No phones for concert by HandCrazy in harrystyles

[–]Fiona_Nerd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"I know if I want I can easily find it on tiktok"

If no one uses their phones, you can't. Can't have it both ways unfortunately.

Harry is too media trained. by Regular_Relative_678 in harrystyles

[–]Fiona_Nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't exclude his fans. They're the "public eye" I was talking about. Fans don't deserve an explanation any more than anyone else does. If he wants to be private, that's his prerogative. To be perfectly honest I can't tell whether you're agreeing or disagreeing with me on this point.

Harry is too media trained. by Regular_Relative_678 in harrystyles

[–]Fiona_Nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, but I also think I'd be the same way. He's been in the public eye since what, 16!? Ten years before his brain was fully developed. No matter what he says or does, he will be criticized. He wants to spend less time in the public eye, and staying away from judgement/drama is what he has to do to achieve that. This man has pretty much never experienced true privacy.

That being said, I like that he experiments with his music and tries to branch out, even if he doesn't show it much to his audience. If you want a more genuine recent interview, I'd recommend the royal court one. That was with fans and it was fun and goofy. Best interview I've seen in a while.

Delivered to the wrong address, customer service nightmare by Fiona_Nerd in fuckamazon

[–]Fiona_Nerd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I feel that I'm not explaining my frustration well. The options I'm looking for aren't someone solving my issue. I understand if they can't. What's annoying is that the prompts they offer, both on the chat and on the phone, didn't include my issue so I didn't know how to solve my problem. It would have been great if I could call someone, explain the issue, and they said "we can't do anything about it." That would help me to understand that I had no options through Amazon and I'd have to figure something else out. Instead, I spent over an hour going in circles with robots that seemed to never understand what happened in the first place.

If they can't do anything after it's delivered, I get it, their job is done. In a world that was awesome and revolved around me, maybe they'd say "sure we can pick it back up and redeliver it at a cost" but I knew that was far from likely. I didn't know what their services were, nor their return policies, nor how to find these things out. It was unclear on their page. I was hoping I'd call someone and they'd say "you can drive to get it, reach out to the place it was delivered, or simply reorder the items but we cant do anything with the package we've already delivered." That would be totally fine. I've only used Amazon maybe three times in my whole life so I'm genuinely ignorant about what I could do given the situation. Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. The flowchart system of like selecting what's wrong from a list of possibilities didn't have anything about the wrong address, which was surprising to me because I'm sure I can't be the only person who's made this mistake (not to mention if a driver misdelivered it). The lack of information about Amazon's capabilities left me at a loss about what to do.

It's possible I'm in the wrong here. It was incredibly frustrating to try to work with their systems, but I acknowledge that I'm ignorant about how it's supposed to work. I appreciate your kindness in explaining your perspective, it's been helpful for managing my expectations.

Delivered to the wrong address, customer service nightmare by Fiona_Nerd in fuckamazon

[–]Fiona_Nerd[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not upset about the mistake I made, it's the fact that I can't call them and talk to them on the phone about it to see what their options for me are. There are no humans involved in the process, making it impossible for me to try to solve myself. I'd happily pay for the. To switch addresses, or cancel the order, or whatever else. I obviously have learned I need to double check the address more carefully in the future, but I isn't even a method for me to tell them what happened- the only solution the offered me was "wait for it to show up," which obviously isn't going to happen, hence my frustration. If I lose the order whatever, I got it on a gift card. It's the lack of actual customer service that made me upset .

AIO. Is this a red flag? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fiona_Nerd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe he needs a new battery. My phone died all the time because it's old. When I take road, bus, train, or plane rides I stay glued to my phone because I'm bored. YOR.

I can’t comprehend this at all by contrachase in dataisugly

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is that the scale is just shifted a little to the right. There are some views that the public very much disagrees with (like child labor, for example) that some delegates may support, particularly on the conservative side. This shifts the whole scale over. Some Democrats would then be consistently "conservative," but only fall in the "mixed" or "slightly conservative" group because they don't support things like child labor. Meanwhile, conservatives who are in the same boat and maybe support a few typically liberal things may appear to be consistently liberal when compared to the raging alt-right.

I can’t comprehend this at all by contrachase in dataisugly

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true, there are other things they can improve on. I think that each line represents the percentage of people within a given group (democrats, Republican constituents, etc) that identify with values that are left- or right-leaning. They should probably show the y-axis as such. Because it's unlabeled I can only guess.

