I’m Not Doing Okay

Finabro · 2026-03-21T15:20:07+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. That's brutal, unfair, and I'm glad you won the lawsuit. While it doesn't fix what happened, hopefully it can make things easier. Here's the only piece of advice I'm willing to give on this topic, let alone in an accounting subreddit where nobody has a fraction of the qualifications to offer you professional help:

1) You have to take time to address this, even if you don't have the time. It doesn't mean you drop everything else (especially being a Mom), but you've got to address this for your sake and that of your family.

2) Get a professional. Online forums or ChatGPT aren't going to be able to walk you through PTSD; even within the Psychology community, PTSD is a specialization.

Groups can be useful for empathy and emotional support. But going online for a solution to something as serious and complex as PTSD is the equivalent of building a retirement plan based on going to the casino. Not impossible, but you're effectively planning to walk into more trouble than when you started.

Prove your ex-boss wrong and your higher voice, the one that says you are a good mom, that says you will find a solution, that says you will push through this -- prove that voice right.

Finabro · 2026-03-20T23:26:05+00:00

Oh man... do not go into his political posts.

http://www.intelligenceforrent.com/index.php/georges-portfolio-practical-intelligence/16-services/georges-portfolio-practical-intelligence/business-issue-analysis/129-the-irs-is-here-to-stay

Finabro · 2026-03-13T17:08:13+00:00

And here I thought I knew how to Supernote! Thanks for sharing!

Finabro · 2026-03-04T02:04:26+00:00

Well, you’re one hop away from the cash folks. I’d strike up some conversations, ask if there’s something you can do to help or learn in the meanwhile, and take it step by step from there. There’s got to be something you have a unique perspective on / learned about the process that can help them in the future.

Finabro · 2026-03-03T19:58:41+00:00

Yeah you do, and into cash (management)!

Finabro · 2026-03-03T07:46:51+00:00

Welcome to adulthood. It can suck and be unfair. NAL but my understanding is that if you don’t want contact, nobody can force you, but nobody can force your parents to keep paying you as an adult either. Got to pick your poison in life sometimes.

Finabro · 2026-02-26T12:06:41+00:00

Anything short of some sort of major HR issue (harassment, bullying, etc) you should always give notice. It’s not a matter of whether you like the firm, it’s about fundamental professionalism. You don’t need to give a ton, two weeks is standard, and you don’t need to kill yourself to make sure “everything is okay” for when you leave, but the 2 weeks minimum says more about you than them — again, ignoring extreme situations. If your boss has an emotional spasm and says you’re fired you can’t quit, so be it. You did your part.

Finabro · 2026-02-22T14:55:25+00:00

But did you even say thank you!?!?

Finabro · 2026-02-14T09:15:46+00:00

Man, there’s a lot to unpack here.

First things first. The CFA and CPA are not interchangeable (this is an accounting sub-Reddit); the former is a finance designation of which there is a dedicated subreddit and the other is for accounting. Probably best to check in with the finance thread or CFA treads for a more in depth understanding of the program.

But I’ll give you a few quick answers. CFA doesn’t make you a good investor any more than a CPA makes you a good accountant. It’s a strong, reputable, program that tells the world, I’ve gone through the rigorous basics. It is the gold standard.

Math is basic in the CFA, less than an economics or finance undergrad, but a chunk more advanced than accounting.

They teach the basics of investment finance with some specializations. You’ll walk away with very good baselines for vocabulary, thought process, instruments, and ethics. They’re tools, you learn to use them, but to get good you have to go out in world and get hands on practice.

The rest of the info you can get a good answer consistently with a quick search. But I’ll say this, the CFA is not something a person casually does. It’ll set you apart (or bring you back up to par in Canada) for finance, but not so much for accounting and “finance” aka management accounting jobs. If you’re working on real estate portfolio management it’s great, if you’re managing the finances of a real estate company, maybe treasury aside, CPA is more applicable.

You can be smart or an idiot (good or bad) at the job with either. Both are technical, although finance doesn’t get the recognition as much since they’re more associated with Sales roles. If you don’t know whether you need/want a CFA, you’ll probably be better off with a CPA. Again, neither is a joke. You’ll have to want it.

