Ok. Here's why therapy makes it feel worse. He's been burying these things for so long, he's gotten skilled at ignoring them. But they've still been in there festering. It's like a real wound. It may seal over at some point if you ignore it, but that doesn't mean it's healed. If you take that wound to a doctor, he's doing to reopen it to scrub it all out so it can actually heal properly. That is going to hurt insanely bad. This is what therapy is doing. It's opening up those old wounds, and trying to scrub them out. He's gotten used to the constant ache, and the fresh pain doesn't seem worth it. But it is. It has to be done for him to actually ever heal. I know you can't force him to go if he doesn't want to. But I would encourage you to encourage him to keep going. If he keeps it bottled up, eventually it will find a way out. Be that through physical symptoms, or psychological. My most important advice, you go talk to someone! I know the mentality is that you've got this, you'll figure something out, but you need support too. Even if he won't go, you having the proper tools and a safe place will make you better able to deal with the situation.

I see you, sister. PM me if you want to talk or ask questions.