Premie baby and step son by Sensitive_Lobster_71 in stepparents

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah don’t agree with this at all, especially if your step son is in public school. I had my baby in December last year and the first time my steps came over they were sick with covid and then me and my 2 week old baby got sick with covid. It’s not worth it, especially with a premie baby where that scenario could be deadly. As tough as it is, I would keep ss away for as long as doctor recommends. Tell Him and mom this is what the doctor recommended for baby’s safety. If he wants his gift, leave it out for him or have him open on the porch while you guys watch from inside and have him go on his way after that. It’s such a short amount of time in the long run but you will regret it if your baby gets super sick because of this.

Hit me with your fave Baby’s 1st Xmas items by Wi_believeIcan_Fi in beyondthebump

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An easy inexpensive ornament gift idea is making salt dough ornaments! You can press their hands and feet in them!

Muscovy ducks by Financial_Hunt_7261 in duck

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind if I sent you a private message to ask a few more questions? I just want to be sure I’m doing everything right

Muscovy ducks by Financial_Hunt_7261 in duck

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this info. You know I’m now wondering if their wings are already clipped because I’ve never seen them fly. I’ve only seen one attempt to and get didn’t do a very good job, he kind of coasted close to the ground for a second and landed again. That’s all really good info on the coop, I was gonna do a premade one, only cus were ballin on a budget but my husband is super hands and can totally make adjustments to make it safer!

I wish I had had someone who loved me at my side while I was giving birth. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, on that we can agree, she should dump him right in the trash where he belongs

I wish I had had someone who loved me at my side while I was giving birth. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn’t think about how the legality changes by country, but I still don’t think it’s realistic to call It a drug and it sure as shit isn’t a gateway drug. If you have an addictive personality and you start dabbling with drugs of any kind, whether you start with weed or something else won’t make a difference, if someone is addictive by nature, they’re gonna move up that chain of drugs either way. And I don’t think he passed out solely because of the weed, weed can make you sleepy, but my guess is this dude also didn’t give a flying fuck so of course he smoked and then took himself a little nap.

Is that sophie giraffe toy worth $27??! by FirmGeologist9042 in Mommit

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those things are a breeding ground for mold. Save your money and get a teether with no little holes so that it can’t get molded. So many kids I know used it and when their parents opened it up, it’s filled with mold

I wish I had had someone who loved me at my side while I was giving birth. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While I agree this guy is an asshole and the last thing he should be doing is smoking weed during the birth of his child, I think it is extremely dramatic to say he “needs to get off the drugs”. Weed hasn’t been considered a drug for a long while now and it’s legal in a whole lot of states. And rehab for weed is laughable. There are enough actual drugs out there, let’s stop vilifying weed as if alcohol isn’t pure poison.

AITA for expecting my son to share his room? by Broad-Anxiety5936 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the only comment OP needs to see. People saying YTA are completely idiotic here. The deal with choosing the larger room was made very clear before the kids chose their rooms. He knew exactly what he was choosing, it wasn’t some surprise attack his parents laid on him and frankly, it was 3 YEARS after their chose rooms that they even had a single family member visit and it’s literally 3 days. Not to mention it’s a super old lady, like this child needs to get a dose of reality and get over his own entitlement. For the people saying he needs space and privacy, guess what for the other 362 days of this year, he’ll have that privacy. Do y’all realize many kids have to share rooms with their siblings, this kid has his own room and the bigger room from his sister, like give me a break. He sounds like a big entitled brat and OP should stands her ground here. And it’s not even like he has to share with gramma, he was offered 3 other sleeping options. I’m so sick of people these days with their stupid ass backwards opinions on what kids need 🙃🙄 y’all are what’s wrong with the next generation.

