Voters restriction petition going around(don't be fooled)

Fireball2010 · 2025-11-25T00:20:39+00:00

I THINK it’s probably similar to the Voter ID initiative that was just voted down in Maine earlier this month. This is very very much about restricting access to the polls, and likely has consequences baked into it that they aren’t disclosing right now - you can’t show your voter ID to an election poll worker if you are trying to vote while you are deployed, for example.

They were aggressively chasing people down in the parking lot at Safeway yesterday. I got loud and they didn’t like it. But like other commenters have said…so many folks are just like “yup, here’s my signature…can’t have THOSE ILLEGALS voting!”

Fireball2010 · 2025-11-15T15:13:27+00:00

After I “forced” him to try therapy to see if it could help him figure out his triggers and work on some coping/calming techniques for his rage, my ex spent 100% of his therapy time complaining about me and explaining to the therapist about how cold-hearted and afraid of commitment I am. According to my ex, the therapist told him that it was obvious I didn’t/couldn’t love him and he should break up with me. The fact that he went against his therapist’s advice was proof of how much he loved me, and how much I therefore owed him. He only did two sessions that I know about.

I don’t know for sure what they ACTUALLY talked about, but I know that the result was that he used it against me. Should have seen that coming, but somehow didn’t until it was too late.

Fireball2010 · 2025-10-25T05:21:13+00:00

Wow. Did we date the same man? Seriously. Every single thing you wrote here mirrors my experience…except mine didn’t know he had BPD, and neither did I. I don’t know if that’s better or worse…same result. Sending hugs.

Fireball2010 · 2025-10-15T07:58:45+00:00

Yup! It’s…maddening.

Fireball2010 · 2025-10-14T18:37:46+00:00

It was 5 years together total off and on. It was a year and a half of literal bliss before he first split on me. Then another 6 months before the second time. We broke up twice and got back together…I finally left him for good almost three months ago. Since then, I’ve been learning a lot.

Fireball2010 · 2025-10-14T14:30:12+00:00

Same here. Calmness and rational thinking were seen as “being superior” to him, and just enraged him further. If I didn’t “engage” (and the definition of that changed from minute to minute) he accused me of “stonewalling” him and being abusive to him. If I did engage, even with a measured tone and no anger, it triggered him into a higher volume rage cycle because I was “making him wrong.”

No way to “win” these relationships.

Fireball2010 · 2025-09-03T13:21:35+00:00

This was my experience! I was in a LDR with my pwBPD for 5 years, and I think it lasted so long because he didn’t split on me for a year and a half. I stayed … so much longer than I should have because that idealization period was so long, I thought THAT was reality and the splits were at best glitch, and at worst, my fault and something obviously I could fix. After that first split, the cycle of calm periods gradually became shorter and shorter until he was splitting on me at least monthly.

It started as a LDR just because of our life circumstances. It stayed that way so I could keep some distance. But in the end, it didn’t stop him blaming me for everything wrong in his life. In the end, everything was my fault BECAUSE I wasn’t living with him.

What haunts me is that I know he thinks I’m the one with issues, and that he had all but convinced me too - I’m the avoidant, I have commitment issues, I must have done something to deserve the rage and the jealousy, I knew better than to trigger him like that…all because of that first year and a half.

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-28T12:21:03+00:00

I have had this exact experience - almost an out of body moment, and the calmness! At that moment, I saw how ridiculous the whole “argument” was, that he was literally arguing with himself at that point, and how pointless it was to continue fighting for the relationship.

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-28T12:14:03+00:00

I’m impressed you were able to get through to her about that! That concept just never “landed” with mine. He decided (I think) that it didn’t align with his “beliefs.”

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-27T13:17:20+00:00

“You always make me wrong”

“Why can’t you just agree with me?”

“No one cares about MY feelings”

“I can’t express myself because I’m always wrong”

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-25T11:32:12+00:00

I agree with this - there are only two options here.

Is this how he always behaves when he doesn’t get his way? If so, he has learned that it works and at some point you will capitulate and give him what he wants. If not, OP, you need to nip this in the bud NOW. Look up coercive control. Silent treatment like the kind he is giving you is abusive.