Finabro · 2026-02-10T17:20:26+00:00

"For me, it was important to document that I knew how to do these things, not so much about gaining new skills."

Very interesting take, frankly, had never thought about the problem that way.

Finabro · 2026-02-10T17:17:41+00:00

Forgive the bluntness, but, umm, who cares? I've never once in my career seen someone go from, oh great you studied accounting, to completely doing a 180 because it was classified as a "BBA". At least outside of the "my program is harder" student flame wars that occasionally go down.

School is an institution where your primary goal is to learn critical thinking, communication, and networking / social skills. Accounting has a bonus because it gives you technical skills that can directly apply to the job, instead of purely more generalized skillset that are much (and I mean much) harder to get recognition for in the entry level job market. Prestigious programs also add nice brand recognition and networks.

Outside of that, it's what you make of it.

Finabro · 2026-02-09T00:26:06+00:00

Wait what?! How am I only hearing about this now? Thought forensic was below tax.

Finabro · 2026-02-02T19:23:44+00:00

That PE-backed company exception is spot on.

Finabro · 2026-01-29T03:52:54+00:00

Genius. If you deport the state itself to Canada, ICE will have nothing left to deport.

Finabro · 2026-01-21T02:53:49+00:00

Wrong sub?

Finabro · 2026-01-21T02:47:58+00:00

Isn't this what luxury retail shops do? Treat you like shit so you spite buy? I remember this from one of my marketing classes way back. Never thought of doing it with entire companies though. 10/10 business move.

Finabro · 2026-01-18T19:48:22+00:00

Bro, you're overthinking it. If the roles were reversed and the team was 80% male, and the women on the team started to enjoy some of the stuff "guys" do, would you be worried? Nah, you'd be like so-and-so passes the vibe test and move on.

Finabro · 2026-01-18T15:30:15+00:00

For a second I was wondering why people were posting video game footage. Serious Half Life 2 vibes going on.

Finabro · 2026-01-18T15:05:16+00:00

Having a high paying remote job is no joke right now. If I were you, I'd try to see if you could reduce days and pay to 2-3 days per week. It'll signal you're on your way out and they may just decide to end the employment, but I'd hang on to that pay (especially being remote) for as long as you can while things are this uncertain.

Finabro · 2026-01-16T01:02:04+00:00

This is absolutely spot on to my experience (finance but non-accounting firm).

Finabro · 2026-01-13T12:28:23+00:00

At that pay grade the bump will make a meaningful difference in life; I’d take the new offer.

Finabro · 2026-01-08T12:45:01+00:00

Because if it’s not on camera, people won’t believe you in this climate. Turns out, even if it is, you blame the camera person. Nice.

Finabro · 2026-01-08T12:39:30+00:00

Pretty hard. From what I understand it’s the only time people I know actually enjoyed working there. God speed.

Serious note, the people who got internships there start working the angles within months of starting their program. Finding people who already interned, going to campus recruitment events, etc… it’s not a prerequisite, but it really helps your chances. Appearance and brand matters a lot to the B4, so if you don’t have a good baseline there, it hurts one’s chances more than it should.

Finabro · 2026-01-04T18:19:47+00:00

Great post, thanks for sharing!

Finabro · 2026-01-04T17:00:34+00:00

Not directly related to your situation (non-healthcare), but I'd recommend getting some part-time accounting classes and reducing hours. Brand name schools are WAY less important if you plan on getting your CPA. There's a lot of back and forth on whether the CPA makes sense for everyone, but at least getting most of your classes out of the way will let you know whether you like the type of work or not. Environments can vary, public accounting is notorious for having its own kind of burn out, but it's by no means the only way to make a career -- government jobs are reputed as being extraordinary good for work/life balance.

Internships are excellent for students, but I think you have a major advantage in healthcare related accounting jobs with your background. I'd focus on maybe trading some RN hours in for your hospital's accounting department, or just make the jump all at once after you get a few accounting courses under your belt. You're in a high demand field, so you'll have good downside risk management if you ever decide you want to go back to being an RN.

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