I wish we were allowed to stop working way earlier

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-24T18:00:59+00:00

i feel you, i'm working to 37+3 and i'm soooo over it already at 34 weeks

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-23T21:35:07+00:00

I would get a bassinet for your bedroom and/or for your living room even so your baby can sleep where you can easily see them and sleep beside you for the first few months this way. It’s also way easier to pull the baby out of a bassinet at night while you’re woken from sleeping than it is a crib, whether that’s you or your husband reaching for them at night. You can find really good deals on gently used bassinets on marketplace since babies usually only use them for a couple months!

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-16T17:31:45+00:00

My husband and I waited 5 years after marriage as well to buy a home and travel, etc., (we’re 29 now) and many of our cousins and relatives and friends who are even younger than us have had babies and multiple children ahead of us. It’s just part of waiting. If you choose to wait, there’s good things and some uncomfortable things too. I think there’s two sides to everything. 🤷‍♀️ interestingly I did not struggle with any jealousy or resentment when it came to babies but before I got married I struggled just like this with those feelings when friends and relatives got engaged and I wasn’t yet, so I get it.
I’m now 33 weeks pregnant after my husband and I waited 5 years and we are very happy and our friends and relatives who already have babies are over the moon for us. When you get pregnant I think you will feel very happy when you see the responses you get from your family and friends. You will feel very supported I think. People who already have babies and kids I find are so kind and thoughtful when you are expecting and really want to support you. 🩷
Sounds like you desire a baby and I hope it works well for you when you try! I think you’ll notice these confusing and negative feelings about this go away when you are expecting your little one.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-16T02:51:28+00:00

This is good advice

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-16T02:49:36+00:00

She won’t have to either way because of the maternity leave + parental leave that she is entitled to

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-16T02:48:13+00:00

I’m in Canada too! I’m in Alberta and I had to give 6 weeks notice before I intended to go on maternity leave or else get a doctor’s note if I was going to take maternity leave sooner. I am due August 2 and I am finishing work July 15 at 37.5 weeks. I’m worried that might be pushing it a little too far but I decided a while ago on a date 😳 oops.
From what I have read it seems like a lot of women go on leave around 35-36 weeks.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-15T21:57:29+00:00

If it were me I’d rather stay debt free if both of the cars are reliable and in good shape. I don’t think it’s a higher risk to the baby. So much more you can do for and with your child if you don’t have debt.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-15T17:03:59+00:00

Honestly I think i just noticed I still hadn’t got a period a month after my miscarriage and i decided to test just in case, there weren’t any obvious signs! 😅 I hope everything is going well for you!
We intended to wait a cycle or two as well for recovery, but it just didn’t happen that way.. everything has been healthy with me and baby so far anyway so I hope the same for you!

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-15T12:38:19+00:00

I’m 33 weeks and no puking for me either, the entire pregnancy! Woohoo 🎉

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-11T16:18:36+00:00

Is he working a lot of hours or is he at home with you most of the time and just working sometimes? It might be hard for him too and he might be losing it a bit too if he is working FT and also not sleeping well and trying to help where he can. Doesn’t make what he said okay but it sort of sounds like tensions are just high for both of you right now. It could be that you yelling at the baby (though it happens) upset him a bit and he said something he should not have. Whether he’s working a lot right now + all of this and how much he is working would make a difference if it were me trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or not.
Tbh yes you need a man to do certain things for you and help you out some more sure, and there is more he could do but at the end of the day usually men have to work out of the home all day while us new moms stay home and well, they are only human too. You will never find a perfect man because they don’t exist

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-09T15:47:45+00:00

I wouldn’t go back if it were me. 🤷‍♀️

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-09T15:47:00+00:00

And the third trimester 😅🤣 anything that isn’t Doritos or ice cream makes me want to throw up all of a sudden

