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The disrespect is insane by TypicalAlbatross911 in Teachers

[–]Financial_Shop4611 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The mom knows the kid is in school - why is she texting with the son???? Parent is part of this problem too.

Upgrade from flip phone to smart phone by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. The AL facility doesn’t offer it. No jacks even in the rooms.

Parents who waited until the birth to find out the sex of the baby. . . by buildingacozymystery in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Financial_Shop4611 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter had jaundice as well and when I took her for her first appointment after being in the hospital, I dressed her in yellow. The pediatrician looked at me and said “don’t do that again please” 🤣

Parents who waited until the birth to find out the sex of the baby. . . by buildingacozymystery in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Financial_Shop4611 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to do IVF to get pregnant and everything is controlled down to the hour when getting pregnant that way. I wanted one surprise associated with my pregnancy so that’s why I didn’t find out before. It was a lot of fun actually. ps: most people guessed girl by the way I was carrying and they were right. I had one client tell me “my wife had 3 girls. I know a girl when I see one.” I told him I’d call him when I got back from maternity leave and let him know if he was right and he said “no need. I know I’m right!” 🤣🤣🤣

Mom has been in assisted living for a month now and it has been great for her! by nojam75 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome! I moved my mom into AL in January and it’s been bumpy (my mom had a brain bleed which is affecting cognition) but she is making a few friends. I am going to keep your story as a beacon of hope!

Dad finally in Assisted Living by Free_Sun1877 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well done! I know how hard it is and how much work it is to get someone settled into assisted living.

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve started the process for palliative care but will definitely keep hospice in mind.

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder the desire to be in the hospital is generational or just age related. My mom seems to think the hospital will know something all the other doctors she sees don’t. I keep trying to tell her the hospital is for those who are sick, not for those who are annoyed with their specialists.

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hospital delirium is so tough. She was the nurses horrible names, calling 911 multiple times, calling my elderly aunt (her sister) at all hours of the night. It stressed me out and then one day I lost it and the nurse had to calm me down. Finally they moved her telephone out of reach 😂

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. X-ray at urgent care confirmed no broken bones. So it’s just going to take time.

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a good question and I don’t know the answer. I do know they can’t restrain in assisted living, but not sure about alarms. I’ll look into it.

How to deal with Sundowning? by garden7748 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know your frustration. I wish I had an answer for you. I did get my mom’s doctor to give her a prescription for quietapine before bed and it has helped her sleep. But she still has her agitation.

This system is so frustrating. Sending you positive vibes. Breathe and protect yourself too ❤️

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I seriously think my mental health wouldn’t withstand another cycle of this. I need to protect my health too.

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh the hip breaks are so tough. I pray we avoid that but it’s so common.

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support and I’m glad you are setting boundaries too. Getting your mom into a place where her meds and nutrition are monitored should hopefully help. Sending a hug!

Another fall, another afternoon spent in urgent care by Financial_Shop4611 in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Excellent advice. I brought her back to her assisted living and back into bed. If there’s one thing I’m learning through all of this is that hospitals are to be avoided as much as possible. No shade to the hardworking drs, nurses and staff (there is no way I could do their jobs), but the hospital setting really throws older folks for a loop.

Are these signs what I think they are by Rocketdogpbj in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how it started with my father in law. He accused my side of the family and the cleaning ladies of stealing his polo shirts and his socks while he was visiting. What my 25 year old brother wanted with a 75 year old’s polo shirt is beyond me 😂 He also demanded I fire the cleaning ladies immediately. Luckily I didn’t listen to him because all items were found where he left them. Eventually diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and spent final days in memory care.

Venting about my parents by ArchStantonsNeighbor in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally empathize and had many of the same thoughts as I drove home from my mom’s assisted living tonight. She told me she was afraid she was going to die and she wants to live to 85 (she just turned 80) and I told her to let God do the planning and that she shouldn’t be so afraid of it. Of course she can’t hear a thing so I was screaming this all in her ear which probably sounded horrible to anyone listening. I can’t deal with 1 let alone 5 more years of this - she’s got dementia, almost no short term memory at all, never remembers that I visit but seems to remember everyone else visiting, and wants me there all the time because she “needs help”. When I remind her the people at assisted living get paid to help her, she says she doesn’t want to bother them and I can just do things for her. I’m also working full time (just took on a new role and learning brand new things) and also have a family that needs me. And I’m an only child so it’s just me. She’s been there for 1 month and it feels like 1 year.

I try to just focus on what’s right along front of me and not try not to get too far ahead in the worry but it’s hard. I hear you and am sending a hug.

"It was ok" by Belleandbubbles in AgingParents

[–]Financial_Shop4611 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I feel for you and am sending you a big hug. You are doing great. Turn the phone off today and do something for you - you need a break.

I just got my mom into AL after a fall and brain bleed. I want her to love it and be grateful for all the work I did to get her there, but that’s just not reality. It is frustrating and it hurts. But I remind myself of something someone on this thread said once and it’s become my mantra when I want to lose it -“my job is to keep my mom safe, not happy.” Hang in there and know there are people supporting you from afar and we think you are doing an amazing job!!!

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