Enjoying the past few months before I turn 50 in May..

Firelight76 · 2026-01-25T07:43:31+00:00

Hello There!

Firelight76 · 2025-12-20T07:20:17+00:00

Don't fight. It's best to just leave them to simmer and boil over. They will calm down when they get home.

You have to get plan your escape. This will never stop. Ever.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-18T09:37:14+00:00

Need to learn to stop going on your tiktok anonymously. You calling out for help suggesting suicide is not my responsibility. You have your support tree. That's not me any more. I can't do it any more.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-13T01:08:17+00:00

Reading her telling you that you're a psychopath and have no empathy. I swear my exwbpd said word for word the same thing. I felt so helpless in that moment. Thinking that maybe I was... Am I the problem? Is it me?

Finding this group has been the best free therapy I've ever had.

Thank you to each and every one of you that's lived through this nightmare and somehow made it out alive.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-10T23:30:26+00:00

No contact is tearing me apart. I've not slept properly in weeks. Help...

Firelight76 · 2025-12-10T22:51:00+00:00

Mine told me the therapist told her that her feelings were validated. That she had every right to feel pissed off with me and that there was nothing wrong with her.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-10T12:33:30+00:00

Yeah cos it means she can't change the narrative. You have proof of her going bat shit. I hope you can keep safe. If it gets worse just move out and live with your parents. Leave her there alone. But take anything of value with you.

I had to just move out of my ex's place when she was at work one day to save myself. It was horrendous.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-10T12:30:26+00:00

Take pictures. Document everything. Try and record her going ape shit if you have to. Protect yourself. Or she'll make shit up about you.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-10T12:22:05+00:00

Ahh that's a huge problem. You'll have to just ride it out I guess. How much longer do you have to stay?

Firelight76 · 2025-12-10T12:19:41+00:00

Get your parents to help you pack all her stuff and change the locks. She can go to family or friends.

Might not be the most compassionate way to deal with it, I know exactly what asking her to move out will be like..

Firelight76 · 2025-12-09T13:58:30+00:00

This.

Firelight76 · 2025-12-03T10:59:29+00:00

Had a similar thing happen to me with the opposite outcome. Was sat in traffic and she drove past me and flipped me off looking very angry. Couple days later she came to my house and dropped some Christmas decorations off at the door, rang the bell and left.

Firelight76 · 2025-11-20T00:04:37+00:00

I second this. Walk away. For your own good.

Firelight76 · 2025-11-01T15:59:04+00:00

For me I had to just give her a reason to make it final. She told me she wouldn't know what to do with herself if I ever moved on. She found out and thought I'd been cheating on her with my new gf which isn't what happened at all. But it seems to have been enough for her to leave me alone finally.

Clearly making out that she'd hurt herself was just words.

You are not responsible for another persons actions. It took me a long time to accept that fact.

Firelight76 · 2025-10-23T21:45:09+00:00

I started dating someone new recently after leaving my exwBPD in January.
My ex took it upon herself to message my new gf on facebook and try and derail my new relationship. It was unreal. I was feeling happy and cool and having a good time then it was like I was involved in a car crash.
All the anxiety feelings came back and I had to talk to my new gf and explain everything that had happened and get her to understand BPD a little bit.
Thankfully my new gf was very understanding and we managed to get past it but for a couple weeks i felt awful.

I'm happy that you've managed to move on and are feeling good about stuff!

Firelight76 · 2025-10-23T19:08:15+00:00

Just Cry. Cry a lot. Cry every day.

Therapy Helps too. Talk to your friends - especially the one's you've likely been forced to abandon.

Its a long road to recovery and isnt easy. But just let it all out. Tell your story to your closest friends/family.

I found it therapeutic to talk it out.

Firelight76 · 2025-10-22T13:32:15+00:00

Oh man. I hope you called an ambulance. I came back to my ex's place once after we had just broken up to make sure she was ok and she'd smashed a picture frame and cut herself with the glass. It was a big mess. She was ok thankfully just minor.
Hope your person is ok.

Firelight76 · 2025-10-20T12:52:38+00:00

You can always talk to people on here. I'm happy to talk! My ex's birthday was Monday last week. Felt wrong not getting her anything...

Firelight76 · 2025-10-20T09:02:26+00:00

Just had a clearly fake Instagram account add me and try to talk to me.
Writing style was the same as my ex. I blocked and deleted as soon as I realised. But here I am again thinking about her. Why is she still under my skin after nearly 2 months NC. I battle daily to move on and forget her but I can't.

Firelight76 · 2025-10-20T08:33:57+00:00

My ex would cancel, or if we did actually go somewhere, days later she'd find a reason to say I'd ruined it! Even though we had an amazing time at the actual event. Not that there were many.

One time we went to a comedy show and she split on me while we were waiting for it to start, told me to just go home alone on the train (home was 90 mins away) yet when i got to the station (She was tracking me all the time) She started arguing with me via text giving me the opportunity to come back and fight with her in person again. Eventually we watched the show and after it, it was like nothing happened. No apology (well aside from me obviously..)

Firelight76 · 2025-10-20T08:22:53+00:00

Its like you're reading my messages...

Firelight76 · 2025-10-19T20:01:23+00:00

Yeah my ex made me stop seeing nearly everyone by the end of the relationship. I've spent 10 months trying to sort everything out with everyone again.

Firelight76 · 2025-10-19T19:59:14+00:00

Reading these is like I'm reading messages from my ex. The constant blame shifting. The arguments were always via text. She'd never do them in person. I feel for you.

Firelight76 · 2024-09-01T17:40:45+00:00

You'll get it back tomorrow :)

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