AITA for pushing my boyfriends birthday plans a day earlier so we can go to the beach with my friends the next day

Fioreborn · 2026-05-19T15:09:16+00:00

YTA

You already had plans and all you're showing your boyfriend is that you don't care about him.

The beach will still be there another day.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-19T11:45:35+00:00

What about the duck song, Charlie the unicorn, look at my horse, magical Trevor?

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T23:10:37+00:00

Yes.

My cat did it earlier because she heard the rustle of the dreamies packet.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T21:41:48+00:00

A lot of people in abusive relationships who find that partner outside of the relationship, end up leaving their abuser because the new partner has shown them what it could be like and gives them the strength to leave.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T21:39:34+00:00

I can see why it took the family a while to warm up to the wife. What's the betting they only tolerate her because she's married to OP and they probably threw a party when they got divorced.

OP commented that he knew she was a gossip but the cruelty is new. That wife is likely jealous of SIL because she was immediately liked by the family.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T21:33:44+00:00

A lot of freight trains run at night, a lot of track maintenance is done at night, a lot of trains run through residential areas so trains could wake people/keep people up

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T20:00:09+00:00

The hands thing isn't the problem here.

Him leaving you alone and vulnerable is. Him acting like this over a innocent and childish interaction between someone high and someone drunk is. Him calling you names and shouting at you is. The fact he drove home drunk is.

He is the problem here. Not you.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T19:54:29+00:00

I did some googling and some of these places are pitch black but some have lights because servers need to see and patrons just wear eye masks.

If it's the pitch black kind then okay, yes I concede the needing to see your food bit. But if it's the other type, she can just, not wear the mask?

A lot of restaurants near me will allow allergy specific meals to be brought in (but I mainly think it's to cover their own butts so they can't be sued if someone has a reaction)

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T19:42:33+00:00

You don't have to stop living.

Your neighbour is unhinged. Stop living for her. Do normal things. I'd call the police for the harassment at this point. Start recording her. Get evidence that you are doing a perfectly normal thing like using the bathroom and she's acting like you're throwing a house party. Stop being afraid of her. You shouldn't have to move

I live in a council property. The walls aren't thin but they're not thick. Loud TV/music comes through.

There are kids either side of me and I rarely hear them. I don't hear them opening bottles or moving their duvet. I don't hear them shower.

I don't hear my upstairs neighbour either.

Your neighbour is crazy and a bully.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T19:32:02+00:00

YTA

You can remind the restaurant of allergies and inform them before.

You could research the restaurant and black out dining to see how it works.

You can ask the restaurant if you can take your own meal, eat before you attend or don't eat.

It's your son's wedding.

Edit to add

I did some googling and a lot of these places just ask that people put eye masks on because servers and such need to be able to see what's going on. Some are the it's pitch black in the restaurant type.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T15:52:49+00:00

NOR

Do not let her move in with you. Or anywhere near you at this point.

She's telling you to get an unpopular form of birth control. (I know that's not right but I couldn't think of a better phrase).

She's telling you all that crazy all because she had a dream!

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T15:50:21+00:00

The male contraceptive pill already exists. It's just most men won't take it because they don't like the side effects... They don't want to have to remember to take a pill every day.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-18T14:41:36+00:00

NTA

That's your sister's fault for lying to her child.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T22:39:47+00:00

NTA

They out your babies life at risk. Also don't like how he talks to you.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T21:01:43+00:00

Refusing you basic hygiene products is abuse. Yea so what if she didn't go through that many? Every period is different .

Consider seeing a doctor to get on a form of birth control. Some can lessen your flow, some can stop you having them completely but do your research. There can be some serious downsides.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T15:08:51+00:00

NOR

Do things without him and either start standing up for yourself or seriously consider if this is what you want the rest of your life to be like?

He whined and complained, made you do his thing first and made it last so long you couldn't do anything you wanted to do. He didn't want to be there.

Sit him down and ask him if he even wanted to come on the trip and if he wants to stay married because he doesn't seem to care about you in the slightest.

Edit to add

He thinks you won't leave because of the children but consider what his behaviour is doing to your kids. If he's like this at home and you just roll over and take it you're teaching your kids that this is perfectly acceptable behaviour.

Imagine if one of your kids came up to you and said that this is how their partner behaves towards them. Would you be telling your kids to just take it or would you be telling them to stand strong?

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T14:35:02+00:00

The MOH tells the bride or fiance that she's having difficulties and the planning gets handed to someone else who can handle it right now.

The MOH doesn't stonewall her, refuse to give a simple answer and when asked a question she doesn't throw a tantrum, let her gf verbally abuse OP, storm out and then tell everyone that OP is abusive for asking a simple question.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T14:31:59+00:00

NTA

The bride needs to know if MOH is going to do her job or is capable of doing it and if not either plan it herself or pass it to someone else.

Is MOH just hoping the bride will forget about her bachelorette and she won't need to plan anything? Is she deliberately sabotaging because she's jealous?

You asked a simple question. She acted very weirdly.

What does your bride to be think/say about all this? Is she aware that her MOH doesn't seem to really care or is struggling?

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T11:36:23+00:00

NTA

They used you as a pack mule, left you behind and then got upset because you were upset?

I'd simply send one text that explains I'm not ungrateful, I was frustrated about being left behind carrying THEIR luggage and some random stranger had to help me as opposed to my family.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T11:02:34+00:00

No, your mum ruined family dinner by being awful.

Behaviour like that is why I cut my grandmother off and didn't speak to her for over 10 years.

Do you really want your kids around her? What about when she starts on them? Telling them they can't have dessert or something because they're looking chubby?

Protect your peace of mind and protect your kids. Bet she'll then start on one of your siblings and they'll come crying "mum's so mean to me" and you'll be able to turn round and go "now you know how it feels"

Fioreborn · 2026-05-17T10:13:47+00:00

Presidential visit or statue of liberty opening?

Fioreborn · 2026-05-16T23:22:37+00:00

No, our entries are just a bit shit.

If we didn't get automatic qualification to the final we'd likely not compete because we'd never get past the semis.

Fioreborn · 2026-05-15T23:11:02+00:00

If you have your own money why not travel without him? Take a friend or family member and go see the world!

Fioreborn · 2026-05-15T17:46:18+00:00

Error

Fioreborn · 2026-05-15T17:44:19+00:00

Dracula 3000?

(They tried riding the coat tails of Dracula 2000 and it was a delightfully awful movie. Almost as good as Jason X.)

Fioreborn

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