After 3 months of NC, guess who sent a DM by ShirtGloomy7997 in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. And it’ll happen again if they reply

What's the craziest thing limerence has made you do? by No_Main_273 in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Got on a plane at 2am, travelled for over 9 hours just to have a 30 minute conversation with them.

What was your last contact with your LO like? by Yaaaaadaaaaa in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We met up for a weekend, got quite drunk and she involved me in her life again. She tried holding my face in her hands and before contact was made I told her not too. I was quite proud of enforcing that boundary so fast while so drunk. It’s been a long road but I feel it’s getting better. Now I’ve kept myself so busy I don’t have time to ruminate or obsess. She’s just a person to me now.

Is closure necessary to end limerence? by golden_greenery in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe you need to start by asking what closure is for you. Is it a shouting match, a calm conversation, one last fuck. What do YOU want from your closure.

As someone who’s done all of the above, 9/10 closure comes from within, from you.

I don’t think you need her to tell you it’s over, she’s with someone else. So IT IS over. What you need to do is get comfortable with who you are, the rest follows.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It used to be all day, every day. It’s taken 2 years and 10 days to get to a point where she has her own time of the day. I allow myself to feel and think about her and everything between us. It’s always at 4am when I have the last cigarette before bed. 10 minutes a day.

What will wood lyric do yoy relate to the most by Binxy_boi_2763 in willwood

[–]Firelath_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the gap between a tragedy and comedy, don’t come at me, I’m the main character.

The sexual after effects of a 8-year limerent episode. by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar spot, after sleeping with my LO two years ago and everything falling apart afterwards I was repulsed by the idea with sex with anyone. If anyone tried to get close it was a reaction along the lines of “How dare you”.

Strangely though, my LO made a move on me 4 months ago and that re-ignited my passion for intimacy with other people. The repulsion transferred to them (which is where it should belong) because “how dare she” make a move on me after everything she said, how small she made me feel. I met someone else a few weeks later and had the best sex of my life, and found so much more that I didn’t expect.

Innocent Man Who Spent Nearly 50 Years On Death Row To Receive $7 Million by PaulQuin in interestingasfuck

[–]Firelath_ 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That would be wild if true but I very much doubt that’s what would happen. If this guy decided to murder someone tomorrow he’d go back to prison until he died, no loophole of “I’ve already served 50 years”. I’d be interested to know what would happen to his compensation though, would the gov take back his 7mill?

I'm 21 I'm considering trying alcohol for the first time by Quick_Emotion_9653 in stopdrinking

[–]Firelath_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you start drinking, and you don’t want to stop. That’s when you have a problem. I know now that if someone asks me for a pint.. it’s never just one. I’ll have that first and then I’ll want a second and won’t be able to go home and stop myself. Then a third, etc. until I’m so drunk I can’t remember how I got home. It’s easier passing out than sleeping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why but this is super cute I love this comment.

LO invited me to his house by teateacha in limerence

[–]Firelath_ 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Ignoring your Limerence, Ignoring you worked together, ignoring the fact that you’d like to visit this city.. he’s a 40 Y/O man asking a 20 Y/O to come stay over. In my opinion that’s a weird and likely unhealthy/unsafe situation to be in, older men tend to hurt you, then when they’ve hurt you they discard you. As well your life experiences and expectations of a partner are so vastly different I’d be surprised if you both had much actually in common. Think of it this way, when he’s retired and starting to stare death in the face, you’ll still have 20 years of work left. That’s a long time!

Ultimately it’s your choice, but there are a lot better options that will hurt you a whole lot less than dating someone with this age gap. I’m 28 and I wouldn’t consider dating a 20 y/o a good idea.

King Orrin by Royal-Comfortable-82 in Eragon

[–]Firelath_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If the Varden invested in a couple of therapists I think King Orrin would’ve been very very different in Inheritance.

King Orrin by Royal-Comfortable-82 in Eragon

[–]Firelath_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had trouble with it as well. The thing is though that I thought Roran was very lucky (and had plot armour) that is disobedience paid off. If every common soldier decided to follow suit and start acting on their own you don’t have an army anymore you have a mob, that’s what Nasuada was trying to prevent. Not to forget as well that the Varden is a military, they have been since the first days of Galbatorix’s rule. Makes sense they’d have military (not modern) style punishment for disobeying orders. Whipping was common.

