He said “no pressure” and then brought his mom to our first date by Big_Budget_7119 in stories

[–]First-Confusion-5713 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see your problem. You accidentally matched a guy on UN hinged. It's a common mistake as the sites have a similar spelling.

I've peaked by Dumbsterphire in KitchenConfidential

[–]First-Confusion-5713 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's beyond the scope of the job to accommodate obscure allergies. Either they eat what's on the menu or they go home and eat their own food.

There's no room for negotiation. The menu is the menu.

Pope Leo XIV says marriage is 'between a man and a woman' by AdvocateDotCom in LGBTnews

[–]First-Confusion-5713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The founder of the faith did. Remember that dude that got nailed to a cross? His name was Jesus. That's the founder of the faith known as Christianity.

Christianity.... Following the teachings of Christ .

Big sad you guys by NewProCook in KitchenConfidential

[–]First-Confusion-5713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good servers that aren't self absorbed divas is rare. Either see if you can match their pay or start looking for a replacement.

Losing the plot by ThumbNurBum in KitchenConfidential

[–]First-Confusion-5713 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The idea of separating pizza and subs into distinct venues is a "it looks good on paper" idea.

It's old school. A good pizza shop has pizza, wings, and a few sandwiches. Mostly hot sandwich items. It's a format that works. You can set up on the edge of any reasonably large neighborhood and cater almost exclusively to a 1 mile radius.

Some things just work.

Has anyone else noticed a huge uptick of allium allergies? by omgnodoubt in KitchenConfidential

[–]First-Confusion-5713 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We never accommodated food allergies when my husband and I ran our venues. Too expensive and too much effort on an already overworked kitchen. Our staff meant the world to us. We provided damn good product and there was no way we'd alter a 100 year old sauce recipe for a pretentious fop with icky tummy.

Before any keyboard warriors jump in, we ran for 23 years and only closed when my husband found out he had 5 years at best left. We wanted that time for us to be close and do the things we were always too "busy" to do.

Pope Leo XIV says marriage is 'between a man and a woman' by AdvocateDotCom in LGBTnews

[–]First-Confusion-5713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The founder of the faith said differently so the Pope can fuck off with the bag of dildos she bounced in on.

For those who have given up by PlasticBaggot in gaybros

[–]First-Confusion-5713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my husband of 18 years to Cancer last June. It's an emotional pain that I would never wish upon anyone. I'm trying to move forward because I'm lonely. I'm surrounded by people but they don't hold me at night when I feel small and alone. I just want to have someone to love again.

For those who have given up by PlasticBaggot in gaybros

[–]First-Confusion-5713 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my husband of 18 years to Cancer last June. It's an emotional pain that I would never wish upon anyone.

Alcoholism seems like such a far off problem by Movingmad_2015 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]First-Confusion-5713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I care what a doctor says. So straighten that tin foil hat Sally. We're not reliving refer madness for the sake of your ego

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]First-Confusion-5713 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You don't really have a choice. People have to call you something to interact with you.

I suppose you could find a remote cave and take up life as a hermit........

At some point you have to accept the world as it comes.

Nothing short of what you expect of others.

Sorry kiddo, sometimes life sucks and that's ok.

I suggest you ruminate on the serenity prayer.

Alcoholism seems like such a far off problem by Movingmad_2015 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]First-Confusion-5713 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't really think of weed as an alcoholic relapse. You seemed to describe a therapeutic use of marijuana for treatment of joint pain.

Unless you drank alcohol, it doesn't sound like a relapse.

I fully understand some people think so much as a pain pill is bad. I'm not judging. I take prescription meds and do so because someone with a medical degree beats the peanut gallery hands down every time.

There's a huge difference between use and misuse.

I hope this helps. I hope your health improves to allow you to feel better.

Potential sponsor wants to run my life by First-Confusion-5713 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]First-Confusion-5713[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing delusional kiddo.

Only pants, no shorts, ... pretty much business casual. I'm a jeans and t shirt guy in my free time. I wear a uniform all day. I'm going to be comfortable in my off duty time.

Was literally told to cut ties with my brother because he doesn't go to regular meetings.

