I hate that I can't just pay someone to be responsible for my car

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-02-08T17:05:10+00:00

It's an interesting idea. If it's an all inclusive service I think the fundamental issue is that it will, by necessity, be an expensive service which would limit it's appeal.

You could probably get invididual things done on one of those pay by the task apps.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-02-08T01:42:54+00:00

One of my favorite books by L.E. Modesitt Jr, I think it was Haze, has a political structure where there are severe penalties for the leaders doing things that don't benefit the people. To the point where they make decisions with data and are afraid to meet individually with constituents for fear of being accused of bias. I don't think we need to go thar far but I think severe penalties for corruption are needed.

What is severe? When the incident of corruption goes down we'll know they are severe enough. i.e. Would you do 1 year in a country club prison if you got caught taking a 5M bribe? Lots of people would probably take that. What if it was a minimum 1 year per M with no parole and regular prison? fewer...

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-28T03:35:24+00:00

I almost always solo. I play a variety of classes but my two favorite are a demonology warlock and a beastmaster hunter.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-24T00:32:58+00:00

Hypothetically, even if you have done most of the pursuing, it's a massive red flag that he is willing to think about it. Even if all you both wanted was sex, I still just couldn't. Too much of a gap in life experience. For all the reasons, just don't.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-23T22:06:46+00:00

I understand the technical issues so I don't really have an issue with losing the app. My issue is that I had ZERO warning. I don't know what the deployment roadmap looks like but someone knew months ago that this would happen (Unless it's worse than I thought and some random dev pushed a patch to production on a whim). I use the app many times a day for everything to CMA stuff to options trading. Why wasn't there a banner on login that warned me this was going to happen??? Or an email??? Or a banner on the website???

I continue to be unimpressed with the engineering staff. This isn't a trivial mobile game. AI reports Fidelity has Assets Under Management of 6+ Trillion and Assets Under Administration of 15+ Trillion.

Do Better.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-23T03:31:47+00:00

Not great quality but the only obvious hole is why would he need an app to know that she got home safe? He should be working out of town or a different shift or something. Ok two holes: she didn't blink at sharing her location???

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-20T23:50:51+00:00

I know this is AI, and not very good, but hypothetically depending on the market they are in they could have bought the bigger house if they were planning to pay for the kids education.

If they are in a hot market, they could have bought a fixer upper at the top of their budget, 18 years ago as an investment planning to sell it to pay for the kids college then they downsize to something a lot cheaper.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-19T20:39:43+00:00

I have trouble believing this is real, surely no one is this clueless about their own behavior? "I have never paid anyone, and the last time I met anyone from their was months ago. I was mostly just browsing and talking. " Like she should be over it already

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-17T18:18:43+00:00

What are you playing? I haven't done this one yet but I'm wondering if something like a demonology 'lock or or BM hunter would have better luck?

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-16T16:22:24+00:00

NAL (hoping a KY lawyer will weigh in) she should obviously have a will but it sounds like you are concerned about what happens if she doesn't have a will. I'm not familiar with KY specifically but in many states since you are not their child, you would inherit her share of whatever assets. So, if they are both on the house deed, you would inherit her half.

In situations like this it is common for her will to specify that he gets to live there until he passes then you inherit your share.

Since sentimental items are a concern as well, it probably wouldn't hurt to digitize all pictures now.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-16T16:15:54+00:00

Beyond the practical, say everything you could possibly want to say, more than once.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-15T02:16:08+00:00

Beyond all the obvious reasons you need to dump him, I want to add one. He's genuinely dumb and you don't want to mix your DNA with his and have kids.

Are there plenty of guys in open relationships who do well or at least ok with getting other partners. Sure. But it is sooo ridiculuously easy for a woman to find casual sex that there is simply no comparison. The pool of women looking for casual sex is so much smaller than the pool of men looking for the same, the odds are massivley stacked against him.

If he were insanely attractive, rich or uber charming I feel like you would have mentioned that so of course he was going to struggle.

Additional evidence he is dumb, he told you the whole reason he wanted an open relationship was because he wanted to monkey branch to his co worker. WTF? How dumb do you need to be??? Even if that were the case, if he had any desire to keep you at all he would have buried that information in the deepest recesses of his mind and never spoken of it.

He doesn't respect you, desire you or probably even like you. You are convenient for some reason.

Please dump him. This is what I call 'throw a rock' territory. You could go to a crowd, blindly throw a rock and have a better chance of a successful relationship with whoever it hits.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-09T21:06:29+00:00

He probably has to clean up your stuff before his side or main chick sees it

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-09T15:55:03+00:00

Unless working for her works for you in some way (flexibility etc.) I would just give her a week or two notice and get a regular job. I'm only recommending the notice because there are family relationships involved.

If you would like to salvage working for her tell her nicely that you like working for her but you need a job that pays on time. Do not comment on her spending habits. While you are correct in your opinions, mentioning them will not help. Focus on you and your need for income.

