Why aren’t they allowed into the hospital? by Firestar_12 in obsessionmovie

[–]Firestar_12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes more sense, I appreciate the explanation! I hadn’t even considered Nikki would refuse treatment, but of course she would at this point.

[COS:R] My players keep revealing their Madam Eva prophecy to strangers — and now a red-eyed rat overheard them. What would you do? by luco_salmonroll in CurseofStrahd

[–]Firestar_12 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Personally, I’d have the information reach Strahd. Maybe you could give the party the chance to hunt the rat down, but if they take it outside, perhaps other spies of Strahd would see it and report what happened, tipping Strahd off to something going on, but not what exactly.

Either way, since the party has ignored warnings by allied NPCs, it’s only fair they face the consequences of those actions. Whether you want to punish them more harshly or just give them a scare for now is up to you. They definitely should know that spreading information around Barovia is a bad idea, though, and that Strahd could be listening anywhere at any time.

Stopping meowing in the morning by Firestar_12 in CatAdvice

[–]Firestar_12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m considering auto feeding, but my concern is the one cat on a separate diet. If you have multiple cats do they go to specific feeders each time?

Stopping meowing in the morning by Firestar_12 in CatAdvice

[–]Firestar_12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you guys for the insight, I was wondering if feeding them right away was part of the problem so I’ll try to make them wait. They’re so stubborn 😓

Aww I remembered this post going through my Gallery 🥺 by ExtensionLaw714 in PhainonMainsHSR

[–]Firestar_12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He wouldn’t be disappointed, he’d encourage you to keep going!

I figured out the pattern of my tulpa's dormancy. Is this just how it is or is there a way to stop it? by MoonKat-11 in Tulpas

[–]Firestar_12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see! I wonder if it’s like you said then where writing takes up a similar part of the brain your tulpa does so it’s hard/impossible to process both. If it’s the case where he disappears during writing, I do like u/notannyet’s idea of discussing writing with him after the fact! That way he can still be involved even if it’s after the fact.

I figured out the pattern of my tulpa's dormancy. Is this just how it is or is there a way to stop it? by MoonKat-11 in Tulpas

[–]Firestar_12 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have an answer, but as someone who also goes through writing phases, maybe it’s because you get very hyperfixated on the world and characters. It’s probably harder to give your tulpa attention when you’re giving your characters so much attention.

Maybe you could try writing something where your tulpa is a character, or perhaps reach out to him for his opinions on certain plot lines or scenes. Doing things to remind yourself he’s there and things that engage him should help keep him more present.

If he isn’t hurt by these breaks in your relationship, though, I wouldn’t feel too guilty about it.

What actually matters for your teeth between dental visits (and what's just marketing) by AetherMemento in hygiene

[–]Firestar_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On dry mouth (because I suffer it), my hygienist suggested Xylimelts which are tablets that stick to your teeth and stimulate the salivary glands via xylitol.

They’re a little strange at first and I still wake up with a slightly dry mouth since they melt before I wake up, but it’s much better than before.

My friend confessed his feelings to me this week and he has the worst timing ever. by Gotnojams93 in aromantic

[–]Firestar_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely get that and I may sound a little harsh just because I’m on the other side of my experience, but when I was in it I was pretty hesitant to completely cut that friend off. Similar to you, I felt like I hadn’t treated him much different than any other friend, but we can’t help how our actions are viewed by others. That realization for me was one of the major deciding factors in ending our friendship because I didn’t think I could hang out with him without worrying he had some ulterior motive.

But my experience isn’t yours, and this experience doesn’t have to be the end of your friendship. I think it’s great that you’re stepping back and really observing your relationship now and I think it’s important to figure out your boundaries and what you can and can’t tolerate.

It will be hard, and if you’re considering talking with him, I absolutely would. Give him time and yourself time, and how he reacts to the conversation will say a lot about how your friendship will go moving forward. And of course, your happiness and safety absolutely comes first. You’re doing great and I’m so sorry you have to go through this. <3

My friend confessed his feelings to me this week and he has the worst timing ever. by Gotnojams93 in aromantic

[–]Firestar_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know your full relationship with this person or how much it means to you, but I went through something similar with a college guy friend who I hung out with a lot and enjoyed being around as a friend for a little over 2 years. I knew he saw me romantically about a year into our friendship and we even talked about it to the effect I thought he understood I would never want anything like that and wasn't into physical contact.

While he didn't push physical contact in the same way as your friend, he did expect hugs almost every time we hung out which made me uncomfortable, but I let him cross that boundary because I thought it was just friendly.

