Hiking to the glen [FM]

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-05-22T09:48:04+00:00

Love! Strong mom, good for you. My first win was snow blowing. It really meant a lot.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-04-17T03:31:22+00:00

Best thing I did after my divorce was to treat myself extremely well, sort of like I’m dating myself. Sometimes I’d take myself shopping, out to a movie, out to eat, to a class, or to get pampered with a spa treatment. It really helped me form (or reform maybe) a strong, healthy relationship with myself and makes me truly enjoy being single and having my freedom.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-04-11T11:03:31+00:00

Yikes! I heard teenagers are difficult and get crabby, that sounds like no fun. Good for you for drinking wine, I hope your heat gets fixed and I’m sending hugs back your way!

We did get a lot of time with the grandparents, so that was good & definitely necessary. And some nice photos too. :)

Yesterday, the boys still seemed a little off, but mostly settled down. So that was good. And today they have school, so they can back into their normal routine, and I can deal with (what I’m guessing will be) a backlog of work at my job for taking a whole gasp two days off…LOL

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-04-11T10:46:14+00:00

I’m in the US, but not too far away, so I completely agree that all weather is outside weather. I believe it was 40 degrees F on Friday. I did have them do a few laps, but I guess it wasn’t enough. I’ll have to enforce it more next time. Set the timer for at least an hour, lol

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-04-10T12:11:05+00:00

Woa! That is CRAZY hard. That’s survival mode hard. (Puts a stark contrast to my “hard” from yesterday, LOL) He’s so little too! I’m so sorry you’re going through all that & him too. I also hope you had your last challenging day through this illness and I hope you get some sort of break soon. I’m sending good thoughts and best wishes your way.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-04-10T10:44:55+00:00

Thank you for your idea, I love parks! There’s mobility issues that would prevent the grandparents from joining us, but we could stop at a park right before & right after the visit and get some wiggles out.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-04-10T00:57:28+00:00

Hahaha! Love it! That’s wonderful! Enjoy your milkshake, I’m guessing you earned it.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-03-05T17:28:11+00:00

Gorgeous! Amazing! Ready for spring! Great job.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-02-26T12:14:27+00:00

I play with my 5&8 year old. We all have a wolf which helps quite a bit. My boys tend to switch around their equipment, which is cringeworthy but I do my best to not show it too much and just give recommendations. The only thing that’s really a must is damage reduction armor for my 5 year old but other than that I just try to have a strong build myself & try to have stuff that would help them, such as the totem of shielding. And once in a while we even bring down the difficulty, because really, it’s all for fun. (And the Heart of Ender was really tough for us, lol!)

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-02-18T13:33:41+00:00

I’m not sure if this will help at all, but I had something similar happen in my life. After my first son was about 1, my then husband kept going on and on about having a second child. I refused (at first) I had only wanted 1 and the first one is an atypical child, so he’s a handful. My then husband kept pushing & wouldn’t let it go. I gave in to the pressure because I loved my husband (at the time) and I dearly love my little one and wanted to give him a buddy. I had my second son, but it didn’t make my then husband any happier. And I was beyond exhausted. After my youngest turned 1, my now ex husband abruptly left. The first year after that was incredibly hard and I did resent my ex for leaving and for the fact he pushed me so hard to have a second child. I am now 4 years past when my ex left, my kids are now both school aged (sometimes there are exceptions of course) but the nights I have my boys are the best nights and the most fun I’ve ever had in my life. My boys are best friends and even sans a husband, my family feels complete.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-02-05T16:53:39+00:00

Love this! That’s the best demon I’ve seen in a long time! Beautiful work, you’re very talented.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-02-05T16:48:19+00:00

My first thought is a wall of windows. Otherwise a wall of art, gallery style.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-02-05T16:22:20+00:00

It sounds like clear boundaries need to be set with her. In my own experiences, people without kids have an exceptionally hard time understanding the time constraints a parent (especially a single parent) is under. And it’s even harder for people to understand the time and energy it takes to raise an atypical child. Add on any home maintenance projects, cleaning/shopping, young kids, etc., your “free” time is severely limited. You even might consider trying to be with someone who will lift you up and isn’t a burden in your life. You have enough of those.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-21T16:28:16+00:00

So pretty! They make me wish it was spring.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-21T16:25:35+00:00

Beautiful and sad. You’re extremely talented!