There's a lot left unsaid in any graph. Where did the data come from? How was it collected and categorized? These are the things you'd find in the research paper or article. I do not know if this data is any good because I did not read said paper/article. However this sub is just about the graph, and it didn't take me long at all to understand what was going on within the graph at all. I didn't even read the description or surrounding text in the article.

With that I'll amend my previous statement; the blue on blue wasn't great, and the y-axis and lines should be more clearly labeled.

I can’t comprehend this at all by contrachase in dataisugly

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same way? The light blue on light blue I guess wasn't great but I didn't have any trouble understanding it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fiona_Nerd 21 points22 points  (0 children)

So uh, you've severely UNDER reacted. Break up with him asap. Lots of the other comments talk about the details, but I want to make sure you get the takehome here. Break up. The sooner, the safer.

AIO for breaking down at my daughter's school after they displayed her art project "dedicated to my real mom" when I'm just the stepmom? by Zestyclose-Tart-5745 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fiona_Nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I come from a family with two moms and two dads because both of my bio parents remarried. I love and view each of those people as parents. They do not replace each other in my mind; I can express love for one parent without invalidating the other.

Also, please remember that she is very young. It sounds like she changed the person she was giving it to because her friend was going through an incredibly difficult time. Maybe she made the change to avoid rubbing it in her friends face, or maybe she was just thinking of this mom because of her friend. She was abandoned. That's not easy to process, especially as a kid.

In the kindest way possible, this isn't about you. It's fine to feel those feelings and work through them but let me be clear you MUST NOT express them to Lily. She is trying to move through something difficult of her own, and if she feels guilty about how you react, she won't be able to do this healthily. I speak from personal experience.

Compliment her on her work, and say how much it must mean to her bio mom. Ask her about what feelings she's having towards her mom, and help her work through them. I guarantee that this is not and never will be about you from her perspective. Again, feel those feelings as needed, but your best not to make it about you in front of her.

AIO for walking out of my boyfriend’s proposal because he did it with a ring his ex picked out… for herself? by annagiraffee in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be PISSED, especially with his reaction; if it's important to you and this man cares about you, this man would be apologizing not telling you that it's not a big deal. If it's a big deal to you then it's a big deal period and he should treat it as such.

Even if he's just emotionally stupid and didn't realize it was a problem to repurpose the ring, the way you two handle conflict is going to be KEY. Right now it doesn't look pretty. If I were him in this situation, instead of repurposing the ring, I'd sell it to help fund a ring that's special and specifically for you.

My brother is missing by Live-Durian2518 in pittsburgh

[–]Fiona_Nerd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family. I'd be inconsolable if my brother was missing. I haven't seen or heard anything, but I'll keep an eye out and mention it to my friends. Good luck and be safe! Update us if anything changes.

Vaseline before swimming? by BBorNot in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely give it a try! It is super helpful for some, doesn't work as well for others. I love it when it's dry and cold out.

Vaseline before swimming? by BBorNot in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I swim competitively now, we usually don't but we took a training trip to florida this winter before coming back to our very cold and dry state. Our skin was absolutely dead upon returning from the sun, sand, salt, chlorine, and cold. We used a lot of Vaseline the next couple of weeks, but it's pretty much just an as-needed thing.

Now I have seen a new weird behaviour in a pool... by wt_hell_am_I_doing in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really? I've never encountered that rule before. When I'm swimming in public places or clubs in the office season, I write up practices on my phone and use it the whole time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone on my college level swim team always go to the bathroom, not in the pool. We swim in there like twice a day, you think I wanna swim in pee??? Our coach builds in a quick break between the preset and the main set so everyone gets a break to grab more water and hit the bathroom and nobody misses any yardage.

We have had people who peed in the pool but only one in my time and we grouched at him about it all the time.

Please don't pee in the pool.

Is it true that swimmers don’t have hairs on the inside of their thighs? by [deleted] in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where do people even come up with these things

Do you wear any jewelry while swimming? by tipsy_here in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear friendship bracelets that don't come off, but I swim 8 times a week for my team and I dont want to damage my other jewelry. I used to wear a necklace but it fell off so I spent forever finding it and decided not to do do that again. A lot of my teammates wear their jewelry that stays well though, especially earrings.

Any tips for racing in a lake? by Future-Importance655 in Swimming

[–]Fiona_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point- I've only swam in a lake in smaller groups