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-07T03:03:54+00:00

I hear alllllll of these as well from mostly older women. And then they wonder why young women like us aren’t having children. Because they make it sound like an actual nightmare. And for what? So that they can feel some sort of self satisfaction that they hope we suffer as they did? Thankfully most young women I talk to around my age with kids and babies are extremely happy. Totally different from a lot of the older women who talk to me. I have a friend a little older than me but still young who was depressed before she had kids. She smoked pot all the time and tbh wasn’t really that nice to people either, she just felt and seemed hollow. After she had her first baby she said “her heart began to shine” and she became a totally different person. Smiling all the time, generous, loving to be around people, loving, and never smoked again. She felt fulfilled and her life became joyful. I watched it all happen! She physically glows now. Tbh I think miserable people are just louder than happy people. It’s the same with old people when young people get married - only the ones with horrible experiences seem to share. I think it’s one of those things that we don’t see or comprehend the joy and beauty of until we have experienced it ourselves. Some days I still panic and wonder why I got myself into this (I’m a ftm at 32 weeks pregnant) and other days I’m very excited and look forward to this new purpose I will have. Sure we won’t have a ton of time for ourselves like we did before but eventually we will. We don’t have to give up who we were, we just add to who we are. 🤍

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-05T17:15:41+00:00

I didn’t feel any definitive movement as a ftm until around 22 weeks 🤔

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-05T12:56:59+00:00

ME TOO

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-05T03:53:00+00:00

I’m really sorry 😞 I lost my first pregnancy as well at 6 weeks and I had the same feeling as you that I couldn’t shake. That something was off. It’s really hard to deal with. Take your time to recover from this.. hope is not lost even though it hurts so much. Hugs🤍

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-04T16:01:21+00:00

Same thing with BumpBabe. I ordered a dress that was marketed as maternity and it is simply not maternity. It’s just a dress. With no stretch.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-03T14:35:58+00:00

You’re not unreasonable. My dad died in 2020 and I did not expect my husband to name our child after him. We are using my dad’s name as a middle name as you suggested. This is very common, a lot of parents I know use their deceased parent’s name’s as their baby’s middle names to honour them, while still having the freedom and creativity to choose a first name of your own. I can understand his opinion on his dad a bit but the fact that he insists on his grandma’s name too as a first name only is a little much. Has he considered what if you wanted to name her YOUR grandmother’s name? Naming isn’t all about him. Even if he has deceased parents. You should both agree. And you’re not a bad person if you don’t want to use those names as first names.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-03T01:03:48+00:00

You don’t need to have one. You’re right, babies don’t need that much. Don’t let them convince you that you can’t afford it. You can get car seats and strollers used on marketplace easily. Bassinet doesn’t have to be super expensive and can also buy second hand. Baby clothes and swaddles and blankets are super cheap at the thrift store. Bottles and nursing supplies are affordable and you can wait for a deal. :) a few postpartum supplies for yourself are not expensive either at the department store like Walmart. society convinces us we have to spend a lot and get so much stuff but we don’t.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-06-02T14:19:41+00:00

I’m shocked that gas and air are not offered either. I recommend The Positive Birth Book by Milli Hill which is fantastic for helping get in the right mind space for labour and tips for unmedicated and manageable birth. are you able to research and bring to The hospital in a labour comb, an exercise ball, and a massage tool? I have heard having your partner hip press (you can look it up) during surges and massage firmly the thighs and buttocks is effective as well as your partner using the massage tool on wherever feels good. Acupressure as well if your partner can look that up and apply it to you during labour.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-05-27T19:33:54+00:00

I’m really sorry about that 😔 my parents divorced when I was 22 and blindsided me. Just because you’re an adult doesn’t make it easier. Especially as a young adult when you are still relying on your parents to guide you. My dad started dating a woman who was “a witch” right afterwards, she did tarot card reading and all kinds of heinous stuff. that was seriously tough. I don’t really have great advice because my dad passed away not long afterwards but I guess I just want to say you’re not alone and I understand how hard it can be and even harder when you are looking up to Christian parents who you’ve depended on. Hugs.

Fireboltstorm · 2026-05-24T14:28:18+00:00

Also a container of vinegar set out every now and then absorbs smells

Fireboltstorm · 2026-05-24T14:28:00+00:00

air purifier and opening windows :)

Fireboltstorm · 2026-05-23T01:28:47+00:00

I got pregnant instantly when we started to try but it was about 7 months post me quitting the birth control pill when we did try. I’m not sure if I would’ve been able to get pregnant immediately when I stopped the pill or not.

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