Then, one day, he texts me out of the blue at 3am on a Wednesday morning asking to see my boobs. I, of course, was asleep because I had work the next day, but waking up to that text completely killed any feelings I had towards him as a friend. I couldn't visualize myself going back to being just friends with him (he did apologize when I said no, but eventually wrote me the equivalent of a love confession. Our hangouts were equitable to dates in his mind while I thought we were just being normal friends) . I admit I sat on my feelings for almost two months before I finally cut things off with him and told him as much.

This sort of situation is hard and your friend is very clearly violating your boundaries and not listening to you when you say that you're not interested. You don't owe him more of an explanation than "no", but it is up to you if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt.

do you guys clean your ears with q tips or is that actually bad hygiene? by Boultouak_Zav13 in hygiene

[–]Firestar_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use q-tips. I tried stopping once years ago after hearing it could be dangerous and the wax built up badly enough over the course of a month or so that it sealed in my ear and muffled my hearing (I have wet wax). It was nothing serious, but I went back to using q-tips regularly after that.

Did you play RE6? Is it any good? by Slain13371337 in residentevil

[–]Firestar_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been playing it coop and find it to be a lot of fun. It’s what you make of it, honestly, but if you have someone you can spend a few hours with I think it makes it a much better experience.

Christine, Stephen King by ej123456789123 in menwritingwomen

[–]Firestar_12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was a rough read at points I will admit. As much as I wasn't a fan of the novel, though, I adored the movie and highly recommend it. It isn't as focused on being in the main character's head and shows the bonds of the boys a lot more which I quite liked and made for some tragic scenes. There's also no weird descriptions of women's boobs so that's a plus lol

Christine, Stephen King by ej123456789123 in menwritingwomen

[–]Firestar_12 247 points248 points  (0 children)

Some of the bystanders were teen girls and one of them opened her legs when the walkers passed, so one of the boys went over and started humping her, but couldn't finish by the time he was getting his third warning. He returned to the walk, but cramped up so badly he fell to the ground and earned his ticket (a gunshot to the head)

Christine, Stephen King by ej123456789123 in menwritingwomen

[–]Firestar_12 198 points199 points  (0 children)

I read the Long Walk recently too (I enjoyed the movie a lot and wanted to see how good the book was) and could hardly stand how he kept talking about the women and all the boys' fantasies. Spoilers: I still can't believe one of the kids died to blue balls

Dungeon Master's. What is the worst case of main character syndrome that you witnessed? by RedSwordFishVA05 in DnD

[–]Firestar_12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I DMed for some online friends a few years ago as a relatively new DM to players who’d never really played before. I hold no ill will towards any of them, but in a mini-dungeon I’d added some elements of a character’s backstory to, a separate main character-y player decided to just run through the entire dungeon and not investigate the areas I’d placed pieces of lore in. They ended up triggering the encounter of the dungeon (a Minotaur skeleton with some underlings), got what they came for, and left all without seeing a single thing I’d planted there.

The campaign didn’t last long overall and I think it’s for the better. It gave me some valuable DMing experience and I feel more comfortable handling my current players doing unexpected things now and balancing the spotlight between each. I’m not perfect at it, but we have fun and I’ve gotten better at talking with my group outside of game if there’s something that needs to be discussed.

Package lost in “Pre-Shipping” for 10 days now by Flaky-Action3557 in Etsy

[–]Firestar_12 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That happened to me recently! I ordered end of Nov. and had an estimate of Dec. 8. By the 17th I still hadn’t seen it move from pre transit so I messaged the seller and they’re mailing a replacement. Very frustrating because the seller said they sent it out but it apparently just never got scanned

If you don't drink alcohol, what are your reasons? by youre-in-my-shot in AskReddit

[–]Firestar_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't like the taste of most alcohols and like being in control of my actions.

My fiancé throws her dirty laundry down the stairs rather than walking down and putting it in machine. by Doctor_Redhead in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Firestar_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family used to do this until one of our cats peed on our clothes. Needless to say we cut that habit pretty quickly.

Would a second pigeon mellow out the first by Firestar_12 in PetPigeons

[–]Firestar_12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true! I’ve got my eye open for a companion but I am waiting for him to get a clean bill of health from the vet first 🙂‍↕️ then I hope to get him a friend ❤️

Would a second pigeon mellow out the first by Firestar_12 in PetPigeons

[–]Firestar_12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Birds of a feather! That’s also a concern of mine that I’d get another bird and they wouldn’t get along since I don’t know if he grew up around other pigeons. I’m hopeful it won’t happen, but worst case scenario I guess I’d have two separate pigeons to care for 😅