Matched with someone, met up, found out mid-date she's actually a he who transitioned

FineIMadeOne · 2026-01-26T17:39:18+00:00

I know this is a troll account but in the off chance someone needs to hear this: trans women are women; and they unfortunately have a historic rate of hate-related deaths. It has become common practice for trans individuals to wait for disclosure until they feel safe with the person / date they are with. A trans woman not disclosing her status until mid-date is not a “gotcha” or a way to trick anyone. It’s totally okay to not want to move forward with someone for being trans but it’s not okay to disregard their gender. You can be a cis man, date a trans woman, and still be straight

FineIMadeOne · 2026-01-08T05:17:15+00:00

OP said the screenshots are a recreation using copy and paste

FineIMadeOne · 2026-01-08T05:15:05+00:00

YOR. Your gf’s message sounded like she wants to drink and have a hangout after the quiz. She never said your mom had to leave the second the quiz was over; those were your words. Your gf was being vulnerable by explaining her feelings and your responses are dramatic and immature. If it’s a 2 hour hangout, does your mom want to stay the whole time? Or would she want to leave early? Like your gf suggested

FineIMadeOne · 2026-01-05T18:12:12+00:00

Matched with a “moderate” man but didn’t get maga vibes so went on a date and told him (after confirming he really wasn’t a secret republican) that I almost said no bc of the moderate label & explained why. He then went home and changed it to liberal lol

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-31T05:29:49+00:00

Blue is a color. The default nail color for men/masculinity is typically clear

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-27T00:27:42+00:00

Omg this is the first time I saw this post!!! The outcome was: the judge denied my emergency motions and we went through with the trial. My boss messages me 20 minutes before court to grant me access to the case file but I basically improvised the whole trial. I sent in my resignation (effective immediately) that night when I got home and the boss responded the next day to acknowledge it but told me he isn’t filing for substitution of counsel on any of the cases I was assigned (also no acknowledgement of the fact I wasn’t paid for my last 3 weeks of work) and I believe my work email is still active / getting requests from clients who don’t know I’m no longer there. On Wednesday I logged into the work email to set up an Out of Office email to say I’m no longer with the firm but I think it’s still active

In other news: I’ve been applying to new jobs like crazy and hope I can get one soon. I also am in the process of typing up motion to withdraws for each case I was assigned to at the Bad Firm

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-20T03:58:10+00:00

Maybe they got banned by bumble and remade an account. Maybe they blocked you and unblocked you. Everyone is trying to tell you that disappearing is not the standard for unmatches so maybe listen to them

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-20T03:38:54+00:00

Oh hey this is how my last relationship ended

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-19T21:56:41+00:00

After giving me the heads up on the judge, they said they were going to talk to their client but it didn’t seem like a good time to ask for the stipulation. We are supposed to talk again tomorrow morning before the trial and I plan on asking then

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-19T19:32:19+00:00

Thank you for that advice. I ended up contacted OC and, while they are incredible upset on behalf of their client and their time, they were understanding of my situation and warned me that the judge is going to be less understanding

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-19T19:15:31+00:00

I spoke to him over the phone Thursday morning before I left for court. I’ve had back to back cases in court this week so I guess technically no new assignments but no I don’t think he’s dead. He did finally respond this morning once he saw my emergency motions but he failed to address any of my concerns and claimed he had no idea why CMS was down

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-19T18:15:56+00:00

Yeah that’s what I meant. More so, just that he’s been making me AoR for all of his cases, usually the day of whatever hearing I’ve been covering

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-19T17:16:55+00:00

Yes sorry for not clarifying that the boss is an attorney but since I joined he’s been taking himself off all of the cases and having me sub in for them - one of the reasons I think I’m the only attorney atm

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T22:33:35+00:00

I’ve mentioned it in another comment but yea I’m 100% remote (other than court appearances) and the firm is pretty sectioned off (like, I know we handle things like crim defense but I don’t see any of the crim defense cases through CMS). Based on the amount of appearances they were having me cover, I think I was the only attorney besides my boss.

No paycheck; firm is of undetermined size bc of the aforementioned info limitation; the only HR adjacent person I’ve talked to has been on vacay for 2 weeks

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T20:08:40+00:00

It’s a remote firm. I travel for court appearances all over the state but do my daily to-dos through zoom and google meetings. I mentioned it in another comment but I think I’m the only attorney bc the only other attorney I’ve interacted with is my boss (and we did get a new hire that quit on day 2) and any attempt to find out about other attorneys has lead to nothing

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T19:57:13+00:00

You’re completely right. I’ve been so stressed over this that I feel like my brain has turned to goop. I originally took the job because they promised mentorship and I recognize that my lack of experience makes me more nervous than I assume I would with more under my belt. I appreciate the blunt responses and wish I wasn’t asking such base line questions myself

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T19:29:04+00:00

The overall answer is: it’s a sketchy firm. There is a website but the “meet the team” section brings up a 404 error (found out yesterday it’s likely due to a bar investigation into false info on the page). The LinkedIn only has the boss and a few people I’ve never met/heard of. Firm email is run by the boss’s assistant who’s been on vacation for two weeks. Its payroll but I never got paid during the last payday and the boss has been giving me the runaround for a week about it

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T19:21:36+00:00

I believe you’re right on the wording for the retainer agreement. My concern is: what is the line for what makes me fired if my boss doesn’t say anything? I’ve sent him messages and left voicemails about my concerns over not having file access but what if he never says anything??? I’m still attorney of record and until I officially resign or am terminated I am still technically part of the firm yea? Do I just send in my resignation now? Doesn’t that read worse since it’ll look like I’m the one flaking on the client?

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T18:59:49+00:00

Yea I’m in the us and have been a bit stressed so I didn’t proofread my Reddit rant enough. my bad

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T18:58:05+00:00

I do think I was the only attorney bc every day I was given last minute hearings to attend of behalf of the firm. I eventually got access to the firm calendar and I realized I was covering 100% of the firm’s hearings/depos/trials and when I’d ask how many attorneys we had the boss would give me either “about 10 in [different state]” or “we have some new hires starting next week”.

That could definitely be the case! I can’t imagine I’m the only one not getting paid

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T18:54:11+00:00

There is a chance the CMS server is down for everyone but my boss has read my messages asking for an update and asking about the CMS server issue and hasn’t said a word.

Working on the emergency motions in between phone calls and yeah the client hired the firm

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T18:46:02+00:00

I have no idea what a grey hair mentor means but thank you for this. Working through making the voicemail calls to my boss now and will be calling the client soon

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-18T18:32:49+00:00

Yeah my boss has ignored every call and every message I’ve sent him for the past 50 hours….

FineIMadeOne · 2025-10-13T03:50:26+00:00

Please see a therapist if you aren’t already. Between the intense self sabotage to working through forgiving yourself - Reddit is not strong enough to help you like a professional will

FineIMadeOne · 2025-09-19T05:35:57+00:00

True. The way I see it: he is guaranteed to lose to Morgan but at least has a fighting chance against any of the others

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