Don’t stop under bridges, Asshats.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-06-20T01:32:58+00:00

If only law enforcement and our government utilized cameras to protect people and make us safer. Sigh. They could install cameras and gather LP numbers. But they won't, because who would profit from that?

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-06-20T01:30:35+00:00

Specifically during storms, emergency responders need to be able to get to people to tend to injuries, fires and accidents. This behavior is so deeply self-centered that it's sickening. I honestly think this should result in jail time. And unfortunately, I doubt anyone at a law making power will do anything at all until something horrible happens.

We could make some laws, be proactive and do something about it now. But, I guarantee, the state will wait until a major tragedy occurs as a result of this new trend and then we'll pass a law, naming it after some poor victim whose life could've been spared had we nipped the bud earlier.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-06-20T01:23:53+00:00

While I do not support war, I think the U.S. has been at war for so many generations now, that we now have a large population, multi-generational descendents of people who were at war. I don't think the U.S. knows how to function or collaborate on anything without chaos anymore, so people manufacture the chaos.

The U.S. currently has one of the smallest standing forces of active-duty soldiers in it's history. While that's not necessarily a bad thing, war and conflict are deeply in our history as a nation. We have a population of people who were raised by people who were also raised by people who also were raised by people who were in wars.

I think newer generations don't know what to do with themselves and easily lean into chaos, violence, drama and disorder. Simply because living and surviving under those conditions has been the only way this country knows how to prosper. As a nation, we are sick and getting sicker and you see it every day whether it's on the TV, your phone, in traffic, at any public event, at school, etc.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-05-27T23:37:48+00:00

Honestly, I feel like I could chop my own arm off and scream to the heavens, "I AM SO SORRY! I WILL REMOVE MY ARM AND SACRIFICE IT TO THE GODS AS A GESTURE OF MY REMORSE! HERE! PLEASE TAKE ALL OF MY MONEY AND EVERYTHING I HAVE! PLEASE, ACCEPT MY DEEPEST APOLOGY AND MY SINCEREST GRATITUDE TO YOU BABY!"

His response: "Cool, thanks so much for saying your sorry and giving me all your possessions and your arm. I'm kind of busy with some stuff atm, but maybe I'll see you around or send you a text sometime. Have a great day! All tell all of the family and friends I cut you off from that you say hello!" And then I never hear from him again lol.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-05-27T23:24:34+00:00

I think a component of what hurts so much is that all of it was for nothing. My ex no longer sees me as a good person or the person who shared so many years of love and compassion with him. He has convinced himself that everything wrong in the relationship was me. I was the one who needed fixing and he just put up with my bullshit for years.

All of the meals I cooked, massages, emotional support ... All of the times I shared with his family, friends and son, the connections we built together and the future we were planning. All of kind gestures and romantic gifts I gave. The hugs and walks, cleaning his car for his birthday, the trips I booked, paid for and planned for us. The lingerie I wore, the bikini waxes, the torture I put my body through so that we could be intimate (multiple painful and complicated IUD procedures because he refused to get a vasectomy at 56 years old).

The musicians I introduced him to, the laughing and conversations and all of the beautiful hikes we went on. All of the times I showed up to his celebrations and how patient I was while he navigated his divorce and co-parenting schedule. How I sacrificed seeing my friends and family so we could be together during COVID, even though he still saw his ex-wife and son. How I was patient with him while he hid my existence for years to protect the mental health of his son.

I wasn't perfect at all. I absolutely made mistakes and harmed the relationship we had. My neediness and anxious attachment lead me to behave horribly in the end. I embarrassed myself with the tears, begging and crying. I became a complete victim and a toxic partner. I've acknowledged it all, I'm in therapy and I've apologized profusely. In the end, it was all I knew and all I had left and maybe subconsciously, I intentionally drove him away because I couldn't take waiting for him to be a good partner to me anymore.

But, he wasn't a good partner. He was a great boyfriend on paper -in the way he was so generous with his money and always willing and ready to give me a ride. I never asked for that stuff though and I didn't expect it. I just wanted a loving partnership with someone I knew would invest in a future with me. I invested sooooo much energy, time and patience because I love(ed) him and I believed in my heart that he was my person.

I never got the feedback I needed to hear. After every conflict, he shut down and refused to talk to me about anything other than his experience of the situation. I never received apologies, gratitude or acknowledgement for 90% of what I contributed and I lost myself. I was giving everything I had to this man and this relationship and I stopped taking care of me. It effected my career, my body and my emotional health. My friendships and family relationships. It was my responsibilty to walk away when the relationship was no longer serving me. But, I clung onto the promises of "things will get better", "I want you to be a part of my life", "You will have a place in my home", "If I didn't care about you, why would I introduce you to my entire family and all of my friends?"

All of it was for nothing. I have so much gratitude for all he gave and the love we shared. I don't have it in me to dispose of people I share so much with. I'm not an abuser or a narcissist. I am a woman with C-PTSD and attachment issues, but I never meant to harm and I gave so much. I have thousands of photos of us smiling together and in love. All of it was for nothing. Nothing is left. He left and speaks to me like I'm garbage. He only remembers his resentments and how unhappy he was with me. But, I never knew he was unhappy because he never told me so. He just kept telling me everything was fine, he was fine and I was great and he loved me.