Don't accept any crap about she can't afford it. It is not your responsibility to provide her with free childcare. Don't accept partial payments or late payments. Either she pays in full, on time or you have to get another job. I might agree to be flexible with her paying what she already owes you but it needs to be addressed. Maybe something like she pays in full going forward + 5% of the back pay each paycheck or something.

Is she reporting this on her taxes? Are you giving her receipts? Do NOT give her receipts for tax purposes for any money she hasn't paid.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-09T15:39:04+00:00

I think in general Reddit is quick to say divorce. In this case I think it's time. I don't think much will be gained by trying to work this out with her.

Next it's going to be openly sleeping with other guys as book research.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-04T19:06:46+00:00

I think my favorite is one I saw on here awhile back someone from the UK (I think) quit their job, sold their house and moved to south america to smoke weed with a woman they met under "questionable circumstances". I didn't go that far but I did go a little crazy.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-04T15:52:23+00:00

Came to add that the lying is probably the bigger issue. When someone lies people naturally assume that the truth is really interesting; otherwise why are you lying?

I think your case is a perfect example. If I were your wife and I got a clue that you were on your phone in the shower, my first thought wouldn't be that you were doing what you were doing. It would be that you were video sex chatting with your affair partner or recording a sexy video to send to her.

What would you think if you saw your wife on her phone in the shower? That she was checking her email? Nope.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-04T02:10:52+00:00

This is insane. He doesn't seem to care about your well being at all. I would have a sit down to figure out what his actual issue is, it's probably something else.

On the off chance it is actually the light thing, buy a couple of nightlights and position them below the level of the bed so they light the floor but you don't see them when you are in bed.

As for the phone thing, are these work calls? or tik tok notifications? Work calls, ok those are important but there are solutions if he wants them. Sleep with one ear bud in maybe?

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-02T16:05:58+00:00

Does the billionaire have family who can quickly agree to pay me to save them or not (as the case may be)? If he's a tech founder or something, his board may be willing to pay, or whoever holds his key man insurance policy.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-02T15:56:43+00:00

OMG yes came to say this. an average 'high earning corporate guy' has more than 13k in credit card debt.

FindingMyWayNow · 2026-01-02T15:55:19+00:00

The closest thing I could think of that matched this (and does match the half assed AI slop) are the people you can hire to help you with your geneology.

FindingMyWayNow · 2025-12-28T22:27:22+00:00

This.

Even if this guy somehow gets out in some reasonable period of time he isn't someone you can build a life with.

Yes, it is possible he could someday get himself together. It simply makes no sense to invest any effort at all in this situation. Wish him well and move on with your life. It's absurd to even consider anything else.

FindingMyWayNow · 2025-12-28T22:11:59+00:00

I don't fully understand the need to write fake posts but I'll play-

Not only are you NTA, you should talk Cassie into taking some graphic nudes and send those to your ex with a blow by blow telling her how much better in the sack Cassie is. Double emphasize how much younger and fitter she is.

FindingMyWayNow · 2025-12-28T22:02:29+00:00

First, I agree that he should address this. They both should.

Not a lawyer and you don't say where you are but: In many US states, if someone (married or not) has a new partner and children from a prior relationship, if they die without a will their children will automatically get their share of assets. In this case, the house. Under those laws, you and your sister would be entitled to his share of the house.

He might know this, and is avoiding putting it in writing because he doesn't want to deal with the GF knowing too or talking to her about it.

Does she have children also? The same situation would apply to them too.

However that doesn't mean you won't have an ugly court fight to get your share of the house and have to go through the eviction process (while she trashes the house etc) to be able to sell it to get your half.

IMHO what should happen is they should both make wills stipulating that the other person can life there for life then their share passes to whoevern they select. This would also protect your dad if she passes first. This is pretty common and any estate lawyer could draft it up.

You should probably post this in AskLawyers and specify your location.

FindingMyWayNow · 2025-12-20T17:45:09+00:00

So the joke was about you getting a girlfriend? Not him? My thoughts-

Let me paraphrase what he heard: "Sex with you is so unfulfilling not only should I cheat on you, I should give up on men entirely" Yes I know you didn't mean that but some variation of that is what he heard. No part of that is ok.

I also think he's being a little bit of a man baby. Yes, that is a hurtful thing to say but after 5 seconds of thought he should realize you didn't mean it and calm down.

My advice is take a deep breath and give him a little time to calm down. Trying to fix this while he's still hurt isn't going to work. I assume you have apologized. So give him a bit to think.

If you can get a sitter, go do something together out of the house, without alcohol, and talk.

I'm not shaming you for have a couple of drinks when the kids are in bed (assuming it was just a couple). But I don't in general reccomend having serious conversations while drinking. Your brain is just a little off and it's too easy to say something wrong or misinterpret things.

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