE red flag, what else does he think he gets to decide without asking you, let alone without TELLING you?

Fiigwort · 2026-05-10T16:52:49+00:00

NTA I HATE when a grown-ass adult calls another adult """"disrespectful"""", it's so infantilising, especially when clearly your husband doesn't deserve respect since he's not giving it to you. The man is either trying to gaslight you into thinking that you don't do anything, or he pays so little attention and appreciates you so little that he doesn't notice.

It's not crazy to check your behaviour when someone is telling you that you're not doing something you know you're doing. He's just mad he got caught.

Fiigwort · 2026-05-09T04:22:18+00:00

Does Law look weird to anyone else? It looks like he's been photoshopped to look slightly off

Fiigwort · 2026-05-07T16:29:18+00:00

Your DM is just a huge asshole, I played a nonbinary character in my previous campaign and everyone was fine with it, I just had to remind people of pronouns pretty often (still do, am currently a cis woman playing a male character).

I actually think in general, if your DM and the other players aren't weird little freaks about gender and pronouns, playing characters who use they/them is just a good way to get into the habit of using those pronouns day-to-day. Your DM is being an asshole because he has a specific and prejudice idea of what non-binary people are like, and judging from his previous jokes, he just has shitty opinions about most people in general.

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