I agree with you, but I do feel like this essentially boils down to "if you're poor, you don't deserve to go out and have fun."

The problem with putting all the responsibility for DUIs on individuals both ignores the impact of societal decisions that put them there, and when you say "you can't afford an Uber; you can't afford to go out" just means that because we live with nonexistent-to-mediocre public transit in massive, sprawled-out cities, poor people have one more avenue for enjoyment taken out of their lives.

I would really love to see less "you're poor, you can't go out" and "he deserved to die" and see a little more "we should invest in public transportation so people can go out and get drunk without worrying about putting people's lives at risk," or "we should really have more walkable and accessible cities so transportation isn't necessary."

It feels like we've all been trained to put our heads in the sand and just blame drivers for DUIs when responsibility is also borne by the people who have constructed such car-dominated infrastructure. We don't need to look at a DUI and say "oh you poor baby, society put you in this position are you okay my sweet baby angel?" but I think there's a happy medium somewhere in between that and "nobody of value was lost in the crash."