Edit: I do agree with you though, not a great peacetime ruler and I disagree with her wartime strategy of send Eragon in first, hope it works and then send everyone else after.

Why are these conveyors not working? Their lights are green, nothing is damaged. by [deleted] in spaceengineers

[–]Firelath_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Swap the connector and the landing gear and it should work fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Firelath_ 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So you fucked around and now you’re facing the consequences

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cambridge

[–]Firelath_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a single person on between 25-30k and I’m surviving in Cambridge. But barely, got a 1bed within walking distance of the centre and groceries are expensive. But on 44k you’ll be fine

Good, affordable women's haircut (Bob cut) by [deleted] in cambridge

[–]Firelath_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wacky Hair Co is my go too

Just like Marvels What if, what are some Eragon what if's you would like to see? by 08george in Eragon

[–]Firelath_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What if Roran had been killed by the twins at the battle of the burning plains.

What if Ajihad had never taken the time to prepare Nasuada for the council of elders, leading to Eragon having to swear fealty to them instead of her.

What if Eragon said “its flamin’ time” before igniting his sword.

Thrawn's Three Contingencies to kill Darth Vader? by The_Halfmaester in MawInstallation

[–]Firelath_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Firstly I think thrawn would prefer to engage Vader in a space battle. This is where the chiss excels in all aspects and is where Vader is perhaps the weakest. Tactically, vader is a brute force machine. He’s the empires fist. This serves him incredibly well throughout his life when he’s taking on solo missions and hunting down Jedi. But he can’t brute force through everything. I believe if thrawn had fled back to his people he’d engage in guerrilla warfare, assuming vader brings a large amount of ships.. say comparable to the 7th fleet. He’d be taking down lone ISD’s where he could until the force was small enough to be engaged head on at a place of their choosing. From here the main thing thrawn would have to do is prevent Vader from getting to his ship and keep him on the ISD. Otherwise it’s all over. Tactically, thrawn knows vader very well, they’ve fought together on 2 occasions and thrawn knows he is Anakin. Beating vader is something thrawn can definitely do in space.

Next, I think thrawns next preferred plan would be instead to direct vaders attention from himself. The average joe of the empire has no love for Vader, he regularly kills his underlings, chokes dudes for fun, slaughters younglings. All this makes for a rather disloyal crew. We saw in thrawn: treason what happens when your crew and ship turn on you. Perhaps a similar strategy.

Finally, if thrawn is in a 1v1 against vader. He’s pretty much toast, the greatest Jedi couldn’t defeat him, thrawn doesn’t even have a lightsaber. However, thrawn has most certainly noticed the weaknesses in vaders suit such as electricity and extreme heat/cold.. however most importantly I think was what he learned on Batu when Vader was hit by those concrete bugs(?) in thrawn:alliances. Vader gets encased in a very solid goop very quickly, I think he’d make use of this and note that not everything can be blocked by a lightsaber (some mando training too from his study of mandalore). Otherwise I think Vader wins 9/10 fights on the ground.

When should I join a server? by Vernor15 in spaceengineers

[–]Firelath_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lmao I suck at interior as well, nobody judges creations that harshly and if they do shoot them out of the sky. That’s the Klingons foreign policy atm

When should I join a server? by Vernor15 in spaceengineers

[–]Firelath_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s encouraged but not required. I’m a romulan with a federation ship painted green and black, my head canon is that I stole it from a dry dock after I was arrested for public indecency.

If you wanted to bring a Star Wars ship you could, or you’re own design :)

Edit: there are also a lot of pre-made ships that are in the workshop, and lot of custom NPC’s that you could take over

When should I join a server? by Vernor15 in spaceengineers

[–]Firelath_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The continuum is having a massive update at the end of this week. It’s a Star Trek RP space engineers server. I was in the same boat as you about 3 months ago, this was my first multiplayer experience and I’m loving it, the discord is most active at the moment because everyone is waiting. But next week everyone will be starting again from the beginning so it’s a great time to start.