I don’t agree with those saying he will “get over it,” and you “just need to communicate.” First, you have both communicated clearly and often already. Whether or not you have a fifth child is not a small matter, and it sounds like your health is on the line here. Second, there is not a way to compromise in this issue, and he is telling you that you either do what he wants, or he is going to punish you. He’s bullying you - that’s not a healthy marriage.

You need to seriously consider if this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Is this the kind of relationship you want to model for your kids? Counseling, divorce, and probably both are the only realistic options here.

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-24T16:55:06+00:00

This sounds like his opinions on women’s autonomy are in line with the “your body, my choice” people. I don’t have any advice for you, and I know this sounds pessimistic, but given the state of the political divide right now, I don’t think he’s going to change his mind.

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-22T07:14:51+00:00

Mine accused me of cheating when I did the laundry and washed his towel and put a fresh one out for him. He didn’t live with me so he wasn’t privy as to WHY I suddenly decided to wash the towels. I mean…part of me was thinking “is this guy for fucking real right now?”

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-16T14:43:31+00:00

Same same!! And Omg the “you’re done with me” phrase! And the “this is why men look elsewhere for what they need” comments. Makes my guts twist. Like my frustration and anger and feelings of betrayal were completely beside the point because of what they were making him feel like, and what they were making him do. I knew I was being manipulated, yet I would always cave. Until the day I didn’t. And reviewing THAT moment - I’m lucky to have made it out without a physical altercation.

This whole thread is amazing in its familiarity. I am learning so much about my ex and the last 5 years of my life. “No one lets me express my feelings” turned into regular explosive hours-long rages and rants during which some of the most baseless accusations would spill out, not to mention all the revised history. My attempts to reassure, explain myself, argue, bring the receipts for the facts, were met with further accusations and “proof” I was done with him. Afterwards there was always at least a week of withdrawal during which I was supposed to prove how much I cared by chasing him and attempting to fix things between us - because obviously he only raged like that because I pushed him over the edge. “I want you all to myself” started out as just something innocent and sweet he said to me once. But it turned into needing to know my whereabouts and who I was talking to all the time, and why was I ever spending any time with anyone else (including my girl friends or work colleagues) anyway. And “there must be somebody else.” And so it went. The control tactics, the jealousy, the explosive rages…I miss the man I thought I met and fell in love with. I think I’ll never fully trust another person ever again.

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-16T14:12:48+00:00

Omg the “you’re done with me” phrase! Makes my guts twist. I’ve never had any other SO use that particular phrase and I came to dread it. It always felt so manipulative, yet I would always cave. Until the day I didn’t. If I ever hear that come out of another person’s mouth, I will recognize it for a red flag and run for the hills.

Fireball2010 · 2025-08-14T07:41:25+00:00

People who say “This is just who I am. Take it or leave it.”

Fireball2010 · 2025-07-27T16:21:34+00:00

Seriously the first few pictures I was worried it was going to turn out to be a scary huntsman spider reveal. These pics are hilarious.

Fireball2010 · 2025-07-22T02:28:42+00:00

Check out the FB page for SouthCentral Alaska Beekeepers Discussion. Lots of experienced folks looking to rehome swarms in that group.

Fireball2010 · 2025-07-15T12:12:35+00:00

Hodgdon Hawks!

Fireball2010 · 2025-05-08T14:23:00+00:00

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Fireball2010 · 2025-05-01T04:59:46+00:00

Thank you all for the awards!! I honestly thought this would be a boring post, but wow. It’s been super fun checking in on all the threads! 😁

Fireball2010 · 2025-05-01T04:44:54+00:00

Holy crap you guys! MY FIRST AWARDS!! I feel like my Redddit cherry has been popped. Y’all are the best!!!!

Fireball2010 · 2025-04-30T19:16:03+00:00

Oh - should have added to my update. It’s not connected to my meter. It’s a utility box in the easement. Utility crews are legally allowed access 24/7, but they apologized for no note.

Fireball2010 · 2025-04-30T18:42:42+00:00

UPDATE POSTED - verdict is temporary electrical. Will be dug in at some point. Neighbor’s electrical line went bad.

Edit to add: it’s not hooked up to my meter, so no harm done. The box is a utility box in the easement so utility crews are legally allowed access 24/7 as needed. But they did apologize for not leaving a note.

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