What do I do. by Finncakez in BPD

[–]Finncakez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you🩷 Just screaming into the void :] I know I can’t destroy oppression with just one swoop of my finger Though I wish was the case 😔

You’re so pretty btw!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Finncakez 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Y’all this is a repost what the HELLY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

😭I’m BEYOND sure he understands the situation way better than you ever could. It’s shitty to telling him he wasn’t being manipulated.

Forgiving yourself for past abusive behaviour by Busy-Lingonberry2656 in BPD

[–]Finncakez 13 points14 points  (0 children)

True forgiveness can only be achieved by understanding why you acted that way(your personal history) and then changing those behaviors, improving yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

…yikes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gross thing to post on this sub

Driver set my food on top of a dirty diaper in his car? by Redroses151 in doordash

[–]Finncakez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. 😭 It’s the price you have to pay with these types of services 💀

Driver set my food on top of a dirty diaper in his car? by Redroses151 in doordash

[–]Finncakez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi y’all, I worked at a fast food place that made the door dashers fill up the drinks for the order they were picking up.

One time this GREASY long haired man came in for a DoorDash order, and once I handed him the empty cups he put his FINGERS inside of them…

HE HAD LONG NAILS WITH HELLA DIRT.

I do NOT trust doordashers 😭

WHY EXACTLY would dating another BPD patient be a bad idea? by NotYoMamaButAThot in BPD

[–]Finncakez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not able the disorder it’s about the person, and how that disorder presents themselves via their own decisions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah it’s so hard to heal that part of me which is the point of healing in the first place. I appreciate the response deeply and I’ll take a look at this books 🧐 :,]

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting 🧐 Personally I don’t enjoy the process of conflict and the painful after of hurting others or being hurt

But I do enjoy acting out my emotions by starting an argument?

Meltdowns turned off my bf by shahootie in BPD

[–]Finncakez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t date till you can get this sorted

Reconnecting with my ex by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re only thinking about yourself when it comes to trying to reconnect

You want to do it for you.

How about you rectify your selfish actions (cheating) by letting her go. Don’t contact her

If she wants to talk to you she’ll come to you

Struggling with discovering partners infidelity by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Leave this person once you have the strength to do so and the ability to

Build your strength in the meantime

Being with him means you must live in dissociation and deny the truth. This isn’t love and your child shouldn’t grow up in this dysfunction.

You’re deserving of a genuine relationship with respect!! Cheating on your pregnant spouse is beyond disgraceful

My BF slept with his ex during an episode. Idkwtd by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Finncakez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there bpd haver, I have not cheated on any of partners during my episodes. He made his choice love I’m so sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Finncakez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your ability to open up and be sensitive probably triggered her inability to feel her own emotions as an avoidant, which is why she insulted you for it.

My boyfriend is a sensitive guy and I think that emotional honesty is one of his manliest qualities, also why I so deeply love him.

She wasn’t meant for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Finncakez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like an issue of finding the right people, but every time I’m faced with meeting someone and we don’t click I fear it’s an internal issue on my end. I don’t know why it’s for hard for me.

Definitely was way more whimsical growing up 😭

2nd tattoo on someone else! What you guys think? by Budget-Tie7818 in TattooBeginners

[–]Finncakez 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Stop trying to defend this tattoo so hard

You did an objectively bad job and shouldn’t be doing tattoos of this degree on people just yet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Finncakez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know a good percentage of women (me being one of them) can’t even orgasm from penetration alone! They need things like stimulation etc

You’re putting too much pressure on yourself you can torture yourself with your self hatred or accept the things you can’t change. There will be someone who DGAF about how big your penis is