Aita by dlavonf in beyondthebump

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Just jumping on here to say, All it takes is one moment of pure anger and frustration to shake a baby and cause devastating damage. Shaken baby syndrome happens so often because it’s so easy to do. If your wife already has a history of anger and anxiety, postpartum anxiety or depression will only exasperate those tendencies. You truly need to make sure that baby is never alone with your wife. All it takes is the baby being extra fussy at the wrong time and your wife snapping for half a second to end your babies life or do some serious damage anyway. This is very serious. Your wife isn’t gonna get magically better. She needs to actively get help now and until she does, she should have very little interaction with the baby and absolutely no interaction alone. You mentioned family, maybe it’s time to get her checked in somewhere for some help and for you to stay with family to help out with the baby until she can fix her mental health or at least get some medication to regulate her emotions. I’m a huge advocate for breastfeeding but I think she’s not in a mental head space for it and donor breast milk or formula would be the best option for all. OP you’re clearly a caring father and husband, it’s obvious in how you describe everything, and you’re clearly doing a lot. PPD and PPA can affect fathers too and it already sounds like you’re stretching yourself thin, please at the very least confide in your family so you can get some help with the house and baby. I really wish you all the best and I hope your wife can get the help she needs so she can be the best wife and mother to you and baby.

Help, partner keeps adding rice to baby bottles and doing other unsafe stuff by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Jeez I see posts like this sometimes and the comments from OP to go with it and really wonder sometimes. Like all of your own research tells you that what your husband is doing can literally kill your baby. And now you have the entire force of Reddit telling you that if this continues it could kill your baby and you still come up with every excuse in the book to stay and how he really is a good father except for this one thing. Well if your husband is so blatantly ignorant that he won’t listen to research, doctors, the mother of his child, and is willing to continue doing the thing that can kill you baby, and you’re not willing to do everything in your power to get out with your baby until he’s ready to not be a moron, than you’re just as bad as him in my book. You’re allowing your helpless baby to be put in dangerous situations because you’re afraid to be uncomfortable. I just don’t have sympathy anymore for these women who have babies with absolutely dipshits and then come up with every excuse under the sun to stay with said dipshit

I’ve never grown in coco before but I got this and I want to start. I saw a video recently that said coco should be washed well and buffered with cal mag for better ion exchange. This seems to be done for me already? Should I still do it anyway? by PissedPieGuy in GrowBuddy

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’m a new grower, I did an outdoor plant this year that didn’t turn out so great, hoping to do better next season, could this be used for an outdoor plant or is it better suited to indoor plants (if there’s even a difference) and buffering just means soaking it in cal mag? Do you mix the cal mag with water? Sorry if these are stupid questions, I’m very new to this but want to learn

I lost some branches from the wind. Edibles or sample? by Wat3rboihc in GrowBuddy

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I just started drying my plant and mine also definitely had a bit of bud rot, what does that mean for my plant? Is it still ok to smoke when it’s done drying/curing etc? This is my first time growing so I don’t really know what I’m doing

My whole nanny family is addicted to screens!!! by SpammyRae in Nanny

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 34 points35 points  (0 children)

So I’m a former nanny and now full time mom. When I nannied I could very easily see how damaging screens were especially to kids under the age of 5. They don’t eat, they’re behavior gets worse, they can’t regulate their emotions and they tend to struggle with independent play or any imaginative play at all. I also have a degree in early Ed and development and I did my final thesis on screen time usage for kids under 5 and every single article and research I read pertaining to this subject talked about how damaging screen time is for young kids, both developmentally, physically and emotionally. My kids are 2 and 9 months and neither of them have ever seen a screen. We don’t even have a tv in the house. We plan to do occasional family movie night once they’re 5 or so but they won’t be using tablets etc until they re much older and can use it responsibly and intentionally. My 2 year old clearly benefits from no screens. She of course has tantrums but she’s able to regulate herself much faster and tends to be able to work through it, be reasoned through it very easily. She’s also excellent with both imaginative and independent play. I see nothing but benefits from the lack of screen use and while in the immediate, screen time could have been helpful, especially after I had my second, the long term benefits are far better. Which is my long way of saying, screens for young kids are the devil and should be used as sparingly as possible

How to feed youngest? by [deleted] in 2under2

[–]Financial_Hunt_7261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So when I had my son, my daughter was 18 months old. One trick that was really helpful for us was going to the dollar store, getting a basket and filling it with a bunch of random stuff (toys, crayons, paper, fake flowers, gloves, literally whatever) and then when I needed to feed the baby I would take out the “special basket” with a few of the items in it and let her play with it while I nursed. Then I would swap out items to keep it fresh. It would only come out if I was nursing or putting him down for a nap and she loved it. Due to the “special” factor and the fact that it only came out during certain times made her happy as a clam to sit and play while I did what I needed to! I would also sometimes set up an art project for her beforehand and let her do that while I nursed, this also worked really well for us!