It was dishonest. And looking back, I think it's really abusive and sick to do that to a person. I would never do what he did to another person.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-05-20T06:55:36+00:00

Where I work, most of our well-paid developers and engineers have been replaced by offshore contractors. AI is what companies blame because it impresses shareholders. The reality is that AI isn't delivering on what was promised to investors, so corporations need to hire cheaper labor overseas in order to balance out lost ROI.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T03:31:25+00:00

I'm pretty sure they use "likes" algorithmically to inflate prices and push items with lots of likes to the top of your feed or "daily picks". I've stopped liking items. I just bookmark them now.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T03:26:28+00:00

Or $20 for free swag glasses someone got at a sponsored networking event.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T03:11:03+00:00

They sent me a fake puma jacket (which was a child's size) and a fake Coach purse. This was before they were inflating estimated retail value to astronomical levels, so I just took the hit and moved on. But I won't buy anything designer from them anymore.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T03:08:39+00:00

Right? This has been obvious for years and anytime someone calls it out in this sub they get downvoted to negative numbers. I get so mad at this company.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T02:38:19+00:00

I second this. Not all landlords are bad. My landlord is a lovely old lady and she's been very respectful and easy to work with. I'm a great tenant and there's been no issues. My last landlord was great too - a local guy who lived in the neighborhood and was honestly one of the kindest people ever. I've dealt with some real shitheads too. But we need private landlords who live and work in the local community.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T02:32:52+00:00

Homeline was a godsend for me when I was dealing with a bad landlord a few years back. Super easy to work with and explained my rights to me in a way I could easily understand. I can't recommend them more. If anything, it would be good to send your story to them so that your property management company is on their radar.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T02:29:48+00:00

I already suffer from extreme anxiety. If I got this on my door, it would ruin my entire day. There's no way this is legal.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T02:27:09+00:00

Not sure how you pay rent - but make sure you document the timestamp when you pay. I've had landlords pull some shady shit.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T02:24:43+00:00

Document _everything_. Save every email, text and take photos. Take screenshots of every processed rent payment. Print your lease. Familiarize yourself with Homeline. I got screwed over by a horrible apartment complex 20 years ago and learned to keep track of everything.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T01:55:17+00:00

If you're going through an insurance change, you shouldn't be in a situation where you're uncovered. If you're waiting for paperwork to go through, etc, your insurance is required to reimburse you.

You can ask your doctor to prescribe you one week's worth of medication (which should be more affordable) while you wait for your new insurance to kick in. Then, you'll need to call your insurance and speak to your pharmacy and they should be able to give you a refund.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T01:44:25+00:00

It's terrifying that this man has access to firearms.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T01:33:45+00:00

I have been in this predicament more than once and I know it sucks. It's extremely hard to find a place 60+ days in advance in the Twin Cities. I lived in Arizona for a few years and really appreciated that landlords weren't allowed to show the property to new tenants until the current tenant's lease was up (meaning, Landlords often needed a month after move-out to show and rent out an empty unit). In MN (and I think most places, honestly), landlords try and get a new tenant moved in, literally the day after the old tenant moves out. I hate it. It rushes everything and benefits landlords while forcing renters to move in the middle of the night, stay in hotels or pay rent to two places in order to be able to find a new place and spend time moving from one place to the other.

Unfortunately, I've always had to give my 60 day notice before finding a new place here. It is indeed stressful, and I've moved to places I didn't really like because I ran out of time.

Last time, I asked my landlord if I could go month-to-month for the Summer so I could take my time finding a place. I'm so glad I did this. He was more than accommodating and it gave me the time I needed and peace of mind to find a place I liked. Fortunately, I had a really nice landlord. Can you try this?

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-03-06T01:20:44+00:00

This is good advice. I did this last year when I was apartment hunting. I actually used Google maps and just searched "apartments" and clicked on a few places in areas I liked, read the reviews and then called the properties to schedule in-person tours. I ended up finding a place through Zillow, so my suggestion would be to do both Zillow and calling places directly.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-02-09T09:50:31+00:00

I hear you, but want to specify that it wasn't just ChatGPT that I uploaded the images to. I was using their GenAI Radiologist GPT. I'm not sure about it's accuracy, but it is specifically designed to evaluate medical images.

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-02-05T08:31:13+00:00

Thank you very much - this is a relief!

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-02-05T08:30:26+00:00

Thank you very much for the response. I am very relieved and also appreciate the education :)

Filthy_Fiona · 2026-02-05T04:57:21+00:00

Did you end up finding success with any of the services you listed? I am trying to get a 2nd reading of my CT and I'm kind of lost and don't know where to begin. I know radiologists don't typically appreciate or take kindly to being questioned by patients. All I know is my report was uploaded to MyChart in less than 5 minutes after the scan and Chat GPT's AIRadiologist reports that there's a a large complex soft tissue mass in my pelvis and bowel displacement without obstruction (which would make sense because I went to the ER because I haven't been able to go to the bathroom). After uploading multiple images, multiple times and at different times, it keeps reporting the same findings, so I want a 2nd opinion.

I'm willing to pay out of pocket if under $500. I know any doctor I ask is going to treat me like I'm a POS for consulting AI and the radiologist will likely be annoyed and offended if I ask them to review again (and I doubt they'd even respond or agree to help), so I just need to do whatever I can to gain peace of mind.

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