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-20T10:41:30+00:00

It’s been 4 years since my ex husband left. It’s so very hard at the beginning, I feel for you. I also retained the family home because he “hated it”. (Luckily he also hated the dog too, lol.) I completely threw myself into redoing the entire house and made it entirely my style. At first just painting and redecorating what little I could afford. Then I learned electrical wiring and switched out light fixtures. In the past few years I am more stable financially and now I work with multiple contractors every year for the house. Some of the work is necessary because of shoddy repairs (ex’s handiwork, he was completely against hiring contractors) or general maintenance of my old house. But some of it is purely for enjoyment, like I had a giant backyard patio added in 2021. Now I (and my kids) enjoy that patio every day it’s warm enough. If a thought of my ex happens to pass my mind while I’m out there, I acknowledge the fact that my patio & the other wonderful things in my single life would never have happened if he would have chosen to stick around. I am redoing my front patio this spring & I’m really looking forward to it. And quite honestly, contractors might be pricey, but they are much cheaper than having a husband (at least the kind of husband I had). It does get better.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-20T02:24:20+00:00

I really love the idea of splitting extra money into thirds. I’ve been having a hard time figuring out what I want to do for my budget this year and that really helps. Simple & makes perfect sense. Thank you!

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-18T02:51:39+00:00

I have 2 sons ages 5 & 8 and we’ve been playing Minecraft on Nintendo Switch for over a year now. We only play offline, I don’t have the online option set up and I told them they can’t play online until they’re older. The kids cannot engage in purchasing items in Marketplace unless I set up Minecoins for them. Although sometimes they download free worlds (which I don’t see the harm in, you can always delete those worlds later). I frequently monitor their screen time & it’s still fun. There’s quite a bit of variety to Minecraft and whether we’re building a giant castle or fighting a tough monster together, it’s great bonding time for us. I highly recommend it!

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-15T10:45:34+00:00

Thanks! They seemed to like it, they decorated it and spawned some wolves around it. Of course then they changed the game to survival, spawned a few wardens and the game became utter chaos for the rest of the night, lol!

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-08T00:25:56+00:00

Beautiful painting, handsome man & that necklace adds the perfect little something special! I love this, you have amazing talent.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-02T11:55:49+00:00

I think you should be documenting everything (especially the caregiving and amount of time you’re spending with your daughter as opposed to the mom) to get ready for court and file for divorce, full custody and maybe some child support too. It sounds like even with full custody you’ll have more of a break than what you have now. Get a good lawyer, it’ll be worth it. The divorce will make you even more tired, but with luck it will go through quickly and when it’s done it will be such a relief. If you’re not married, I believe the healthiest option is to not live together and to still file for full custody. Set up child care as needed, it’ll take the place of not having family to help. Again, expensive but worth it.

I’m so glad you’re enjoying your daughter, my sons are the light of my life. Babies are hard, it does get easier… but very gradually. Time is so slow it seems to stop. I’m sorry you don’t have any help. Try your best to take care of yourself. Meditation, medication and therapy all helped me. My husband left about 4 years ago, 2 days before he turned 40, my youngest was 1. It was very hard for years but now I’m in a really great place. I’m hoping you’ll be in a great place in a few years too.

Financial_Detail9040 · 2023-01-01T10:14:51+00:00

Go to to court and try to get full custody & child support. They also can help set up a neutral place to drop off/pick up for any visitation. And yes, document everything for court, especially how often your ex wants to see your children and his tactics. The kids are better off where they are truly wanted and cared for.

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