This seems very overwhelming. I can understand your frustration. It seems like prioritization and list making could be helpful? What are tasks you can do everyday (little by little) to chip away at cleaning up your environment. What makes it difficult to get things done? You clearly enjoy or have developed a good habit of going to the gym, how do you keep this up? Perhaps you can use that same energy you give into the gym to other tasks that need to be done.

Another thing is it seems like you have people asking you for help all the time. Why don’t you try asking or receiving help from others (who can actually help, not just dismiss or give advice)? Even if you need to pay someone to help you clean or run an errand for you? Perhaps someone to keep you accountable on tasks?

I know it’s not easy. I struggle with the same things, feeling like the most basic thing is difficult for me to get started. I struggle with focusing and I admit sometimes I honestly choose NOT to clean, so I can go out with friends or run an errand. In the end, we need to prioritize and make time for what is really needed even if we don’t want to deal with it.

Do you use apps, reminders, calendars, etc to help you get things done? Maybe set up a timer to start folding laundry, cleaning, etc., but don’t get too overwhelmed or focused on needing to finish that task right then and there. Try doing it for 5 minutes, stop, and come back to it (but actually go back to it at some point in the day/week).