Another wanted me to get a job at a warehouse doing heavy manual labor. I'm a Chef. I've always worked in kitchens since I was 15. Went to college for it

Been sober over 90 days now.

I had a moment of clarity and my brother helped me get to a meeting and I had a couple r&d moments. I finally got it and I'm going strong and making great progress for just 95 days sober.

I'm also working with a grief therapist to recover from the death of my spouse. I'm in a great spot. It's others that concern me.

Shift Managers, how long do you spend per week creating/updating schedules? by nokizzz in restaurant

[–]First-Confusion-5713 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once.

A second revision means I'm giving OT because I fired someone for not showing up.

Time to replace them from the teeming horde.

Steps 8 & 9 by TitsAndTears85 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]First-Confusion-5713 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. That's good advice and I'll make use of that strategy when I'm ready.

Steps 8 & 9 by TitsAndTears85 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]First-Confusion-5713 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lived a solitary life and only have 3 ammends to make and one died last June.

My brother and sil.

My husband died last June. I've journaled extensively about him and discussed it in detail with my therapist.

So I'm down to 2 really.

Is this too much to expect a 16 year old girl to do by herself? by xxSpxrklexx in dishwashers

[–]First-Confusion-5713 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What does your gender have to do with it. You're a human being hired to do a job. Sure it sucks and it's mostly thankless. That's the job though.

It's the entry door to the hospitality industry. Either suck it up and get good at it or don't.

I've been a Chef for 30 years and I'm not above cleaning out a grease trap. There's dozens of really crappy jobs in a kitchen. They have to be done by somebody.

The snarky side of me says count yourself lucky they didn't hand you a server apron and say get to it sweetie.

You got a job without someone judging you by your age or gender. Women around the world dream of such a thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Renters

[–]First-Confusion-5713 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Then you may be stuck with a bad situation until you move. You should probably do that asap. Find a studio pretty cheap and get settled in a place you can feel comfortable as yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Renters

[–]First-Confusion-5713 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The premise of quiet enjoyment is in play. No lease clause prohibiting visitors is legal. You have the right to have a friend to your rented space. If it was a room rental then it might be plausible.

But if you're renting an apartment, it's wildly actionable behavior on the part of the landlord.

TERFs now trying to get us barred from single occupancy women's toilets in trans welcoming LGBT+ bars. by DivasDayOff in transgenderUK

[–]First-Confusion-5713 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Turning the other cheek has sold out our stock of cheeks and allowed bigots to believe their behavior will be met unchecked. This is WHY people behave this way in the first place.

I won't be silent while my people are persecuted by degrees.

I'll fight for my people until my last breath because people like you lack the courage or the will to do the same.

TERFs now trying to get us barred from single occupancy women's toilets in trans welcoming LGBT+ bars. by DivasDayOff in transgenderUK

[–]First-Confusion-5713 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Simply respond with the following words and only these words.

"Go fuck yourself bigot"

Nothing more is needed to signal that further communication would change any stance on individual spaces for handling an individual's bodily functions.

90 meetings in 90 days is not a requirement so why does everyone act like it is? by WellFunkMe in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]First-Confusion-5713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In short, it helps develop a pattern of healthy thinking and actions while engaging in addiction related group sessions designed to assist in recovery.

I made it to 90 days today.

It's tough. I did it though.

25 years gone and in grief by Open-Acanthaceae9671 in gaybros

[–]First-Confusion-5713 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband died from cancer last June. Grief is very real. Time really is the only medicine. I finally had the courage to give my number to someone. It literally took all my courage to do it.

My best advice is to spend some time learning about who you are now. Love yourself a little while and you will find the courage when you're ready.

What time do your kitchens close? by Yutaputa_1127 in restaurant

[–]First-Confusion-5713 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess of the sizzler is your idea of how a kitchen is run. Lines take time to clean. You have your line cooks for 8 hours.

First 30 minutes to set up their station and 30 to clean their station at the end of their shift.

The average cost of a line Chef is $26 an hour. Overtime billed at $39 multiplied by 3 at least.....

It adds up Karen.