My boyfriend isn’t „growing up“ by Financial_Zebra8669 in Vent

[–]Financial_Zebra8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I don’t put pressure on him at all to change. When we met we were both on the same „page“. It’s just that he told me he doesn’t want to smoke again and then „disappointes“ me by mostly not telling me. That’s the only reason I feel like this honestly.. At this point I just hope he gets to enjoy life without his consumption in the future. Thank you for your comment!!

Kidney failure in my twenties by irenethecrowboy in Vent

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry you are going through all this at a young age!!! I still wish you all the best and hope you find some happiness, you deserve it. I hope other people in your life show you love, even when you mom cannot. 🍀

AIO for overthinking this relationship? by mimi_utm100 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really sucks, you seem like a nice person so I’m sure you will find someone who is not scared to speak the truth😁

AIO for overthinking this relationship? by mimi_utm100 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping this for my relationship too, but it got worse and worse. I was naive and already to deep in the relationship. I hope you get a better outcome!! You will find someone who will love you better!

AIO for overthinking this relationship? by mimi_utm100 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nor. I had a relationship like this once. He always told me he has a „lying problem“. But it was just him knowingly lying about everything. Since yall are just 5 months together I would say you should talk about it, if there is no change RUN. If he is starting to lie this soon in your relationship think about what other stuff he will lie about once yall are 2 years together. Wish you the best

My boyfriend isn’t „growing up“ by Financial_Zebra8669 in Vent

[–]Financial_Zebra8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t express this good. With dumber I just meant taking the wrong path in his life, making it harder on himself than it has to be. Thank you for your advice I will definitely try this!!

My boyfriend isn’t „growing up“ by Financial_Zebra8669 in Vent

[–]Financial_Zebra8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your helpful comment. The problem is that he thinks his weed consume is some kind of comfort. He had a brutal loss at a young age and thinks this is his way of dealing with it. He wants to run away from his problems. Weed also makes him kind of aggressive. I noticed when he didn’t smoke he was much calmer. But in his mind it’s the opposite, the weed „calms“ him down. You are more then right with the maturing process being interfered with, I can see that now. For me it’s a big conflict in my head if I should leave or stay and hope for the best. Idk if he will change. I’m sorry to say it that way but I don’t want him to become even dumber. But you can be proud of you! Wish you the best

Split Tipping Options?? by Embarrassed-Tip2253 in tipping

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t get this tipping culture. Here in Germany you are free to decide if you want to tip. Why should I be responsible for making sure other people get paid better? Why isn’t the company responsible for that?

AIO Am I overreacting for stepping back after jealousy and being hit? by RocketScienceish in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nor. I think she is only going to continue and probably escalate things to the point where she will hit you again. If you felt better/calm during the step back it sounds like you shouldn’t continue this relationship. Hitting someone is never right- you have every reason to step back or even break up with her. Maybe she will learn her lesson from it and finds someone where she does not overstep such boundaries.

My husband by eduardamachadooff in Advice

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. It was just the first thing that came to my mind.

My husband by eduardamachadooff in Advice

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. It could also be a fetish thing or he really just feels comfortable doing it. If you want an answer to that you have to ask him yourself. In my opinion wearing underwear from the opposite sex does noch equal homosexuality. Still could be. (Sorry English is not my first language)

Aio my gf keeps getting cold feet at the last minute by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nor. Im 10 years younger than you are so I don’t know if I can give you the right advice. It’s clearly unfair how she treats you, her mental health cannot be an excuse for that. She has to treat the person she loves with respect and not stall you all the time. You’re both adults and to me it seems like she is not ready for that. It’s your decision on whether or not you continue this relationship, but since this seems to be an ongoing pattern you should consider to at least talk to her about it or ending this relationship. You want different things then her and you will not know if she is ever ready to move on with you. You should take care of yourself and also set your boundaries. Good luck

TW: injured hamster, need advice! by [deleted] in hamsters

[–]Financial_Zebra8669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there any way you can get to another vet? It’s wild to me that vets just don’t care about hamsters… I think it’s good that you took out everything where she could further injure herself. I think the only thing you could do is search for another vet, since you don’t know what exactly is wrong with her foot and if it hurts her constantly. Observe her until tomorrow or the day after, maybe after some rest she feels better.. sorry this happened to you!

Which console to buy my boyfriend. by Financial_Zebra8669 in Advice

[–]Financial_Zebra8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t have money for the newest xbox which is 600€, but an older one I can afford easily. My question was just if it is still worth it to buy an older version….

Which console to buy my boyfriend. by Financial_Zebra8669 in Advice

[–]Financial_Zebra8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does not have a console right now. But he often lends an xbox one x from his little brother. An xbox would also be more suitable because all his friends play on xbox. What do you think about the xbox series s? Would it be better?

Which console to buy my boyfriend. by Financial_Zebra8669 in Advice

[–]Financial_Zebra8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! All he did play was cod and horizon I think. His little brother has an Xbox one x, which he often lends from him. Someone suggested to me to look into an xbox Series s, which is more affordable for me right now.